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AIBU to ask friend to remove her dog from the room when I visit with my child?

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BadBehaviour · 11/09/2019 21:56

I’ve recently had a baby and I have been taking my baby to see friends, one friend has quite a large breed of dog. I have asked her before I visit to remove the dog from the room temporarily whilst we are there. She’s agreed but when I turn up she hasn’t done it, nor is she willing to.

I understand it’s her home if she wants her dog in every room that’s her right. I just end up leaving as I will not take my baby inside. She refuses to meet up elsewhere.

So AIBU to ask her to remove her dog from the room we are in temporarily?

Thanks guys Smile

OP posts:
TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 14/09/2019 16:43

"How's your imaginary dog doing?

You fucking loon."

Touch a nerve did I? And he's fine, along with all those children running about with no faces because they've been ripped off.

Fuma · 14/09/2019 16:48

Jfc this is like talking to chickens. You do both remember that your posts were about a real life toddler who had his face ripped off by a dog, don't you? And that your response was to talk about the ways that the toddler was in the wrong? This is fucking sociopathic.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 14/09/2019 16:50

Is the parent out of order for passively allowing their child to harass a dog who is now frightened backed into a corner

Yes, absolutely.

Fuma · 14/09/2019 16:50

Plus, talking about the ways that I WILL KILL YOU in regard to a dog that you don't even have is fucking mental.

TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 14/09/2019 16:52

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Leighhalfpennysthigh · 14/09/2019 16:57

I don't think anyone would blame a toddler. However, the parents, that's a different matter. They are responsible for their child and the safety of that child. It is their responsibility to remove a child from a dangerous situation. It is also not fair on a dog to be poked at, chased and frightened by a toddler.

I don't allow children near my dogs. Nit because I worry about my dogs har,in them, but because of the fucking stupid, arsehole parents out there who think that they and their child is superior to all other living creatures. I don't want those children touching and potentially harming my dogs. My dogs are more important to me than random children. If that makes me a sociopath then I embrace the description.

Fuma · 14/09/2019 16:58

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TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 14/09/2019 17:03

🤣🤣🤣🤣 stop it!! My poor sides are splitting!

Comedy gold!

tabulahrasa · 14/09/2019 17:04

“when you get to the point of pontificating about how a toddler could have behaved better”

Except no-one is saying a toddler should have behaved better, they’re all saying whoever was responsible for him at the time didn’t look after him properly.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 14/09/2019 17:08

Fucking hell. As usual a thread about dogs has descended into the usual hysteria. Anyone would think we were keeping lions in our living rooms. MN does attract such strange and angry people sometimes.

stucknoue · 14/09/2019 17:08

Put it this way, I have a dog, I don't have kids (well I do they are adults) if people wish to visit then they know I have a dog, a lazy dog who doesn't always get out of his bed to even investigate visitors but he is part of my household. When my nephew comes we of course are extra vigilant but dn has been taught not to approach the dog in his bed and how to stroke him if he approaches for a cuddle (unlikely, see aforementioned laziness). If your friend has an untrained dog then simply arrange to meet somewhere else. I don't see why myself or other dog owners should have to shut away our dogs if someone visits who dislikes them (obviously) it's a choice to visit, don't visit. I have friends who are allergic to dogs, I have friends who do not like them, they don't come to my house we meet elsewhere

thesnapandfartisinfallible · 14/09/2019 17:16

you do know children matter more than dogs, don't you?

To you maybe... Personally I couldn't give a damn about your kids, they're your problem.

bluebeck · 14/09/2019 17:19

you do know children matter more than dogs, don't you?

My dog matters to me far more than your children.

HTH

Lou670 · 14/09/2019 17:28

Seriously? I have owned several dogs. My own children and children of friends have 'not had their ripped off'. It is all in the training.

MartiniDry · 14/09/2019 18:03

Oh my, I told the OP that she's very rude to be asking someone to shove their dog out of the way in the dog's own house. I see now that I should have extended that to the scary numbers of posters who don't think that they should parent their child when he harasses a dog.

If you visited me you could always put your child in another room. My dog is more important to me than your child.

LolaSmiles · 14/09/2019 18:19

Fucking hell. As usual a thread about dogs has descended into the usual hysteria
Of course.

A dog thread always goes like that:

Most reasonable parents and most reasonable dog owner: dog owners and parents have responsibilities and both need to consider their responsibilities. It's reasonable to question behaviour from parents and dog owners when they've been irresponsible

Minority of posters: don't you dare comment on how parents have responsibilities. If a dog does anything it doesn't matter what the parent or child did; the dog owner was at fault. It's not possible to expect parents to look at their own actions or intervene with their own children (and I shall ignore the fact they manage it in many other non dog situations).

Applejack5 · 14/09/2019 18:26

The number of people on here who value dogs above children is shocking.

Also you're a crap friend if you wouldn't even put your pet away for a bit to host your friend and their child.

Fuma · 14/09/2019 18:38

I agree. Also, I don't understand why a couple of my posts have been deleted when posts talking about how a toddler is wrong for having his face ripped off are allowed to stand. No one forces people to have dogs. They are entirely unnecessary to our society and the only person who benefits from dog ownership is the owner. Therefore damn right that any issues relating to sanitation, human safety etc are dealt with by the owner, not by people around them. No one needs to modify their behaviour because some people choose to have a mute companion who is also an environmental pollutant and who endangers members of human society. You dog owners literally own this. Grow up.

Stompythedinosaur · 14/09/2019 18:41

Also you're a crap friend if you wouldn't even put your pet away for a bit to host your friend and their child.

A dog isn't a toy that goes in a box. I wouldn't shut my dog away unless it was vital as she has feelings, and it makes her anxious and unhappy. I do put her on a lead and hold the lead if people are worried around her.

I am always shocked at how many people thing of animals as objects to be used for human convenience.

Wolfiefan · 14/09/2019 18:42

Ask MN why they were deleted. Some lunatic and bloody rude replies on here.
I keep my polluting beast out of the way of the general public but I expect parents to ensure that their beloved polluters don’t run up to her and grab her by the tail. Hmm

Fuma · 14/09/2019 18:44

I am always shocked at how many people thing of animals as objects to be used for human convenience.

I agree. This is the very definition of pet ownership.

shesgrownhorns · 14/09/2019 18:45

''The number of people on here who value dogs above children is shocking.''

This with knobs on! I'm very fond of my dog but it's not more important than a child ffs!

TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 14/09/2019 18:47

"Also, I don't understand why a couple of my posts have been deleted when posts talking about how a toddler is wrong for having his face ripped off are allowed to stand"

Find these posts and report them. Oh wait, you can't, because there aren't any.

You hate dogs, we get it.

MartiniDry · 14/09/2019 18:56

My oh my, some of you are very easily shocked if all it takes is for a bunch of dog owners to say that they'd prefer the dog to your child.
I wonder how you all cope when things get really hairy.