Cleaner cancelled last minute due to childcare

[UmmUmar]

I've found a fantastic cleaner, single mum by the sounds of it, brings her daughter with her (I don't mind), you can tell she is struggling financially and with her little one.

Today she cancelled on me 10 mins before the appt because of childcare. I understand that with a kid, things get a bit difficult with work but a heads up would have been nice!

Since my house has been a tip I've got to do it all by myself (pregnant + toddler, and dh works long hours)

AIBU to be upset?

@amispeakingenglish no honey. Not anymore. I've had many years of dealing with not being able to have children and the utter cuntish comments about my life. I'm totally immune to it now and, god forbid, happy in my life.

However some people, like me, who desperately wanted children and are still in the nightmare of trying to come to terms with it would read your comments and get upset. It is comments like that that drove my husband to throw himself under a train.

Still, in your little world and nasty view of us all you probably think that's our just desserts for not having children and we should fuck off from MN, hey.

@BrooklynNoiceNoice yeah, exactly.

This whole thread has been so fucking nasty to everyone, especially people who dare pay for a bit of help around the house. I guess the nastiness just continues in another direction. However, I think I'll just hide it and hunt for my cheque book so I can make that payment for daring to be infertile

But before I go, @amispeakingenglish, you make personal comments to people or a group of people, you can't complain when they dare to take it personally

I am a grandma; I look after 17 month old DGD one day week from 7.30 am while DDIL works - including doing a cleaning job. If I had been up all night before with D & V, I could not give much DDIL much notice. I don’t know where she could conjure alternative childcare up from at 7.30 am in the morning (given DGD is not in the nursery/school system where DDIL might know other parents, who could look after DGD at a pinch)?

(I’ve had 4 miscarriages, surgery, IVF so been there, done that, got the t shirt with regard to sensitivities)

IMO, OP is BU!

Wow @59amispeakingenglish. You are so far over the line. There's really no need to be so unkind.

Leighhalfpennysthigh

BrooklynNoiceNoice

One last thing, I'm not making personal comments about my life. Nor taking this personally??? How on earth do you think that. Apart form mentioning I had a miscarriage I have not made this personal at all. You both on the other hand have, and that is your choice I suppose but do not try to overload you issues onto others.

Not everyone can have children, it's not a right is it nor is it under my control, so why try to dump it on me? Some people who really want children adopt. I am not talking about your personal issues and I think you are being over sensitive and making it about you for some reason, I don't know you and quite honestly its nothing to do with me or anything to do with my post. If you want to talk about your issues start your own thread about miscarriage perhaps? As I have already said I had one too, many people do you are not unique in that. Good bye.

@amispeakingenglish - I don’t have any issues or sensitivities, as I said I’ve no fertility issues and I’ve never lost a pregnancy or a child, all I have is empathy, which you clearly don’t.

I also have not made it personal except for when I mentioned @Leighhalfpennysthigh however she had already mentioned what she has been through so I don’t see that as an issue as all I did was bring it to your attention again in the hope you’d have some empathy (clearly you’re incapable, so my mistake).

Omg what is this turning into. Some serious derailment.

Leighhalfpennysthigh I’m so sorry for what you are having to read.

amispeakingenglish shut up please. You sound so insensitive and make no sense.

@Skittlenommer what are you doing reading Mumsnet if you go out of your way avoiding people with children?

This has all got rather nasty. I hope nobody has been very upset by comments from others, but I suspect it's inevitable.

@leighhalfpennysthigh - so sorry for your losses.

Good grief, this has turned in to quite an unpleasant thread.

Afternoon, all. This thread hasn't really panned out well - we really do want people to post here bearing in mind the way they'd talk to someone face to face. We're afraid we're going to close the thread for further commenting.
Thanks.