Aibu to think private school kids wearing their logoed school jumpers at the weekend is weird?

[zzzzzzzz12345]

Isn’t it a bizarre stealth boast, except it’s not stealthy at all and a bit attention seeking? I know several children who do this. If your child does, why?

You’d never catch a state educated child wearing their school jumper at the weekend. If my child started to, I’d suggest they changed.

Yup. I don't happen to think wearing a hoodie with your school's name on it is showing off.

you talk like this to people IRL??
That’s a tolerant bunch of friends you have there. Congrats.

“Yup. I don't happen to think wearing a hoodie with your school's name on it is showing off.“

As I said before- it depends on circumstances. Sometimes it is. Obviously not always-or even usually.

How odd to go to private school and only possess one comfy hoodie anyway.

Why would anyone need more than one hoodie? OK, maybe two, if you need to wear one while the other is drying, but then you'd probably have two school ones, so still wouldn't have a non-logo one.

I own one hoodie. (A non-logo one from Asda.) I could probably afford to buy several thousand hoodies tomorrow, if doing so served some purpose, but I don't understand what benefit I'd get from owning more than one. (Merely making the point that it's not a question of affordability.)

@BertrandRussell
It’s fascinating how private school parents are always completely dismissive of the experience of non private school parents. Never a glimmer of “gosh, I wonder if what these people are saying might actually be true, sometimes” Not even a second’s consideration that maybe behaviour that seems perfectly fine to them might be hurtful or upsetting to other people.

Would that be ALL private school parents or just a sweeping generalisation?

Oh, and whilst we are on the subject, to @zzzzzzzz12345 as well, is it okay for state school parents who can afford it to let their kid swan about in the latest designer labelled trainers or hoodie or is that not fair on the poorer kids at the state school...? . Not sure what the difference is... Or should everyone go around with holes in their shoes and second hand clothes so no-one feels worse off than someone else?

I'd quite like a Ferrari (well, actually, no I wouldn't but that's the poshest car I could think of off the top of my head), should the guy down the road not be allowed to have one and drive his son around in it because my daughter might feel inferior in her poor old mum's battered, ancient Suzuki Jimny?

Utter rubbish. Whatever happened to striving to better yourself and being proud of what you have achieved and can afford to buy yourself? There have been plenty of successful people who started off with nothing and the reason they got to the top was because they wanted all those nice things for themselves and worked hard to get them. Jealousy is a green eyed monster.

How odd to go to private school and only possess one comfy hoodie anyway.

Why would anyone need more than one hoodie?

Yes. Why? They're huge and frankly I don't like them enough to buy more than one.

I don't think this tortured thinking exists outside of MN.

Of course, but just buy them another hoodie so they aren't wandering round town with Saint Custards on it.
Buy them another hoodie. M&S do these much desired comfy hoodies, or even Primark!
But more often than not school and club hoodies are the comfiest to wear and tend to wash better.
I love my hoody from my sports club. I still have university society hoodies that are on the go, not bobbled, not faded and in good condition. By contrast, I've had many a hoody from high street shops that haven't been as good.

Our non selective state school does y11 and y13 leavers hoodies. They're good quality. Many of our 6th formers wear them around. Our sports department do them for various sports trips and students wear them when they're going to training for things out of school. Many of them also have training tops from clubs out of school, or hoodies from theatre group productions too. Should they not wear them in case it makes other people feel insecure?

Why would they not want to wear a piece of versatile, good quality clothing? It's hardly bragging to say "I go to my local comprehensive school", or is it fine for our students to do it (along with several local state schools) and not ok if it's n independent school?

Actually come to think of it, I have a school based hoody from a trip I staffed. It still gets thrown on when I'm running errands.

I better bin a perfectly good piece of clothing because someone might think I'm bragging about my wealth for having a school based item of clothing (the irony being that the trip and event was significant numbers of unpaid overtime )

Believing that someone else is responsible for your feelings is actually the warped thinking that causes emotional abuse.

Teach your children that they alone are responsible for their own feelings.

Also teach them that comparison is the thief of joy.

'Someone else' also = 'someone else's hoodie'.

And actually, it is part of very conventional British social mores to be modest about your wealth and privilege.

That is part of the social mores of the MC and UMC.Modesty about your wealth and privilege is a tribal marker just as shell suits are a tribal marker.

Being flashy is associated with being WC or 'unemployable but won the lottery' or 'rich Russian'.

All of it is tribal markers used to announce oneself or used by others to place you.

I've no idea why privileged people can't just own it. 'Yes Tarquin wears his St Custards jumper because he (and us) like others to know we're privileged'

Because that is something you've made up in your own head because you are consciously or subconsciously resentful. It's not a thing. You can't 'own' something thst literally doesn't exist.

It's like Harrry getting private jets for 'safety' reasons. I've no idea why privileged people can't just own it. 'Yes Tarquin wears his St Custards jumper because he (and us) like others to know we're privileged'.

'Comfy clothes' indeed.

Again, how are the state comprehensive students at my school and several others locally broadcasting their immense privilege at going to the local non-selective state school?

School/society/university/sports/ most other custom hoodies are generally a better quality hoody. They wash better. They wear better. They don't bobble or fade as much.

Of course our children on FSM wearing their hoody from a school team are totally broadcasting how wealthy they are. They wear their hoody to training out of school because they're totally trying to prove to everyone that they are so so privileged.

Yes Tarquin wears his St Custards jumper because he (and us) like others to know we're privileged'.

Look I cannot speak for Tarquin and the rest of St Custards but in our house wearing school apparel out of school comes in the form of hoodies perhaps some specific sports kit.
It is perfectly normal for my dc to attend this school, a lot of their friends do as well, or they attend other similar schools.
My dc have no sense they are privileged, which having had a fairly grim state school experience drives me a bit nuts sometimes. But on the upside because it is just their normal they place no more value on their school than they do on state schools or their pupils.
They all barely mention schools if they have clubs and events with new kids they don't know and the other kids are the same.
I have seen kids from every type of school wearing hoddies and the like. This isn't an education/privilege issue.

I have seen kids from every type of school wearing hoddies and the like. This isn't an education/privilege issue
I agree.
If anything it's quite funny that hoodies used to be considered a more working class item of clothing and were used as a way to demonise young people as antisocial. David Cameron was mocked for 'hug a hoody'.

I actually think it's quite nice that kids aren't embarrassed by where they go this school and are quite happy to wear team clothing/school hoodies.

I'm still hoping someone explains how all the teens in our area are bragging about the privilege of going to the local comprehensive.

the private school mums round here all drive 4x4's and spend their days at the gym

Most round here have a range of cars ranging from big to small, old to brand new. Vast majority go to work during the day, in a range of professions.

They have classes at weekends plus extra curricular weekend stuff

the private school mums round here all drive 4x4's and spend their days at the gym

Have you done a survey? How ridiculous, lots of people drive 4 x 4s, my husband did and it was good because in the course of work he had to go to muddy places with uneven terrain.

Nobody spends all day at a gym for goodness sake. Most people go to work! I did after dropping mine at school.