an adult woman called my 9 yr old a 'wierdo' waiting outside the girls toilets....

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he was waiting for me, he said he waiting for his mum, a apparently she didn't respond and walked in, im so proud of ds for sticking up for himself. but im so sad i I wasn't there, to protect him, he was confused when he told me, he is too young to understand the implication, someday he will be that devastates me. yes he is tall for his age, he is nearly 5 ft, but still, he clearly has a childs face, so at a push could be mistaken for 12, apparently she was with her teen daughter. which for some reason makes me feel he would have been more embarrassed. are we really at a point?? where a 4"10 boy, with shaggy hair, wearing a reverse sequin marvel tshirt. cant wait outside public loos for his mum without being labelled a "wierdo" hes not even old enough to understand not sure what im asking im just heartbroken, what a world we live in . hes been bery withdrawn and quiet since.

I WAS NOT THERE, i was in the loo, it doesn't make it ok to verbally abuse a child.

Yanbu at all, the women (grown up) should be able to use her manners and should have spoke to him in a resonable way IF he was in her way.
She was the adult he’s the child in this situation, and yet somehow your child is being blamed for what happened.

She should not have abused him.

If he was very close to the entrance or peering in, you need to remind him not to do that another time. Not because of this vile woman but because it is the courteous thing to do.

Please don't let your 6 yo go in public toilets without you

thatainttheone, he will not go into the ladies, unless he needs "help" and inthe past that has been an issue. he has suspected asd /pda, its not straight forward in my situation.

He’s 9. Fine to go to the loo on his own at 9.

She’s the weirdo, try not to dwell on it.

I would personally let my six year old go alone into a public toilet.

She's just being ridiculous. What harm did she think he could do. Sometimes my husband waits for me outside the ladies. I honestly don't see what the issue is!

She was a coward. These adults will always do this to people/children they think are "weaker" than them. Older men, for example, who tell women to "smile", or try to tell a mother off how their kids behave etc. Cowards, who would never, ever, say such things to anyone with people with them who they would see as "non-weak" (ie, if your son was waiting with his 6 foot tall dad, or the men who say "smile" wouldn;t say it should the woman have a man with her, especially one tall/built as fuck etc).

I’m so confused...
Adults/ kids of all ages and sexe wait outside toilets all the time why would a sane normal person think to engage in conversation?
If he goes not understand implications of what she said why is he withdrawn or upset why can’t he shake it off as some strange lady said a weird thing?

Oh for God’s sake, just make sure he knows not to stand directly in front of the door and / or open the door and peer in. Why are people still claiming not to know what the issue could possibly be?

So tell him that yes, the woman overreacted, but next time he should stand a few paces away from the door. Sorted.

This.

You pig, Rottnest

You will be the one with wet knickers and chapped legs. I doubt I will even know you have been there.

Jeez, aren't you a peach.

HeadintheiClouds

What is the possible issue? Last time I was in a public ladies loo, the users peed in cubicles and weren’t exposing themselves in the communal sink area.

If you’re blocking the doorway or making women feel uncomfortable by your presence then I couldn’t care less how you feel about my attitude. See, it works both ways

So she gets to abuse a child!! Because he might have stood in the door way, get a fucking grip. He’s a child. 9 years old waiting for his mum.
You are giving women a bad name if you think it’s acceptable for a grown lady to call a child a weirdo and abuse him.
If she is unable to go about her business and let a 9 year old go about his business without abusing him then she needs to stay home.

Most women would be able to communicate without being abusive IF a child was stood in a door way.

“You are giving women a bad name if you think it’s acceptable for a grown lady to call a child a weirdo and abuse him.”

Nobody has said it is acceptable. Not one person.

*“You are giving women a bad name if you think it’s acceptable for a grown lady to call a child a weirdo and abuse him.”

Nobody has said it is acceptable. Not one per*

Pages and pages of justification though

Well, I haven’t experienced it directly myself, Ohflippingeck, but read Codenameduchess’s post at 17.17 for a (fairly credible, unfortunately) possible issue.

Nobody has justified her reaction at all. She shouldn’t have called him a weirdo.

Some people are £*%|€|$ that’s just the way the world is. This is a lesson on dealing with the emotion quickly and moving on, he knows he was doing nothing wrong.

Neither of these are places where they have an expectation of an all female space. If they have to ask a boy to move so they can get into the loo, he is in a all female space, and he shouldn’t be

The doorway isn't an all female space. Inside is all female (except when it isn't) but outside is for anyone. If someone is in your way you ask them to move!

He doesn’t need to stand a certain amount of steps away from female toilets or look at random objects. He’s a little boy waiting for his mam, he needs to be waiting where his mam left him.
And can people stop suggesting that he was peering in to look at women in the loo, why assume that?? He’s a 9 year old boy he’s not doing anything inappropriate he’s waiting for his mam, end of!
Honestly wtf is wrong with some people?!

Jeez, aren't you a peach

OK, so the wet knickers and chapped legs bit was probably going a bit far, so I'll apologise for that.

But only that.