A lot of people on Mumsnet are so horrible!

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Is it just me or are there a lot of really nasty people who comment on Mumsnet?

I seem to come across more and more people who comment on quite innocuous posts to the tune of "get over yourself".

I'd get it if it was a controversial post but I often see this where someone has posted something they're obviously upset about. I just don't understand some people's mentality.

I think there's a lot of useful advice on here and I've been coming on here for years but I don't really get why people go on the internet to get into arguments or make unnecessary barbed comments. I find it really weird.

I'm thinking of deleting my account now because the levels of aggression and negativity don't rest well with me.

Yes I agree. Lots of nice genuine people with great advice but a lot of trolls and keyboard prats too.

I agree! I posted the other day and rather than offering their opinion on the actual thing I asked about done people felt the need to insult me instead.

Some people were very helpful at giving me some perspective. Others were just making digs.

*some not done

I'm sure if you met most of these people you will discover that they lead very unhappy lives, so insecure and just vile.

Hurt people, Hurt people

Dont take it personal and dont reply to it.

I recently made a reasoned and articulate contribution to a debate on here about education (I'm a teacher). A high-profile poster who seems to be on every thread responded with one word: 'Bollocks". Uncalled-for, ignorant and downright rude. I don't for a minute expect everyone to agree with my points, surely the idea of this forum is to debate and discuss different viewpoints ... but I backed away from the discussion, as I would do IRL if I encountered that kind of behaviour. It's a shame, mumsnet is a good, supportive resource apart from a few selfish prats.

I actually don't think MN is that horrible compared to most forums (or even RL come to that). I do find a lot of the posts pretty ridiculous though I have to say (such as telling people to go NC for any minor disagreement and washing your towels eleventy million times a day)

I agree. I think the anonymity is great for the majority but there is a minority who use it in their favour to berate and attack other members. It’s a shame - it’s why I don’t comment often any longer. The most innocuous comments get jumped on.

As an aside, I found The Motherload on FB an antidote to the nastiness here. They are really zero tolerance for judgyness and jump on it quickly. The discussions aren’t as diverse as here but if you need parenting advice or a dilemma or whatever it’s worth a look.

Oh, the weekly 'people on MN are horrid' thread. How original. I'm intrigued to know who it is who is forcing you to log on to MN if everyone is so awful and if you feel the urge to 'hun' anyone I suggest you go to Nethuns where you can also use sparkles. They don't allow swearing and everyone agrees with everyone else.

It's because it's the Internet. Mumsnet is no different to any other forum you can make an anonymous account on- they don't vet people for niceness prior to letting them post.

It can be an intimidating place but for the most part, people are intelligent and get straight to the point rather than being deliberately unkind. The 'alternate site' is just so hideously saccharine and over-friendly, I'd take this any day.

I've found The Doghouse to be much worse than AIBU! I once posted on there asking for advice as my 8 year old dog had taken a dislike to our new puppy. My god! I got my arse totally handed to me! It was this enormous pile on and it was only when someone bravely posted telling everyone to back off that the more reasonable comments came. Lesson learned not to post in there again!

Totally agree.

Dog eat dog IMHO

Its because it's the internet

Yep! There will always be those who hide behind a screen, and like to cause drama, irl too.

The more high profile, I suspect, the more targetted and fun is it.

This is old but I googled to see if anyone felt the same way as mem I've been using this board for a few months now. Came on for some advice about my child struggling at school. Got lots of helpful encouraging kind replies. Now I make posts and I get jumped on and everything gets twisted. I've been called so many shitty things on here. I've been called sad. I've been told I'm horrible, negative, miserable, jelous. I've been told my poor kids will end up like me. So I've decided today is enough. I'm not using this site anymore.

The need people have to read a post and then find a million reasons it's the ops fault, they only have themselves to blame, they don't help themselves, bla bla bla.

I won't be logging on anymore. I can't believe grown women sit on here picking on others who clearly want down advice or a discussion. Ofcourse nobody will always agree with eachother. After having my latest thread completely twisted this morning I'm done. This site needs closing down.

It makes me sad that people have to preempt the viciousness by justifying every tiny little thing or get accused of drip feeding, it makes ops that could be 2 second reads into 3 min reads!

I don’t blame them for doing it though, I’m sarcastic and I know I have to point out my sarcasm on here or I end up being publically executed

You cant close down a worldwide site with thousands of members just because of a few aresholes!
Just like real life there are nasty people everywhere you can't control them all. You can report posts and they will be deleted if they are personal attacks.
Sorry you have had some of the keyboard warriors on your threads but don't let them put you off there are far more decent people on here.

I don't feel like I'll post here again. I asked for some reassurance and have been told 'it's not all about you' and 'give yourself a shake'. What lovely people 🙄

[quote Weezol]Here's a properly nice thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3685664-To-post-the-last-pic-you-took?watched=1&msgid=89911548#89911548[/quote]
It would be lovely to have more of this type of thread.

I have lurked and responded to posts for a little while now and , on occasion, would love to garner the collective wisdom of MN with a thread of my own.
I daren’t as I’m not very good with hearing vitriol , which almost every post, these days, seems to attract.

@CTRL

I agree.

I feel some Mumsnetters come on here to judge others and think because they are anonymous it gives them a sense of courage they otherwise wouldn’t have in real life.

100% this. It feels good temporarily to criticise others and gives one a sense of superiority. The human race are masters at it. We don't know how to feel food enough alot of the time without measuring ourselves against others especially if we are insecure. Social media brings it out far worse unfortunately because it's a largely anonymous platform. As horrible as it is, remember it's not a true representation of reality.

The only reason I’m up and reading this post is because some people on S&B saw my photo on a large, private Facebook group, and decided to talk about how bad my hair and glasses are.

So yeah, I’m going to go with ‘YNBU - there are some horrible people on MN’.

To be fair - a lot of the OPs also come across as nasty and judgemental arseholes.

Tell me what I want to hear.

You are not actually allowed to disagree with me.

I'm right and you are all wrong.

Yes, but....

If I'm arguing with someone then having some real insight into their point of view can help. I prefer blunt honesty than the less than useful support from my friends/family who are all mostly on my side and totally biased.

The truth can be painful.

I also can't be completely honest with my friends and family. Sometimes it is cathartic to be painfully honest to an anonymous mumsnetter. I try to be diplomatic when giving my advice but I can lack tact.

Yup. Evil harridans.