Soft play shit storm

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Name change for this... just because... but I promise I'm not a poo troll!

So met a friend at soft play for lunch today. Nearing the end of lunch almighty smell of shit. Turn around there is a lady behind us cleaning up her 3 year old nappy full of poo on the floor, a potty there and it's down his legs getting worse.

This is in the middle of the food area. There is a baby change less than 8 metres away.

So I stood up and said to her "do you mind this is disgusting people are eating"

Her reply;

"Don't be so damn judgy you dont know what's going on I didn't know it had poo in it"

(The kid had been waking around with a visibly full nappy for sometime whilst she ignored him)

Me "well it's disgusting there is a baby change here you shouldn't be doing it here"

Her

"Oh I suppose you're so damn perfect are you shaming people"

Me

"Well I wouldn't do this"

I turned around and ignored her at that point.

This is disgusting right or am I in a parallel universe?

I don't really care if I shamed her she should be ashamed. As my friend said if there was an outbreak of food poisoning from the cafe they'd get the blame! There was no reason to do that there. There was no staff around at this point.
No doubt someone will say I should have helped her but I've had two of my own and never had the need to change them in he middle of a cafe!
I think she was possibly the grandma rather than the mum couldn't really tell. I actually feel sick thinking about it still.

Urgh some people these days..I’m gonna go her house to change my bloody pad on the kitchen table

@cacklingmags oh FFS I’ve suffered from MH issues in the past, doesn’t mean you get to play the ‘mental illness card’

LOL!! People like that make me laugh ' you're so god damn perfect?' 'Err nope definitely not but was taught at a very young age that shit is dealt with in the bathroom....not the food hall' what a d*.

You didn't need to make this woman feel horrible.

100% agree @MotherFuckingLanguages
I suffer with MH now but know the difference between where poo is acceptable and isn't 😂😂

@Lou12124 I’m a teacher so I’m not allowed to shit on the students!

My dp would’ve literally puked rings round her or any of the supermarket shitters.

Yes take a potty for long car trips/parks or somewhere there isn’t an actual toilet at all. I can get the whole there’s physically no toilets near here at all cause we’re 50miles from a shop fishing/camping thing but if your in Asda or a soft play you’re disgusting.

It’s not you, it’s your child’s dignity, safety and welfare. You don’t know who’s in the supermarket and everyone has a camera now. Never mind what your plan is for the full potty. Poor children.

What if the older child was in the soft play and couldn’t see them?! FFS. When kids are desperate they’re desperate to go...

You did the right thing by calling her out. How on earth did she not smell the poo in the child's nappy. Most parents have a keen smell of when their offspring has planted a poo. And what on earth was she doing with a potty in the eating area. She is taking the current "entitlement" attitude too far.

What if the older child was in the soft play and couldn’t see them?! FFS. When kids are desperate they’re desperate to go...

there was a nappy... that's literally what they are for!

If there is a nappy change place then that’s where it should be done .

I was out for coffee once with a mum from school, I didn’t know her well but we’d had a few coffees.
First her toddler didn’t like the butter in her baguette so the mum sat and lucked bagetta and then took the ham out and licked that clean of butter before returning it to toddler.
A little while later she changed toddlers nappy right there in the middle of the high street cafe!
I was mortified, no poo thankfully but still - it wasn’t even a child centred venue, just a cafe. That was 19 years ago and it still haunts me!

YANBU I never changed mine or put a potty in a dinner area. Reminds me of when I saw a mum pull down her 4 year olds pants in a busy car park so he could take a dump - She left it where it dropped and walked off. Hope no one stepped in that

Some people have no manners.

I'm sick of this PC "shaming" rubbish, some people think that by using buzzwords it let's them off the hook.. well it don't.

YANBU.

Its disgusting. Absolutely no need for it. Whether its just a wee or a poo - there are specific places for it. This is how illness gets spread around. I would definitely call her out on it and get the staff to sanitize the area.

Hmmmm.
Yes it’s disgusting.
However, is she run off her feet and has her eyes on a couple of other kids, on her own, can’t go to the changing area cos it meant leaving the others and made a momentary lapse of parenting judgement (please don’t tell me you’ve never had a lapse) and then actually was having a horrendous day and your confrontation made it worse? Has she just finished four night shifts in a row? Is her mum dying? Has her rental property been put up for sale and she’s no idea where she’s going to live in a few months? Has her husband been cheating? Loads of millions of permutations that can make someone make a shit parenting decision.
I’m just trying to see it from all angles.

Not ideal but I would of been more concerned if she had not bothered changing the child tbh. You are pretty judgmental, get a grip, she will not be the first or last parent to do this.

@FrauHaribo yes the nappy is there to catch it but if she’s realised it needs changing and the child is uncomfortable then she’ll want to sort the child out. If she can’t find any other children she’ll want to sort it... not nice got others but best for the poor kid

Oh, get away, Popl, honestly! Some people tie themselves in knots coming up with the most ridiculous, convoluted, mythical scenarios to explain why unknown randoms do disgusting things.
Why?

I think we’ve all had to change nappies in awkward places BUT in a soft play with a readily available nappy changing unit nearby, it’s gross and in a food area. Yuck.

Wonder if she went to wash their hands after? 🤢

Mine was the child with permanent diarrhoea. Poonamis weren't an occasional issue they were several times a day every day. (Medical issues).

But at the first sign of anything I'd whisk him away to change him in an appropriate place. Which was never ever in public.

Poor child never went out without nappy, plastic pants and firmly wrapped in a blanket to contain anything!!

I was with a friend,a friend of a friend and the kids at a soft play once

The friend of my friend put her newborn dd on the table and changed a shitty nappy right next to our food!open dirty nappy,wipes where getting piled on top and nowhere to wash her hands

I walked out (while telling the staff on my way out)

She just couldn’t see how vile it was

Yanbu