Cleaner cancelled last minute due to childcare

[UmmUmar]

I've found a fantastic cleaner, single mum by the sounds of it, brings her daughter with her (I don't mind), you can tell she is struggling financially and with her little one.

Today she cancelled on me 10 mins before the appt because of childcare. I understand that with a kid, things get a bit difficult with work but a heads up would have been nice!

Since my house has been a tip I've got to do it all by myself (pregnant + toddler, and dh works long hours)

AIBU to be upset?

I can't tell if some of these replies are real or just taking the piss

Maintenance man has adult children so that was a bit of a gamble but it’s worked out so far.

Thank goodness!

The solution is to hire childfree people. I have a childfree housekeeper, two childfree gardeners. Maintenance man has adult children so that was a bit of a gamble but it’s worked out so far.

Please tell me this is a Troll, No way can someone have this opinion!

i cleaned as much as i can with ds, she normally does bathrooms as ds has asthma and i cant use cleaning products whilst he is behind me when i clean.

YANBU to be upset, you feel how you feel. You're crazy however to come on AIBU and express that upset! I admire your bravery.

I have a cleaner, she's off on holiday this week and in a couple of week's time and has taken quite a few days holiday this year (although always tells me in advance) and has called at the last minute once due to her mum dying - I wasn't annoyed about the cleaning just very sorry for her and sent flowers. Your situation is annoying but it's not like you're paying for it so her loss is probably worse than yours.

Be upset for a bit and then give your toddler a duster and crack on (or leave it - which is occasionally the option that I take - no-one has died yet). This week, I'm choosing to clean the house myself and take the £20 for something frivolous.

Daughter fell asleep after nursery on the bus to my house, I really would not have minded if she used the spare bedroom.

As a one off, I'd let it go. If it happens again, you may need to get rid

Are you serious?

Just as an FYI don't use cleaning products anyway if DS has asthma (or anyway) - look up natural cleaning products (bicarb, vinegar, lemon juice) - it might improve.

Seriously. Some of you with your holier than thou attitudes about cleaning your own place - did you ever drop your dc at their grandparents? Accept help from anyone for anything? OP has said her husband isn't doing housework as he's not there. She is minding a toddler and possibly having the most symptom free pregnancy in history, but equally possibly having bad sickness or SPD or exhaustion. Being understanding of the cleaner's problems will probably come after the minor rant on the internet! But there is nothing "wrong" with employing a cleaner and you're not a better human being for doing it all yourself.

Maybe consider reducing your hours at work so you have time to clean? I assume you work judging by the significant impact this has had on you and your home?

But I am paid a lot more PH than my cleaner and am frankly quite rubbish at cleaning. How would working fewer hours help?

DH and I worked hard to get to a place where we don’t need to lift a finger at home. We’re not about to start doing chores now

Genuinely the most wanky thing I've ever read on Mumsnet. Well done

You may think it’s ‘wanky’ but being late 20s, early 30s, no children (ever) and having next to no responsibility apart from our jobs is pretty awesome. I wouldn’t take too kindly to having my lifestyle impacted by someone else’s childcare issues.

Get yourself some asthma friendly/non spray cleaning products OP. Problem solved. (I would have thought you would have those anyway due to his asthma?)

Clean the bathroom when he's asleep...

She cancelled because her dd fell asleep ?

Never mind I expect you know where the cleaning stuff is

She lives with her mother in law. And thanks for the assumption that I'm spoilt

To the people saying get rid...so you have never once taken a day off work due to illness or some other thing that came up last minute?

If her child is sick she is doing the right thing by not bringing her into your home while you are pregnant. Just something to think about.

Also had a cleaner for a while due to my sister organising her cleaner to come to ours while they were away. We have a two year old and was pregnant(baby is 8 days old now) working and studying both full time and my house was cleaned by DH and myself each time so she could come in do the floors etc.

If your house is a absolute mess and you can’t go this once without her then that’s another story.

Life happens OP.

Remember women, cleaning is your job and you should embrace it!

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Nice one, Horatioroses

God, Skittle, I've worked with childfree people who took time off for their dogs.

@sunshinecake

He wakes up when I do..

Oh so you do actually think that someone who has a childcare issue will just be a permanently unreliable employee. Gotcha.

No, you haven't got anything at all.

You may think it’s ‘wanky’ but being late 20s, early 30s, no children (ever) and having next to no responsibility apart from our jobs is pretty awesome. I wouldn’t take too kindly to having my lifestyle impacted by someone else’s childcare issues.

In your opinion is awesome! haha. I see no kids, so no idea what this woman is going through. No Children ever?

Each to their own I guess but you are in no position to judge a single mother.

I don’t understand, why didn’t she bring her DD?

Yanbu to be fed up. I love it when my cleaner has been, which is today as it happens. She’s amazing.

She's a single parent who lives with her mother-in-law? How does that work?

You may think it’s ‘wanky’ but being late 20s, early 30s, no children (ever) and having next to no responsibility apart from our jobs is pretty awesome. I wouldn’t take too kindly to having my lifestyle impacted by someone else’s childcare issues.

I'm a single Mother and can do without crass assumptions