Child maintenance from rich ex boyfriend

[Hanny3]

I recently found out I'm three months pregnant. I'm no longer together with the father. I will be raising the child by myself as the father doesn't won't anything to do with the child.

He has said he will pay child maintenance. He's a very rich guy and comes from a very rich family. He said to me when where together that he earned £15,000 per month after tax (by working for his dad) and that he had other incomes from his investments. He also has a large personal fortune.

He has said he will pay £1,273 a month in child maintenance. He claims that is the maximum he has to pay according to law.

I'm a student and don't have much money. I have asked if he would be willing to pay more the first two years so I can really focus on finishing my studies. He said no.

My mom and my friends are telling my if I take it to court I would get more per month, and are encouraging me to do so. My ex on the other hand says I would get less if I take it to court.

So I was wondering if anyone knows if I would get more per month if I took it to court? And I'm I totally unreasonable if I think he should pay more the first two years while I'm a student?

I have to say that I find it very hard to believe that a lawyer doesn't know the difference between 'than' and 'then'...

And it's not a typo as the same error appears in multiple posts.

Interesting...

I haven't read every response but I found this:
"If the paying parent’s gross weekly income is more than £3,000, the receiving parent can apply to the courts for extra child maintenance"

www.gov.uk/how-child-maintenance-is-worked-out

I found it because I remembered reading this:
"A judge has now approved the mum’s claim for about £10,000 a month in maintenance and a lump sum of about £22,000 to cover rent and furniture. At the central family court in London, Judge Mark Everall said the woman, in her early 20s, is caring for the baby in her mother’s housing association flat, and living on £400 a month state benefits.

He said there is evidence Mr Terry, who is involved in a hair products firm, had 13 other children and could afford her ‘reasonable’ demands as he had financed a lavish lifestyle while the couple were together."

He has 14 other kids.

www.google.com/amp/s/www.metro.news/dad-of-14-told-to-pay-for-baby-in-uk/1583937/amp/

How we know she’s beautiful? And if she is, are you basically saying they should be paid for sex because they’re so hot? So they’re hookers basically.

I’m well aware of the transactional type of relationship like Melania and the Donald but the golden rule there is the woman should demand they’re marched down the aisle and the man should do everything not to! Also vice versa in a sex reversal scenario but such examples are far less common. Players gonna play.

No idea if she tried to snag him but she’s snagged 1,200 a month max and is a poor game plan. I believe her in it being an accident. She probably did find the money attractive and therefore overlooked he is a cunt

I think it also depends on the context of how the interactions surrounding the announcement of the pregnancy between OP and the ex went. If it was a 'surprise! I'm pregnant, and a poor student so I've calculated I will need 3-5k pmth maintenance from you to fund me through my studies'. I'd also potentially be a bit umm wtf? And I'd probably be looking into how much I was required to pay (at least as a base line). OP says the pregnancy is recent news to her, so also new news to her ex. On the other hand he's being a dick if he states he wants zero involvement but will pay CMS (but he already knows he'll have to do that). At 12wks pregnant it's all very early days yet. Great to be prepared - but I'd also prepare for the worst outcome vs the best financially and see where you'll stand.

TheCricketers I can’t disagree with you. It’s awful isn’t how the law does little to help people in your position. What really irritates me is how sexist some posters are when these issues arise. It isn’t surprising to me that I’ve had private messages asking for help. I will do what I can I hate how women are treated. My own DD has rung me because she’s being harassed by her ex, it pains me to tell her the police won’t help.

Super you sound like an idiot. Tell me, have I made the law up, does the statute not exist. Personal digs make you look like a tit. Fortunately for me my good reputation as a legal professional makes you look really stupid. Tell you what, let’s see your interpretation of the law, I’ll ask a legal secretary to proof read it for errors. Interesting.

Not RTFT but wtaf?! I'm a single parent and haven't had a penny off my DS's father in 11 years. The amount your ex has offered is more than I earn working full time. Talk about greedy

JacquettaW Then perhaps you should have rtft. Or at least the last few pages in which your outrage has been addressed multiple times by multiple posters.

@jacquettaw
Wow you haven’t had a penny off the father in 11 years?! And you think everyone else should accept the same ?!
What a fucking joke!
Just because your own standards are in the floor, don’t berate other women who expect better from men.

She never said she shouldn't get anything - she said she's greedy to expect more as that money is equivalent to her salary and is a significant amount just for child maintaining alone. Many people manage on less than a thousand per month, and she doesn't need more.

The Cricketers your child is lucky to have you as a mum. I’ve never understood why some men are happy to walk away from their children.

@Hanny3 's head is in the clouds.

I'm 99% sure she has grown up wanting for nothing in a wealthy if she thinks she needs more than this alongside benefits and student finance to raise her child. She clearly can't see it being possible to live on when it is.

Baby you don’t make sense, have on idea of the law and sound like annidiot

Idiot

@Genderfree I do have an idea on the law. This thread has just got to be a joke. She can't seriously expect what is essentially spousal support when she was never his spouse!

It isn't down to him to fund her studies. If she wants to 'focus' on her studies then she should have thought about that before getting knocked up. She has other priorities now. She can't seem to fathom them. Obviously a teenager.

Your baby's father has made a very decent offer, please do accept it. He may pay for things when needed too.

Hope all goes well.

It also comes across as the op had already made up her mind and will be taking him to court for more no matter what opinion come from both sides

You will definitely get less if you go to court. I would take the money. That's the equivalent of a full time salary after tax. Consider yourself lucky.

Why will she ‘definitely’ get less if the courts deal with it? The amount he earns is above the jurisdiction of the CMS so in case of a dispute, it’s a court issue. Whether more money is awarded is based on many, many issues - impossible to say which way it might go without considerable further information. And no PWC should ‘count themselves lucky’ that an ex is willing to pay maintenance.

I would go the CSA first and ensure that the amount he states is right. The amount does kept capped after a certain amount though however you can go to court and seek more. However if the judge rules that he should pay less (I see this as unlikely) then this will overrule the amount the CSA has stated. People tend to do this when the partner is a footballer ect. It is a risk and there is also the risk that the fathers father docks his pay to make it seem like he is on less, however either way I would go on the CMG website and do the calculator