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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think that no one, absolutely no one can understand my devastation.....

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 08/09/2019 16:47

Crap subject, I know. But we currently have a touring caravan which is sited in a beautiful part of the country.
We go there for, perhaps, 6 weeks in total throughout the year, but split into 2 or 3 ight stays iyswim.
DH has complained ad nauseum about not being able to sleep, getting tight chested ( hay fever) and being uncomfortable.
I am not a bitch. If he hates it, it simply does not work. So, we are selling said van. Tomorrow, 3 sets of potential buyers are viewing. We will get a sale - it is a huge bargain.
I cannot stop crying. This is my happy place, where I can truly relax, walk for miles, eat delicious food, flump.
It is the right thing to do. I know that. But it is breaking my heart.
First world problems and all that. Just wanted to spread my misery😄

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FauxFox · 09/09/2019 20:23

I think you sound lovely @Toooldtobearsed2 and I completely understand.

Have you got a garden? Could you get a lovely cabin that could replicate some of the things that make staying in the caravan so relaxing for you? Not the same but still a sanctuary you can share together? Congratulations on your long and sweet relationship x

momtoboys · 09/09/2019 20:25

I support your misery! I'm sorry this is difficult. I get it.

QueenOfPain · 09/09/2019 20:26

My auntie and uncles caravan and all it’s contents burnt to the ground in the storage place that they keep it so I think they can probably understand your devastation and more.

Lilymossflower · 09/09/2019 20:30

Keep the bloody caravan ! Your an adult entitled to a happy little place you enjoy just for you

He can have a man shed or other indulgent that he likes. , on his own , just for him, to balance it out

NoSauce · 09/09/2019 20:33

The caravan had been sold! Have you even rtt?

Aridane · 09/09/2019 20:34

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Ginmel · 09/09/2019 20:35

LTB not ltc!

Ginmel · 09/09/2019 20:35

Oops it was yesterday

NoNoNoOohmaybe · 09/09/2019 20:36

I didn't realise Mumsnet has turned into a site where your post (and marriage) has to be passed as "worthy" enough.

Have you tried a campervan? You could get it made to your own specifications to be comfortable (might be expensive though) for your husband. Also we regularly just go away locally for a night so if he is uncomfortable it's less time to be away. Mine is definitely my happy place.

Aridane · 09/09/2019 20:46

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Sissyjd · 09/09/2019 20:55

Buy yourself a second hand motor home n toddle off on your own for a night or two then drive home.

Wellandtrulyoutnumbered · 09/09/2019 20:55

You prioritised his health needs above your recently found happiness in the van. That's what loving partners do. Like another previous poster said you need to find that new happy place. I hope you find it soon. You are allowed to vent and grieve the van. I suspect you can't fully vent to OH as don't want him feeling bad.

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Aridane · 09/09/2019 21:02

OP - it's fine to be sad about dong the right thing! I hope the money you save enables you to find something equally special.

Oh, and ignore some of the feistier cunts on this thread.

Maybe post in Chat next time

Aridane · 09/09/2019 21:05

OP - you might be interested to know that MNHQ are going through the thread now to remove some of the cuntier posts

Hi all, sorry for the mass mail,

Thank you for all your reports about that thread - we're taking a look now and making some targeted deletions.

We might offer to buy the caravan ourselves......

Best wishes,
MNHQ

womenspeakout · 09/09/2019 21:12

The doctor could have done scratch testing to locate what the allergy is and then you could have resolved it. As others said, a mattress topper can help. It's such a shame something you loved so much had to be given up,but it's gone now.

All the best for you and your health.

Selling the caravan gives you an excuse to do lots of new things, go to lots of new places, treats, spas, all in the hopes of finding a new happy place.

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 09/09/2019 21:14

@05Aridane

😂😂🤣🤣😂😂😁😁

Thank you for making me laugh!

On reflection, it was a daft post to make and even stupider to put it in aibu.

Anyway, too late MNHQ 😜

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Toooldtobearsed2 · 09/09/2019 21:19

I need to go now - looking after a sickly foster donkey, and dont get a signal down there.

Just wanted to say one last thank you to everyone. Nice and no so nice responses alike, they all really helped me to move forward.

Thank you all, and goodnight !

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BiMum5 · 09/09/2019 21:40

Aw, TooOld, you've been through the milk and now this. I have a trailer tent and I dread the thought of selling it. Met a lady on a campsite once who pitched her tent there for the summer and you could see by her that it was her happy place. But you also sound like you have the loveliest marriage and that's worth so much xxx

manicmij · 09/09/2019 22:33

I have a touring caravan and love it so understand how you feel. Is it such a change in environment that sets off DH hayfever and is it active all the time. I suffer from hayfever but antihistamine tablets, eye drops and nasal spray are pretty effective in the high season. About not being comfortable, if its the beds can you try a topper. I've heard they even out lumps and bumps. Seems a shame to loose out on something you really enjoy.

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