Work colleague texting every night

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My work colleague who I spend 40 hours in an office with comes home and wants to text me all night and talk about work and other irrelevant stuff. I'm really getting irritated by it now I really didn't want her to have my number in the first place but she asked multiple times I felt awkward saying no. She is almost double my age. It's very odd and people who I've mentioned it to say it's creepy. She isn't like this with anyone else at work there's many other people she could try and befriend if she really wants, she's been here a few years now. I've done nothing to encourage this I like to keep work and private life totally separate and don't like texting at the best of times. Many times I've ignored messages but it makes me feel rude and makes no difference anyway because I still get them every night. Even weekends sometimes. AIBU to be really pissed off about it and WWYD?

OP, you mention banding, which suggests to me you're in one of the health professions. If your colleague is making mistakes, it's your duty to report that under your whistleblowing policy/code of conduct. If she's not competent to do her job, she'll be putting service users at risk.
I may, of course, be wrong, but if there's any element of risk to anyone, you may be held accountable by TPTB for not speaking up. I don't say this to scare, merely to make you aware if you aren't already.

Just as in Relationships, people say "you don't have a MIL problem as much as you have a DH problem" sane here. She's as intrusive as all feck, but the real problem is your hands-off manager who doesn't do his/her job. And/or makes things to the point where you do t even want to ask.

Start getting back-covery. At work do everything in writing - if she sends you links, write back, BCing your manager with "I'm not interested and rare stop sending me these" it dimilsr. In the evening, don't reply AT ALL to anything she says.

There are procedures in place to call in sick. You Are NOT One Of Them!!! And even if you were, there's a way to block her number, but allow it through during a very specific time, say, 7-9am or summat.

I don't understand why it is easier for you to tell HR and your boss instead of telling her: I'm not your friend, stop texting me unless ansolutely necessaryfor our work. Why do they have to tell her for you?

OP, you mention banding, which suggests to me you're in one of the health professions.

Hundreds of organisations have pay/job bands. It’s not just healthcare.

How was the w/e OP? Did you have any respite from the constant messages? Have you re-booked your meeting?

Have you blocked her yet, OP?
Of course you can do this!
In my long working career I’ve never engaged with current colleagues on social media and have only ever given out my private number for use in emergencies. If anyone overstepped the mark in how the number was used, then I’d have no hesitation in asking them to stop, and then blocking them. If they need to contact me about work, they can contact me in work time, on a work phone!

block her. Tell her you have eschewed tech and no longer have a phone it's your dh for emergencies.

You could screen shot where you say the above and save it, mention it to supervisor, follow this up with an email to prove you have in case your co worker goes bat shit on you.

Don't hand out your number again. If she says anything just say you are not a fan of tech and the whole texting thing and wish you'd never started.

Or just ignore her and when she raises it say - email me if it's important- my dh / dc / cat are pissed if at the intrusion.

Stop picking up her mistakes. Don't correct them just shove it back and say this is wrong because of x then be busy.

If she asks for help say no I am too busy however I can ask boss if I can re prioritise my work.

If boss says why haven't you done x say you had to give back work because it was wrong. Follow all this up with emails. For your records/ help you with your weekly report / your performance review.

@summ has it calmed down at all?

Hows this week been?

You don't sound like the sort of person who would just block someone who thinks she is a close friend.... it sounds like a cruel thing to do, even if this woman is a total nuisance. I think in your situation I would just reply very, very infrequently and force myself to ignore most of the messages. I think ending messages with "take care." and "see you on Monday" might help to convey the message that you aren't expecting to hear from her again for a while.

I wouldn't block her but just don't reply and turn off notification. If she says anything just say you were busy.

Any news???