Aibu to think private school kids wearing their logoed school jumpers at the weekend is weird?

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Isn’t it a bizarre stealth boast, except it’s not stealthy at all and a bit attention seeking? I know several children who do this. If your child does, why?

You’d never catch a state educated child wearing their school jumper at the weekend. If my child started to, I’d suggest they changed.

Maybe they attended a school event where they had to wear it. Just an idea.

Youngest DD plays lots of sport both in and out of school. If we don’t have clean kit and PE kit is available, we’ll use it!

JonSnowisALoser, that was funny but true.

Of course it isn't 'stealth boasting'; the op is being defensive and invertedly (I made that word up), snobbish.

My grammar school does this now with hoodies but with my old uniform too. When I went it had a very particular uniform and we were told we were special and we shouldn’t act like we attend the local comp (I didn’t even get what they were talking about at the time tbh as didn’t know what a comp was ). All state school still though. I see them wearing the hoodies now at the weekends, they didn’t have a hoodie when I went but I remember being very proud of my uniform.
Obviously I die of cringe thinking about it now, I imagine they may too one day...

In reply to the original post YABU. My child goes to a non selective state school. She regularly wears her school hoodie and has worn her school jumper at weekends/holidays for non school events. So do many of her friends. She likes both garments and she is not ashamed to show people she likes and is proud of being part of that her school. So I am afraid you are wrong to say a state educated child would never do this as I have personal evidence to the contrary..

I went to private school and that included Saturdays. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Judge much?

i (just realised that my oldest is wearing his school
midlayer and tracksuit top for athletics training in winter. i didn’t realise we were boasting, i though we were sensible to not buy an entire seperate kit since we have a perfectly serviceable one already. Guess we’ll just continue to boast

I stopped reading this when the OP said she didn't think her children deserved a better education.

Seriously? You wouldn't give your kids the best start they can get in life? You should be ashamed.

I listen to people on TV/radio wishing to close all private schools and wonder why. Seriously, you could not overnight build enough schools to allow all the private school pupils a place. What they are saying is they don't want to bring the whole country up to a certain level, they instead want to bring the country down to a certain level. It is worth noting that many of the advocates of the cessation of private schools went to private schools themselves and choose to send their kids to them when they can.

If we lose our private schools we will also lose the status of our elite universities, everything will cave in. So yes, I support private schools because I support our country.

This is a strange thread but, as a result of it, I now know what Sumptuary Laws are. I’d never heard of these before.

It is when private school kids wear their logo'd tops for socialising with the plebs that it becomes odd.

Which is crazy. Why rely on a hoodie to subtlety convey that message when a crown and an ermine robe would be much better suited to rubbing your privilege in the faces of the smelly oiks?

Perhaps the state school kids couldn't give a fuck that their mate goes to St Custards? This is so much more a parent problem.

As I said about a 100 years ago, it’s as daft to say this never happens as it is to say it always does. I live in an area which is wholly selective. A lot of energy is invested by many parents and many children into getting into grammar school. The parents of successful children and the children themselves are understandably proud of themselves- and there is always a breakout of grammar school hoodies at club and town sports events over the summer after year 6 and the beginning of year 7. It’s just human nature. Not a very attractive side of human nature- but there it is.

@MauritiusNext ok, i‘ll tell him he‘s not allowed to talk to anybody while wearing it....
People are weird. its a functional/comfy jumper, not some sort of status symbol.
Most of his friends wear school tops as well btw, from a variety of private and state schools (and from a special school, gasp!), the kids don’t care!

@Manontry exactly. kids don’t care (at least none of my son‘s friends do)

Why on earth do you care?

Good for them, school uniforms cost a fortune, may as well get as much wear out of them as possible.

“I suppose school jumpers are nothing different. Just please stop with the comfy crap“

Indeed. And also with the “This never happens” crap.

What a load of rubbish- trying to show off to the plebes.

Ds is 6 I doubt he even knows he's at a private school. We haven't told him it's a few paying school, it's a school to him.

Some of you have a huge chip on your shoulder. Who cares?

Fee paying that should be

My children went to state primary. I could afford private, but for moral/ethical/political reasons - and yes, with more than a hint of reverse snobbery, the private school mums round here all drive 4x4's and spend their days at the gym, I could not relate - I wanted them to have a state education. Not to mention the huge amount of tax I've put into the system over the years and not wanting to have to pay out twice.

We put DD1 into the local state school in year 7. She'd left primary with amazing SATS results, a great attitude to learning and a reputation for being a good role model. Within a year at secondary school everything had taken a slide downhill; she was being badly behaved and disrespectful, she was being bullied by both teachers and students and her grades had started to slide. She didn't want to go to private school. We didn't want her to go to private school. But we looked at the other local options and realised that the school she was at was the best in our area. So we put her into private school. Within half a term she was totally back on track and back to being the girl she'd been at primary.

If your child is happy and thriving at state school, then you are blessed. If your child is struggling and you are in a position to do something about it, then I think you should. And I think most people would.

Also, re schoolwear at the weekend, my daughter would rather eat her own arm than be seen dead in anything that picked her out as a 'posh private school girl' at the weekends. I think this might be something that's unique to your area OP!

Isn’t it a bizarre stealth boast, except it’s not stealthy at all and a bit attention seeking?

No it isn’t. Hardly attention seeking, since most people wouldn’t bat an eyelid at that - except you OP, so maybe you need to get over your own weird issues and insecurities about who goes to school where - why does children feeling proud of their school and being part of a school community bother you?

Of course, but just buy them another hoodie so they aren't wandering round town with Saint Custards on it.

Like I said, my girl wouldn't be seen dead in a school jumper outside of school. And I have never seen it anywhere in the (private school heavy) area in which I live. I'm pretty sure it doesn't really happen, except where OP lives!