Cleaner cancelled last minute due to childcare

[UmmUmar]

I've found a fantastic cleaner, single mum by the sounds of it, brings her daughter with her (I don't mind), you can tell she is struggling financially and with her little one.

Today she cancelled on me 10 mins before the appt because of childcare. I understand that with a kid, things get a bit difficult with work but a heads up would have been nice!

Since my house has been a tip I've got to do it all by myself (pregnant + toddler, and dh works long hours)

AIBU to be upset?

If she brings her daughter with her, what was the childcare issue?

Why would she need to cancel because of childcare if she brings the child with her though?

YABU

Life happens. I’m sure she’d rather be cleaning your house and making some money rather than having to cancel at the last minute.

YABU you state you know she's struggling then in the next breath moan she's let you down there are many pregnant women juggling raising a family and cleaning it's really not the end of the world.

We've all had to cancel things last minute because of our kids op, even you, surely? that's life

Maybe it was a last minute childcare falling through and she didn’t have any extra time to warn you?
It’s not the end of the world and the house won’t burn down if that bathroom isn’t cleaned for a week.

Yabu ofcourse. Life happens, people cancel. You'll survive

If the child was sick she wouldn't be able to come but that would be the same for a cleaner who had a dc in nursery.

I hired my housekeeper for lots of reasons but the fact that she was childfree (like me and DH) was a huge contributing factor! I wouldn’t tolerate being let down for childcare issues!

Is her child unwell, perhaps, so she didn't want to bring them but had no childcare?

YABU. Who do you think cleans her house while she's alone with a child and no DH after a hard days work? Dont be so spoiled.

If it's that much of a tip she wouldn't be able to clean anyway.
I did all mine whilst preggers with a toddler too, you just have to get on with it if you can't afford a cleaner.
Unless you have ability problems, then apologies.

I assume her child is unwell which is why she had to stay off?

It happens. Children get sick and childcare won't accept a vomiting child just so the mum can go to work!

I never whinge if my cleaner cancels. It's a luxury to pay someone for something I'm perfectly able to do myself. And bearing in mind they don't get paid if they're not here, it's hardly in their interests to let you down.

Problems aren't really known for giving an agreed minimum notice period.

So you’ve never had a last minute issue with your child that meant you had to change what you were intending to do?

If she’s usually reliable, then you’re BU

Awwwwe poor you having to do some cleaning yourself. Suck it up Butter up!!

YABU. Emergencies happen.

Also, millions of people who are pregnant and have toddlers manage to do their own housework every day. You’re a parent, not an invalid, and a cleaner is a luxury, not an essential. Just suck it up and get on with it.

You need to start a first world problems thread and include yourself in it

Ahh Rich People Problems

I never whinge if my cleaner cancels. It's a luxury to pay someone for something I'm perfectly able to do myself

It may be a luxury but if I’m paying for a service I expect it to be done! DH and I worked hard to get to a place where we don’t need to lift a finger at home. We’re not about to start doing chores now. We’d just hire someone else if our housekeeper became unreliable. Lucky for us our housekeeper is amazing so it’s all hypothetical!

I have an online shop booked. That's a luxury not an essential. I'd still be fed up if it got cancelled.
Obviously you want reliability but everyone needs to be off sometimes.

The fact that you could clean your house yourself isn't the point. The point is that you're choosing to pay someone else to do it. You need to find out why she couldn't come and clean and why she left it so late to tell you. Can she come and do it tomorrow instead? If this is a one-off and she's otherwise a good cleaner then let it go. But IME cleaners that let you down once will do it again and again.

Yes you are being unreasonable. If your house is a tip how can she clean it anyway?

AIBU to be upset?

Of course you are. It’s a messy house, not a cancelled wedding/brain surgery/job offer.

You can cope with your own house being a tip. If not then don’t let it get so bad in the first place.

It’s a one off. Life happens. You will have let people down in the past or will in the future due to your children.