Friends comment about my baby

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Just the above. I have a friend who's baby is 2 weeks younger than mine who is already sitting up in a bumbo seat. She mentioned to me that it was worrying my baby still can't support his head properly - he's still really wobbly with it.

I've started to panic now. He's my first baby so I don't know if it is something to think about or not.

I have tried putting him on his tummy so that he can practice lifting his head but he hates it and starts to whinge until I turn him on his back.

Is this normal?

Babies do things in their own time as they're all different and speaking as someone who has had lots I can honestly say that the most important thing is to enjoy your time with your baby, they grow and change stages very quickly, treasure the time and forget about baby comparing

Every child is different... Everyone is different. I hate "friends" that carry on like this... Eventually you will learn to ignore their comments OR just say everyone is different everyone learns things at a different pace💐

And treasure all the time that you have because before you know it they will be trying to run away on you while you go shopping, or fighting with you while you cut their toenails. Life is amazing and you're a fabulous mummy💐

I'm sorry OP I'm going to go against the grain here, yes your friend does sound like a competitive arse and sitting uo unaided isn't something many, 4 month old can do, but if he is struggling to hold his head up at 4 months old I would be a little concerned. A lot of babies hate tummy time, my ds did. I would perhaps mention it to the health visitor. It's probably nothing, and yes all babies develop differently. I suppose it depemse what you mean by "he's still quite wobbly with it".

Your friend is a twat. It sounds like you’re doing fine. How rude of her to compare and frankly, she’s introducing solids rather early. Anyway, it’s hardly indicative of her baby’s cleverness. She clearly has insecurities to do this. Her poor child will likely be her means of propping up her own low self esteem.

My baby was really slow with tummy time etc and learning to crawl. Then she just stood up and walked at 10 months and didn't look back. Never actually crawled. So I really wouldn't worry tbh

Just to be clear, they’re not suggesting that your child has developmental problems, she’s bragging to imply hers is super-brain Uber-intelligent.

What age you can hold head up, read, sing in Japanese, do Riverdance has no bearing for any longer than it lasts.

Sorry, I haven't read all the posts, but just wanted to suggest using a sling - it seemed to help my DD with head support. She couldn't really do tummy time easily because she was in a harness for her hips, and she hated any attempts at it. But because I also couldn't easily use a pram, I used the sling a lot and she had good head control. But I'm sure your baby is perfect. Your friend sounds awful. Buckle up though, because the competitive parenting goes on and on. No point in pushing developmental stages, just support them and love and enjoy them. Good luck!

17 weeks? That’s early to sit up unaided anyway. 15 weeks even earlier, although a) I think a bumbo is cheating really and b) your friend sounds bloody annoying.

Though the exact same thing. Though perhaps a stronger word than twat 😉

I have a dd who was later than milestones at everything. She sat up at 6 months if I remember rightly. I have another dd who did everything early x

Babies do things at different speeds. A child who walks early may speak later and a child who sleeps through the night early may be later potty training.
She sounds very silly by making comments, take no notice.

Mine didn't like tummy time.
My kids did not sit up, roll over or walk at the same time as other kids born within weeks. Mine could clap, hop and communicate before others.
In summary, parenting gets very competitive which causes ftm to become anxious. Every child is different!
If you have concerns, chat with the health visitor.

I think all mums end up with a 'friend' like this at some stage. The one that can't resist turning every conversation into a list of how advanced and amazing her child is. At best it's thoughtless, at worst it's mean-spirited. Ignore, distance yourself a little bit, and find some other people to hang out with who are supportive and friendly.

Ignore ignore ignore, you’re doing great. No child ever went into primary school horizontal.

Ignore and move on,
Unfortunately you have your entire child's future where this will happen....
What book level is your kid on?
What grade did they get in exams?
When did your kid learn to ride a bike and so on. It's tough and there's a particular type of person that loves to boast about such things to put you or your kid down and to make themselves feel good at the expense of upsetting someone else.
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Sure your baby is fine and will progress at his own speed which is what's important. Do not let people like your friend get into your head. It's really not worth it.
You sound like a lovely mum.

It's annoying isn't it, and I know what you mean it is so easy to compare and get upset when you feel like you're behind. But as has been said every baby is different, and they have no real bearing on the future anyway. It sounds like your little one is doing great, and there's really no rush to get weaning unless advised by a doctor or health visitor for some reason.

My daughter didn't sit up with no help until she was walking!!!!!
Some people made comments to me... And you know what, someone always will.. no matter what age your child. Some people seem to think they can push THEIR worry about something onto you.

As long as your child is happy and healthy then just ignore!!

My sil had a baby weeks within me having mine there was always the "oh my baby is already crawling!" "My baby can pull herself up already and she's only X months old!" It got to the point I would joke that my child could walk the dog and bath herself at a month old lol. X

@HolyGuac
Summed it up!!

It's her poor baby I would be worried about, forcing them to do things so early just so she can boast. Surely a bumbo and solid food for a baby that young really isn't a good idea. Your baby is fine op, there's no rush it's true when they say they don't stay babies for very long, just enjoy it

All babies are different.
Mine is now over 2 and I could compare him to all the other two year olds but it wouldn’t do me any good

OP ignore this "friend".

Having a baby you can put down and know they won't move away is a joy you will only understand when they start rolling, crawling, cruising and toddling into trouble.

Your "friend" won't be so happy when she has to child proof every part of her home at 6 months and not forget the cupboard locks.

As a PP said they are often Walkers or Talkers eg DS1 at eight months would recline in his bouncing chair as he wasn't able to sit up unaided, but had 3 words in his vocabulary Hello, Cat and Dog!
He is a train driver so his lack of physical prowess as a baby has not affected him into adulthood.
Take no notice of your friend, I have four dc's and they all developed at different rates and are all fully functioning adults.
If you really are bothered at any time about your childs abilities talk to the Health Visitor, thats what they are there for!
When your friend starts to "brag" just murmer "thats nice".
In the not to distant future she may be cursing her physically advanced child when he's climbing up the furniture and hanging out on the window sills and emptying her cupboards, while yours is happilly playing on the floor with his toys!

I once met a woman at a baby group who suggested her son was more advance than mine because he had cut more teeth

It depends what you mean by 'really wobbly'. If your baby literally has no head control at 4 months old then yes, I would mention it to a healthcare professional as that sounds on the outer edge of what is 'normal' at that age. In 8 weeks time or so, by 6 months, it would be reasonable to expect your baby to able to sit in a high chair, pick up food and put it to their mouth, which obviously means having stable head control. It sounds like that is quite far away for your baby?