Soft play shit storm

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Name change for this... just because... but I promise I'm not a poo troll!

So met a friend at soft play for lunch today. Nearing the end of lunch almighty smell of shit. Turn around there is a lady behind us cleaning up her 3 year old nappy full of poo on the floor, a potty there and it's down his legs getting worse.

This is in the middle of the food area. There is a baby change less than 8 metres away.

So I stood up and said to her "do you mind this is disgusting people are eating"

Her reply;

"Don't be so damn judgy you dont know what's going on I didn't know it had poo in it"

(The kid had been waking around with a visibly full nappy for sometime whilst she ignored him)

Me "well it's disgusting there is a baby change here you shouldn't be doing it here"

Her

"Oh I suppose you're so damn perfect are you shaming people"

Me

"Well I wouldn't do this"

I turned around and ignored her at that point.

This is disgusting right or am I in a parallel universe?

I don't really care if I shamed her she should be ashamed. As my friend said if there was an outbreak of food poisoning from the cafe they'd get the blame! There was no reason to do that there. There was no staff around at this point.
No doubt someone will say I should have helped her but I've had two of my own and never had the need to change them in he middle of a cafe!
I think she was possibly the grandma rather than the mum couldn't really tell. I actually feel sick thinking about it still.

its a pity more people didnt join in when she kicked off

Really and you are trying to preach what is acceptable behaviour.

You cant even reason with that sort of mentality.

A mum friend at a group picnic once changed her toddler on the fucking blanket, while we were eating. It stank as well. Really put me off, both the food and her!

WHY do some people seem to think that piss and shit that come out of a toddler are somehow different to piss and shit that come out of an adult? It’s absolutely identical, stinks just as badly and is just as unhygienic, and yet I have heard so many parents defend gross unhygienic practices with “It’s only children’s poo/wee” as if that makes a difference.

I think some parents get so used to their kids wee and poo that it does seem different to them. Of course it is still wee and poo to everyone else.

@Picklypickles You or your boyfriend should have cleaned that up

I don’t understand people who act like everyone is doing things just to annoy them.

I don't think people do things like this to annoy me. I think some people just don't care about other people at all and do exactly what they want. Its not about me, it is about them acting as if other people do not exist.

Again I never said anything about a potty in a cafe, PP were talking about a supermarket.

The whole thread is about a shitty nappy being changed in a café....!?

Nicknacky, do your local fancy soft plays admit children under age 4 on a regular basis? If so, then they are swimming in bacteria.

I do find it astonishing though at some peoples views on having a potty while out and about if your toilet training, in the first couple of days on your first outings, surely it is better if your kid has a wee in a potty rather than on the seat of the trolley or down its leg onto the floor in the aisle of a supermarket.
Bourbonbiccy

Far better from the pov of toilet training for the child to sit on the loo before leaving home, from the start of toilet training until about 9 months afterwards. The best way to train is to start as you want to continue - therefore encouraging your child to speak up before it becomes a matter of urgency, because that is what the child is going to have to do forever more. Letting the child experience the natural consequences of leaving it too late is far preferable to sacrificing the teaching moment for the sake of whatever it is that is motivating the parent. In the case of the potty-whipper-outers, the only person being trained is the parent.

Venger Fri 13-Sep-19 23:30:33

Agree 100% with your comments on potty training, though I would stay put for at least a week before venturing out.

math If you actually read my post rather than just try and be awkward you will see I said “as clean as possible”

I took leave to work on potty training with my dd. We did not venture far at all. We used pull ups for journeys and then I would ask her several times an hour if she needed to go. If she said no and it had been 30 mins I too her to have a go anyway.

Bringing a potty shopping, to a cafe or restaurant is gross. It does not respect the child's dignity as they all have a right to privacy. Parents who do this reek of being entitled!

As for the actual post I would have offered the woman a pack of wipes and nappy sacks so she could contain the mess. Yes changing him in a food area was disgusting and she should have changed the poor kids nappy earlier but if she was knee deep in shit I probably would have felt for her at that moment.

and then moved seats!

Far better from the pov of toilet training for the child to sit on the loo before leaving home, from the start of toilet training until about 9 months afterwards

9 months !!!!!!!! My son was trained in a week and then at night about 3 weeks after at 21 months, 9 blooming months, no thank you.

To all those saying it's fine just to drop a potty anywhere as they are training would probably have had a problem with me doing the same for my son who didn't learn until he was 8 (asd). Obviously I didn't do that as it's disgusting and we had to make sure we were near a toilet so we could make a quick dash.

The whole thread is about a shitty nappy being changed in a café....!?

Yes but this thread moved on to include to discuss potty training and whipping out potties in other places, that's what I referred to.

Sweetpeach3 I didn’t get the potty out in Asda, someone else did. They were on a FB forum and asked what they were supposed to do with the contents. When I said “you didn’t really do that did you” I got removed and blocked from the group along with a number of others who weren’t quite as polite as me

Some people are disgusting.

If it’s unsuitable for an adult to pull their shit filled pants down in public, then it’s also unsuitable to pull a babies shit filled nappy down in public.

Our softplay doesn’t have a working baby change in the mens toilets so using the softplay floor would have been much easier than having to squat with him on my lap while trying to stop him squirming off, getting shit on me etc. But I would never have dreamed of being so disgusting or selfish.

Going to the loo before leaving home is surely not that onerous a chore, is it, Bourbonbiccy?

When you consider the pain in the arse it might be to have to abandon a trolley and find a clean supermarket loo, versus 'trying' before leaving in the comfort and cleanliness of your own home, with the DCs' own little clip-on child-size loo seat, I know which I preferred.

My DCs always did it even before leaving for school. It became part of their morning routine.

Nicky, just trying to point out that the appearance of cleanliness isn't necessarily an indication that surfaces are sanitary.

It’s very worrying you don’t understand that ignoring antisocial behaviour that negatively impacts on others is a very silly thing to do

I am the first one to highlight anti social behaviour, but I'm also rational, I don't think everyone in a soft play area have to "join in" once the OP has already done so with a woman who Clearly made a wrong decision and was then struggling.

When you consider the pain in the arse it might be to have to abandon a trolley and find a clean supermarket loo, versus 'trying' before leaving in the comfort and cleanliness of your own home, with the DCs' own little clip-on child-size loo seat, I know which I preferred.

Yes obviously that is preferred, but people don't always have their preferred situation present itself.

when you start training sometimes they don't need it before you leave and then need it while you are out, they are only babies, so to use a little potty on that first couple instance is not the end of the world.

I never did so, but I wouldn't judge or get offended with someone who did.

This has made me remember an awful incident... When DS was 1 , and I was 9 months pregnant (and HUGE), we couldn't physically fit in to the train loo together. He had the most horrific diarrhoea nappy on the train. I changed him in the buggy, in the bit by the door because I couldn't leave him like that, but nor could we fit in the loo. Still, it did stink (but it still stank on him...), and it wasn't very private.

I got full on shouted at by a woman, who not only called me disgusting, but swore a lot at me too. But what on earth else should I have done there? I honestly couldn't think of another solution

Yes but this thread moved on to include to discuss potty training and whipping out potties in other places, that's what I referred to.

OK, so why the double confused faces when people are referring to the actual issue at hand...?