an adult woman called my 9 yr old a 'wierdo' waiting outside the girls toilets....

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he was waiting for me, he said he waiting for his mum, a apparently she didn't respond and walked in, im so proud of ds for sticking up for himself. but im so sad i I wasn't there, to protect him, he was confused when he told me, he is too young to understand the implication, someday he will be that devastates me. yes he is tall for his age, he is nearly 5 ft, but still, he clearly has a childs face, so at a push could be mistaken for 12, apparently she was with her teen daughter. which for some reason makes me feel he would have been more embarrassed. are we really at a point?? where a 4"10 boy, with shaggy hair, wearing a reverse sequin marvel tshirt. cant wait outside public loos for his mum without being labelled a "wierdo" hes not even old enough to understand not sure what im asking im just heartbroken, what a world we live in . hes been bery withdrawn and quiet since.

I'd have waited outside for her and ripped her a new shitter.

9 year old boys are completely innocent. They also live in their own little worlds so their would be no nothing malicious would go thro their heads by standing in front of the door. My 11 year old stands away now as he has just reached the age where standing outside the door would be embarrassing for him but again even if he was standing near the door all someone would have to do is say excuse me please. As for people saging it makes woman and 9 year old girls feel uncomfortable please get a grip, some 9 year old boys still use the female toilets with their mum so I really don't see your point.

@HugsAreMyDrugs So my prediction on page one was correct

@HugsAreMyDrugs So my prediction on page one was correct

Haha. Did you expect the relentlessness of it though? Jesus fucking Christ!

If I saw a boy that age outside the ladies, I'd assume he was waiting for his mum/sister/gran. Nothing else.

I don't see how his age is even relevant. My 50-something DH often waits for me outside the loos. There's frequently a collection of bored looking men doing the same thing. He's never been challenged, but then he's not an easy target.

“My 50-something DH often waits for me outside the loos.“

But presumably he knows to keep away from the door?

In the store I mentioned the bench is outside the door because it’s in a corridor. Others loos are side by side. Keeping away from the door isn’t an option.

There are some odd responses on here OP, I think it’s simply a rotten thing to happen to your son, there are so many nasty people around now, I despair

“There are some odd responses on here OP, ”

There isn’t a single poster who has not agreed that the woman was horrible and should not have said what she did. Not one.

Oh God I'm afraid in that situation is have waited for the thick cow and asked her why she said it. But then I'm not known for my subtle approach..

In the store I mentioned the bench is outside the door because it’s in a corridor. Others loos are side by side. Keeping away from the door isn’t an option

Which is why layouts are important to the question - however with a bench, the clear way of respecting the privacy of everyone is to sit on the bench, in fact that's probably why it's been placed there (even if not necessarily consciously by the designer) Toilets in department stores / mall's / service stations etc. are generally designed this way such that there is a place to wait where people who are leaving the toilet area have to pass but at the same time is not directly in the way, if it is directly in the way something like benches, displays are placed there so the waiting person are clearly not loitering outside.

It is in the way as it’s a tight corridor. Nobody gives a shit and bollocks to the clear displays to make it obvious there is no loitering. There is zilch because in the uk due to lack of space loos are shoehorned in all manner of tiny places. Most people are just grateful to find one and couldn’t give a shiny shit how the outside is set out. In fact loos are disappearing, whine and make up ridiculous shite like the need for marked non loitering zones and watch them disappear all together.

Yes, this woman was rude and her behaviour was unnecessary, but you are over-reacting big time. To use words like ‘devastated’ and ‘heartbroken’ over a random episode like this is exaggerated. So you met a woman who acted out of line, it’s not the end of the world. There are people who really are devastated and heartbroken about bereavement and serious illness - you need a sense of perspective.

I agree, it’s a sorry world we live in... just let your son know that some people are very strange

Says more about the stupid woman than anyone. To even think in that way. Probably a right chav. Poor boy.

Disgusting behaviour from a grown woman, she should be ashamed of herself for deliberately humiliating a child.

Woman was acting disgusting

Her comment was rude and unnecessary, it doesn't matter what her reason was.

@Blondieg no it's not a bit much. He's only 9 and was insulted by a grown woman he doesn't know. Do not defend the indefensible.

That's ridiculous. I was still sometimes taking my son in the loos with me at that age if his dad wasn't with us, and it was a place I thought he might not be safe.

What an awful woman. I take my 9 year old (very tall wears age 13 clothes) in ladies toilets when he needs to go. No way I’m sending him into men’s alone. I read about a boy being sexually assaulted in a McDonald’s and I won’t be letting him in them without his older brother or dad for a few years yet!

Well my son is just 9, sweet boy, slight and small for his age. We live in central London and if he needs the loo he comes in the ladies with me.
There is no way I’m sending my 9yr old into a toilet with a bunch of strange men.
Maybe that makes me a weirdo but his safety is my priority and I’d rather be called weird than have him in the clutches of some dodgy man in the loo.
Tell your son that she’s a crazy lady and dismiss it - her comments won’t be a big deal if you dismiss them as nuts.
What an odd woman.

Formerbabe - I believe you stand corrected. Are you new here?🤣🤣🤣

Don't make to much of it if ds mentions it again just tell him he is fine nothing to worry about you sometimes get strange adults like that.
Being kind maybe her daughter is extremely sensitive and it was done for her supposed benefit.
On the other hand shes prob just an adult weirdo.

Horrid horrid women. But unfortunately loads of vile people. But fortunately loads of fantastic people too. Don't let him dwell on it shit happens xxxx