Soft play shit storm

[JazzyBBG]

Name change for this... just because... but I promise I'm not a poo troll!

So met a friend at soft play for lunch today. Nearing the end of lunch almighty smell of shit. Turn around there is a lady behind us cleaning up her 3 year old nappy full of poo on the floor, a potty there and it's down his legs getting worse.

This is in the middle of the food area. There is a baby change less than 8 metres away.

So I stood up and said to her "do you mind this is disgusting people are eating"

Her reply;

"Don't be so damn judgy you dont know what's going on I didn't know it had poo in it"

(The kid had been waking around with a visibly full nappy for sometime whilst she ignored him)

Me "well it's disgusting there is a baby change here you shouldn't be doing it here"

Her

"Oh I suppose you're so damn perfect are you shaming people"

Me

"Well I wouldn't do this"

I turned around and ignored her at that point.

This is disgusting right or am I in a parallel universe?

I don't really care if I shamed her she should be ashamed. As my friend said if there was an outbreak of food poisoning from the cafe they'd get the blame! There was no reason to do that there. There was no staff around at this point.
No doubt someone will say I should have helped her but I've had two of my own and never had the need to change them in he middle of a cafe!
I think she was possibly the grandma rather than the mum couldn't really tell. I actually feel sick thinking about it still.

YANBU. Some people do utterly vile things when they think they can get away with it. Soft plays are the worst because they attract the kind of parents who like to just turn their back on what horrors the kids are getting up to. Nice people use them too, but they're the ones who are looking on in disgust as dad shoves little Johnny into the ball pool with his crisps and juice so that he can browse his phone in peace

To the pp who said someone had found the baby changing being too disgusting to use

• this has happened to me a couple of times. You still don't use an eating area though! I've done plenty in the pushchair, across my knees whilst tucked in a corner outside, or gone back to the car. Never next to someones lunch

I never hear good things about soft play centres. I wonder why anyone goes?

My DD works in one. Poor DD

That's gross. What is wrong with people?

@PookieDo she has my sympathies. Send

She misjudged what was appropriate but she probably already knew that, hence her snappy attitude, and I don't see what was achieved by you rubbing it in that she'd made a bad decision.

Changing any nappy was inappropriate and unless pulled up on it, she would possibly carry on changing nappies and letting a child use a potty in a cafe. From the sounds of things everything she did was a bad decision.

@pookiedo did you send that in to Chris and Rosie Ramsay's podcast this week? Identical story there!

Yes, it is gross.
If I'd been in your situation I would have moved tables and gone to find the staff to deal with it (probably wouldn't have continued eating).
I don't think I would have said anything to her. The fact we moved tables would have said it all, and no sense in creating even more shit.

Different perspective here. I think you were being unreasonable. You didn't need to snap at her. Bust softplays are stressful places, and she could have been on her own with multiple children, meaning having to round them all up for a quick nappy change. There could have been a que for the toilet. Yes, I would have been a bit less subtle about it if I were her, and wouldn't have done it in the middle of a food area. However, it's a softplay, not a fine dining restaurant. Using words like "disgusting" to someone you dont know is appalling behaviour. She had every right to clap back at you. I would have just moved. It's a bit of poo, get over it. Do your shits not stink?!!

*busy

A friend once did this with her kid in her dining room when she’d invited me round for dinner. I felt disgusted

@getmeacupoftea the soft play wasn't busy or stressful. There was no queue for the toilet. I was very polite to her but in truth it was disgusting. I have no qualms in saying that and could have said a lot worse.I hope it did embarrass her and that she doesn't do it again to be quite honest. I'm sorry if she was having a crap day or whatever, it happens to us all and she should know better. If you sat down at that table afterwards and your child got ill because that child had a stomach bug I'm sure you'd be just delighted.

This is disgusting. It’s on a par with changing a baby on a table in a cafe. Some parents are so inconsiderate. You were absolutely right to challenge her.

@getmeacupoftea

And yeah my shits do stink but I don't do them in cafes I'd probably be arrested. Stupid analogy.

@getmeacupoftea you too my darling you're just lovely and so right on, enjoy your gastroenteritis xx

@getmeacupoftea I have what you would class as multiple children but am perfectly capable of changing them in a designated changing facility without ever needing to use a cafe floor for either a potty or nappy change, let alone both in one go. If there was a queue for the changing room, then it really doesn’t matter when a child has a nappy on so she should have waited.

You ain't seen nothing til you've seen a grandad hold his grandaughter up by the knees in the middle of the playground so she can have a huge poo. I mean, he didn't even take her to the edge! And he wasn't going to clean it up until he saw my horrified face. He then whirled about helplessly until I gave him a nappy so he could try and clear up the worst of it.

Anyone incapable of rounding multiple children up and manoeuvring them out of a food area to change a nappy shouldn't be going out in public, FFS.

This is absolute basic level adulting.

Jazzy - you are so far from BU it's untrue.

You were right to say something, this is gross and a soft play is clearly gonna have a baby change. Can you imagine what her house is like?!🤢
On a more serious note, I feel for the child. Where is their dignity?
I think some people just lose it at soft play ....

Don't be so damn judgy

Did she use the word "judgey" 'cos if she did she might well be a MNetter !.

Hopefully not !

Actually, scrap that.

Anyone incapable of rounding multiple children up, shouldn't be having multiple children.

FFS.

@getmeacupoftea
That’s unnecessary and repulsive.

@70isaLimitNotaTarget she did say judgey/judgy (!!!) me and my friend both laughed about her use of words later. There was also finger pointing as she said it whilst flapping dirty wipes around. 🤮

So grim.

Hopefully she reads this thread.