Soft play shit storm

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Name change for this... just because... but I promise I'm not a poo troll!

So met a friend at soft play for lunch today. Nearing the end of lunch almighty smell of shit. Turn around there is a lady behind us cleaning up her 3 year old nappy full of poo on the floor, a potty there and it's down his legs getting worse.

This is in the middle of the food area. There is a baby change less than 8 metres away.

So I stood up and said to her "do you mind this is disgusting people are eating"

Her reply;

"Don't be so damn judgy you dont know what's going on I didn't know it had poo in it"

(The kid had been waking around with a visibly full nappy for sometime whilst she ignored him)

Me "well it's disgusting there is a baby change here you shouldn't be doing it here"

Her

"Oh I suppose you're so damn perfect are you shaming people"

Me

"Well I wouldn't do this"

I turned around and ignored her at that point.

This is disgusting right or am I in a parallel universe?

I don't really care if I shamed her she should be ashamed. As my friend said if there was an outbreak of food poisoning from the cafe they'd get the blame! There was no reason to do that there. There was no staff around at this point.
No doubt someone will say I should have helped her but I've had two of my own and never had the need to change them in he middle of a cafe!
I think she was possibly the grandma rather than the mum couldn't really tell. I actually feel sick thinking about it still.

I wonder if she throws shit out of her top window from a bucket, medieval style, too.

Reminds me of Blackadder - what we are talking about in privy terms is the latest in front wall fresh air orifices combined with a wide capacity gutter installation below.

You mean you crap out the window?

Yes.

QueefLatifah

what's your reason for calling someone a bitch then?

You are ridiculous, as you said, it's a soft play, there are toilets facilities. No one is that stressed that they can't change a nappy in the appropriate place, they just made a selfish and disgusting choice.

Anyone coming up with your I’m surprised a bunch of mothers who have seen shit a million times are so bothered is clearly one of them.

Yuk - embarrassing.

My ds once did a poo explosion just as we were about to take off on a long haul flight (sat on my lap). He was screaming his head off, it leaked onto me (i had no change of clothes handy) and the flight attendants wouldnt let me change him until we were in the air and the seatbelt signs went off!! The other passengers were looking at me like they wanted to kill me. I can laugh now but it was beyond awful!

It is disgusting and I couldn't have eaten after that, but I do feel a bit sorry for the toddler when you confronted the mother/grandmother - They must have been upset by the commotion and it wasn't the child's fault the mum didn't bother taking them to the appropriate place to change them

Ha ha ha, good old Blackadder, ever compunctuous!

Yes Frau
“Yum” indeed.

My autocorrect doesn’t like your yuk. Changed it to yum.

And stop being so “embarrassed” for me. Gawd. 😂

@Jenasaurus there was no commotion! Read what I said - perfectly calm. The toddler was more bothered at the fact he was stood up half naked in soft play with shit down his legs. She didn't even lie him down!

Oh grow up, Queef. Anyone with kids have indeed seen their own kid’s shit a million times, but they haven’t seen yours. Nor do they fucking want to, especially in the middle of an eating area.
Even animals don’t shit where they eat. Grim.

The toddler was more bothered at the fact he was stood up half naked in soft play with shit down his legs

You see this really really annoys me. I think kids deserve some privacy and dignity regardless of age. I would never ever choose to display my child in this way.

Yeah, I deffo don't want to see another kid's shit or without a nappy on, etc. That's private and it's not only a bit gross, but it's inappropriate to be changing a child in front of strangers, imo. Maybe it could be excused if there were literally no toilet facilities and she took herself off to a quiet corner and made sure she asked for an antibac spray afterwards, but there really isn't any excusing the situation OP described.

Omg that's disgusting and I am 100% on your side for saying something.

Whoa that’s horrid. And absolutely no need to do it in the middle of the cafe, even with other kids to supervise. Either herd them all to the toilet or ask for help!

I had to ask someone to hold my baby when my toddler exploded poo up his back and had no end of willing baby cuddlers.

100% @MouseInATelescope

Even though they're young enough to "forget", it'll still be an uncomfortable experience in the moment. Privacy with children is so important. But maybe I'm one of the odd few, I wouldn't ever share any naked or bath photos either (and tbh I wouldn't even take them unless my child was covered up and nothing was on show- I just don't think it's appropriate these days). Having your child naked in a room full of people and their peers, covered in shit... it's so much worse and it's wrong.

Well go you for opening your mouth because a lot of people wouldn't to save the drama, she is minging and lazy if you ask me
My little girl has a thing of pulling her nappy off (simply because she doesn't like them anymore been mrs independent) but she's only just turned 2 so if I go soft play etc she has them on as she gets carried away playing I don't want any accidents but so far never actually does anything -touch wood) but I'm always MORTIFIED when she whips it off in 0.2 seconds an passes me an says thanks mummy hahaha even though it clean so I duno how this woman had the shame to do a shitty one knowing full well!

Tramp

I got blocked from a Mum’s Facebook Group because I expressed my disbelief at someone getting a potty out for their child in the middle of Asda. I’m starting to think that some parents are lacking common sense

@Beverley71 getting a potty out in the middle of a shop isn't really toilet training. Because that ISNT were the toilets are. Your teaching your child to take the toilet we're ever they need basically it instead of showing them. "Look you go to the toilets over their"" their never far!! .... common sense isn't it.
not just easy or lazy parenting ?

@Sweetpeach3

I believe you have mis-read @Beverley71's post. She was disbelieved someone else did that. Not her.

The toddler was more bothered at the fact he was stood up half naked in soft play with shit down his legs
Yes, from that point of view it is quite sad/embarrassing for the child and the caregiver was out of order.

I do find it astonishing though at some peoples views on having a potty while out and about if your toilet training, in the first couple of days on your first outings, surely it is better if your kid has a wee in a potty rather than on the seat of the trolley or down its leg onto the floor in the aisle of a supermarket.

I never did it with mine, but I wouldn't be offended if a 2year old needed a quick wee in a potty.

No, Bourbon, it’s better if they’re in a pull-up when out and about until you’re reasonably sure they’re not going to piss rings round them in the middle of Sainsbury’s.
Sitting them on a fecking potty while people push their trollies past is not the answer.

My OCD MIL who thinks I’m beneath her cleaning standards was shockingly pressuring me to change my sons poo nappy imma restaurant where the people inviting where’s my own friend (it’s their restaurant).

I said no I won’t do that in a fancy restaurant around people and she kept
Insisting and forcing him to undress and eventually I snatched my son away and walked off..

I felt it was so grim and disrespectful of the people who invited us and undermining of my friends and their restaurant..

Now reading this thread makes me even more certain. Knowing how clean she claims to be now I feel she was doing this on purpose

Ah, we disagree on keeping them in nappies when potty training (a pull up is still a nappy that you can push down)
I don't see it as a massive problem myself, I never did it, but it certainly wouldn't offend me if it helped, but each to their own though.

Well in that case don’t trawl around the supermarket when potty training. Nobody wants to stumble over your child having a piss while they’re trying to reach the cornflakes.

Yeah that's disgusting especially in an area where people are eating.

My baby hates changing tables in toilets,the height freaks him out it must seem unnatural to lie down on a funny high up solid plastic thing. He kicks off and screams and sometimes has panicked so much he has peed everywhere.

So with that in mind when we are out I sometimes whip his nappy off and put another one on very quickly in a discreet place to avoid causing him any distress. I would never do it in full view of people and definitely not in eating areas. And if it's a shitty nappy he has to suffer the changing table! It's very easy to peep inside the nappy to check first.