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Dh showers at 4am disrupting toddler

308 replies

Surfskatefamily · 09/09/2019 19:41

Aibu in asking him to shower the night before instead?

He seems to think I'm unreasonable. However he doesn't see how unsettled this leaves our son all day. He was sleeping through most nights before this. And has gone back to 2 or 3wake ups average and an earlier up time.

The shower is right next to sons bedroom

OP posts:
mathanxiety · 13/09/2019 03:11

So were mine.

None of them liked it one bit, and they didn't get used to it.

BeepBeeep · 13/09/2019 05:45

Mine used to fall asleep to the sound of the Hoover. If they were fractious for no known reason, I would put the Hoover on and they would be asleep in no time.....the added bonus is the carpets were always clean if nothing else 😂

DecomposingComposers · 13/09/2019 06:40

PumpkinPieAlibi

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Cheeserton · 13/09/2019 06:50

You can always do a basin wash as a top up if needed.

A basin wash? Are you out of the mind? You can't turn taps on in the bathroom, you'll wake the whole bloody village!

No no, it's a bowl in the kitchen, if you remember...

DecomposingComposers · 13/09/2019 06:58

What happens if he stops having a shower but then the sound of the water running into the basin or the sound of the boiler coming on wakes the child up? Will he be banned from washing at all?

What if the sound of him flushing the toilet wakes the child up? Will you ban him from using the toilet before work?

MarshaBradyo · 13/09/2019 06:59

The advice to use plastic bowls and flannels in the kitchen are more depressing than getting up at 4am

I’d need that shower before going to work

Ha at the child waking at a blink description by pp

stayathomer · 13/09/2019 07:28

This thread gets funnier and funnier ...

AmIThough · 13/09/2019 07:34

@DecomposingComposers she'll just have to LTB Grin

Whatevertrevor19 · 13/09/2019 09:18

@BeepBeep totally agree. Since day one dd has had domestic noise all day long. Dh gets up at 5:30, goes downstairs for breakfast and to put coffee machine on, he then comes back upstairs with coffee and we have a chat all the while dd I still asleep in her cot next to us, she doesn't even stir when he showers or uses his electric toothbrush. I know this is a little different to OP as my dd is still a baba but I'm hoping by exposing dd to all these noises she will continue to sleep through them.

However only time will tell, who knows maybe I will be posting something similar in a couple of years Grin

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 09:45

Like adults do, they got used to the noise and slept through most things, including the shower and kettle going on at 4.15 in the morning.

bollocks

I have 4, and number 3 arrived in a noisy house and never got used to the noise - needs silence to sleep. You would have thought the older ones, who did arrive in a silent house being the first would struggle more, but no.
Your baby sleeping through noise is just luck, not due to your amazing parenting!

I also love how this thread is turning into a man vs woman and child Hmm. Sometimes it's the mother who gets up at stupid o'clock, and it's the mother who is very quiet to leave every body else sleep in peace. Like any civilised human being does!

DecomposingComposers · 13/09/2019 09:49

she'll just have to LTB

Yep. Or maybe build an outside toilet in the garden? 😂😂

MarshaBradyo · 13/09/2019 09:50

I’m sure there’s a hose and a bucket ;

woodhill · 13/09/2019 11:17

Let him have his shower. He's probably paying for the gas, water and electricity.

AmIThough · 13/09/2019 11:22

Oh @woodhill you silly billy - brace for the abuse!

woodhill · 13/09/2019 11:28
Smile
BeepBeeep · 13/09/2019 12:17

Amazing parenting? @FrauHaribo 😂
The only thing amazing about my parenting is the fact that they managed to survive childhood without too many accidents.
It was always me who had a shower before work at around 4.15 in the morning and I was never quiet, I was more like a clog dancing elephant.

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 17:52

so you're just lucky your child slept?
I would consider it very rude to be noisy when I am leaving in the middle of the night, strictly no need to bother my husband or my kids.
Each to their own really.

DiBPD1979 · 13/09/2019 18:00

Ask him to shower as late as possible every morning, but as for him being unreasonable? I have OCD and anxiety, so there's no way I could leave the house without showering.

BeepBeeep · 13/09/2019 18:03

Kids, there were more than one. If they woke up, they were told to go back to sleep until their dad got them up.
But as you say, each to their own.

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 18:11

f they woke up, they were told to go back to sleep until their dad got them up.

I have to applaud if you got your less than 1 year old to go back to sleep when told to. Amazing.

BeepBeeep · 13/09/2019 18:14

Oh, they just got ignored at that age.

FrauHaribo · 13/09/2019 18:14

I am sure they are.... Hmm

woodhill · 13/09/2019 19:58

Toddler implies around 15 months to me .

Aridane · 13/09/2019 20:05

👍 @PumpkinPieAlibi

Aridane · 13/09/2019 20:05

What are these strip washes posters refer to?