Soft play shit storm

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Name change for this... just because... but I promise I'm not a poo troll!

So met a friend at soft play for lunch today. Nearing the end of lunch almighty smell of shit. Turn around there is a lady behind us cleaning up her 3 year old nappy full of poo on the floor, a potty there and it's down his legs getting worse.

This is in the middle of the food area. There is a baby change less than 8 metres away.

So I stood up and said to her "do you mind this is disgusting people are eating"

Her reply;

"Don't be so damn judgy you dont know what's going on I didn't know it had poo in it"

(The kid had been waking around with a visibly full nappy for sometime whilst she ignored him)

Me "well it's disgusting there is a baby change here you shouldn't be doing it here"

Her

"Oh I suppose you're so damn perfect are you shaming people"

Me

"Well I wouldn't do this"

I turned around and ignored her at that point.

This is disgusting right or am I in a parallel universe?

I don't really care if I shamed her she should be ashamed. As my friend said if there was an outbreak of food poisoning from the cafe they'd get the blame! There was no reason to do that there. There was no staff around at this point.
No doubt someone will say I should have helped her but I've had two of my own and never had the need to change them in he middle of a cafe!
I think she was possibly the grandma rather than the mum couldn't really tell. I actually feel sick thinking about it still.

This boils down to standards - she has none. Vile.

Do you know for sure the kid didn’t remove it? She wouldn’t want to shame the child in front of you. I would assume she hadn’t chosen to change it there.

FrancisCrawford I can't see the part where the OP states the other lady was swearing ? Unless you count damn as swearing.
I may have missed it though

and it's down his legs getting worse.

So the situation is getting worse, she is "flapping wipes around" whilst mess is dripping down the 3 year olds legs, and getting worse, whilst someone is talking at her. From that description, I would surmise she was struggling, it's doesn't sound like the easiest of situations.

And she most certainly was not a lady, behaving like that.

Lady is just a polite way of referring to a woman, so she was a lady.

If she was struggling, it was with very basic concepts such as “shit and food don’t mix”

I have never disputed that, I have always said it was a wrong choice, you said i was posting "imaginary scenarios" by suggesting she was struggling, that simply wasn't true.

Ahh, I think if damn is the worst word you say, you are not doing bad.
I personally don't swear,but again, I don't think damn (in this situation ) would make me judge her as the worst parent ever. But we all have different views on swearing, as with everything else.

What I want to know is, what do these people do with the potty once the child's finished sitting on it. Do they then carry it to the toilet to clean it? Or pop it in their bag letting pee and poop slosh about? Or maybe put it in the trolley carefully navigating corners so there's no spills? Isn't it just easier and less vile to just use the toilet or rush your child to the loo to clean them up if there's an accident? I'm completely mind blown by this and really need answers!!

I strongly recommend something like a potette Natstar98
You wipe the child, wipe the potette seat if needed (usually not if bag put properly), put wipes in the bag with everything else, close bag and dispose as you would a nappy. Genius.

You still use them in appropriate places, not in the middle of a cafe!

I’m 50/50 on this. She was definitely being unreasonable, that’s totally disgusting. However you admonishing her in front of everyone just made a bad situation worse. She definitely fucked up but pretty sure she knew that without you calling her out. I remember my baby (2 week old) doing a shit so bad it shot out the end of her PRAM in a food tent. She was fully clothed and in a nappy, but she was one of those newborns who only did it once a week so when she did it, she did it. It was revolting, it was on the haystacks people were sitting on and eating on. I was so embarrassed. Luckily no one made it worse, they just moved away and alerted staff who quickly helped me clean up and get her out of there. Pretty sure if someone had publicly berated me at that moment I’d have either sworn at them or burst into tears. Maybe both! Xx

How is that remotely the same?

Wrong and wrong.
Lady denotes dignity, refinement, propriety.

The Oxford dictionary disagrees with you as it states it is a polite way of referring to a woman.

I'm here to discuss the thread and different opinions, not this pettiness, but thank you.