Friends comment about my baby

[mumaw]

Just the above. I have a friend who's baby is 2 weeks younger than mine who is already sitting up in a bumbo seat. She mentioned to me that it was worrying my baby still can't support his head properly - he's still really wobbly with it.

I've started to panic now. He's my first baby so I don't know if it is something to think about or not.

I have tried putting him on his tummy so that he can practice lifting his head but he hates it and starts to whinge until I turn him on his back.

Is this normal?

How old is your baby?

How old is the baby?

How old is your baby? He sounds tiny, in which case a) don't worry about it and b) don't let your friend compare them - this is only the start and it will become really toxic

You need to tell us the age of the baby, OP.

My baby is 17 weeks old. Her baby is 15 weeks old.

Sorry I thought I'd put my ds age in my OP

We can't say, don't know how old the baby is, and they don't all develop at the same rate. My friend's son was walking and climbing at 8 months, mine didn't walk till about 16 months, and never crawled, either.
If you are worried, take the baby to a clinic/ see gp/ health visitor.

Also last week her baby sat up himself unsupported.. and she said something about that too it is hard not to compare but I feel like my ds is so far from doing anything like that and I'm worried he's behind developmentally

Well the average is four months but that’s just an average and your baby isn’t quite four months. I wouldn’t worry.

Don't take any notice of her he'll go at his own pace but if you're worrying about tummy time try reclining yourself back on the bed with pillows and putting him on your chest on his tummy. Mine wouldn't do tummy time and I had pressure from health visitors to do it but she loved laying on my chest on her tummy looking up at me

I'm not 100% sure putting 15 week old baby in a bumbo is a great idea. She should still be supporting head and not straining the baby

Bumbo seats aren't really sitting up, it's more like they are propped up. I don't think they are recommended tbh.

My DS hated tummy time for ages, but you just have to persevere, a few minutes at a time.

Your "Friend" sounds like a competitive twat. All babies are different and I'm sure your child is fine. Babies do things on their own timescale. If you are concerned, speak to your HV. Ignore her OP, she will probably spend her life comparing and competing.

Your friend is a competitive parent OP. Take no notice. There will be some things your baby does before hers as well - by the time they’re at school nobody can remember what age they did these things anyway!

I hate seeing young babies stuffed into bumbos.

Your baby is doing just fine OP, your friend sounds irritatingly competitive.

It just makes me feel like shit when she comments on things. Like my baby is behind because he hasn't done any of the things her baby has done and he is younger.

She's just started him on solids too but my DS is still just on milk, which I don't think there is anything wrong with? He doesn't seem interested in food yet.

Your friend is a dick. And she's trying to make herself feel better about some shit in her own life by picking on you and your baby. I bet she's worried about him in other ways, but won't admit it. She's a twat, and you should drop her.

Comparison is the thief of joy. Babies do do things at different rates don’t give it a second thought. Ignore any competitive mum comments her baby might do physical things more quickly than yours a few months down the line yours might be talking before hers. None of it really matters. I’d also find it hard to believe a 15 week old baby sat up unsupported in any case most babies don’t actually do that until around 6 months.

She sounds like she wants him to do everything first or early to show off regardless of if it harms her baby.

I thought bumbo seats weren’t recommended anymore. I wouldn’t worry, babies do things at different rates.
My baby walked at 9 months, my sister’s baby doesn’t yet at 15 months. They’ll get there don’t worry. Take no notice of your friend.

My friends son couldn’t support his own head for ages. Didn’t sit up unaided until he was about 10 months, and was late crawling and walking. She was quite worried at the time.

He’s now a very intelligent 13 year old with no physical problems.

Try not to compare and worry, they’re all different.

I wouldnt worry too much but keep doing tummy time and hopefully your baby will build some strength in their neck. Mine was still a bit floppy that age and has been very slow at sitting (she moves a lot but doesn't like to sit, just her personality I think though!)

Do you know many older children who cant sit up unaided?

It doesnt make her baby particularly advanced, or yours behind. They dont all do stuff on the same day at the same age and it makes zero difference even if you could do anything about it. Enjoy your lovely baby

Your baby is fine OP! Your friend is being a competitive twat. Holding head up well, sitting unaided, walking etc all comes naturally in their own time. There is no deadline. Report any concerns to your HV but honestly, just enjoy your baby whilst he's still a baby and don't worry about all these things.

My DS2 wouldn't comfortably hold his own head up until he was about 5 months, my DS1 was 3 months. DS2 only sat unaided when he was 10 months, DS1 was 6 months. DS2 still not walking at 13 months, DS1 was walking at 9 months. All babies are so different. Its something that often amazes me, they really do just do things at their own pace.

Take no notice and in fact shut down all the comparison.

On average boys are a bit behind in the first few months, gestation and birth weight influence as well.

I had all girls (4) my 43 weeker was advanced in holding her head up etc. One of mine couldn't sit unaided until she was 10 months old! One of them walked at 17 months, one 11 months. One had clear speech talking in 20 word sentences by 18 months, 1 had severe speech delay.

All teens and older all "normal"!