11 yo DD & Hotter Shoes

[TheClitterati]

X took DD school shoe shopping. We discussed getting DM,s or Clark's. DD now has a pair of Hotter black school shoes. Aren't they for the over 50's?
Will this potentially ruin dds first year at high school?

WIBU to raise the matter and suggest we return them?

NB: This would also mean I'd have to spend this weekend looking for School shoes.

AIBU?
WWYD?

I’d go for kickers if she says she likes them.

Oh jeez, I am 46 and wouldn’t be seen dead in those, but if she’s happy and comfortable in them good on her!

This all reminds me of going to visit our daughter at University, she admired a pair of boots I was wearing, complained that her trainers were no good in poor weather. Naturally I said I would buy her a pair of these boots and she was delighted, until I said that they were from Scholl. No way would she have them now.

They just look like black school shoes to me.

I'd take them back. They don't look very sturdy.

Kickers would be lovely for her x

@TheClitterati. Sorry to hear about the bullying. Can you explain more? I've a dc that is teased in a very mean way about having DM brogues. Kids will always find something I guess. Those shoes are just ugly though lol

I'm 36 and I wear Hotter at work. The Donna shoes are gorgeous.

I know an 11-year-old with very similar shoes. Not my cup of tea personally but she's happy with them.

I think similar shoes are in fashion but secondary school children are not daft- they know the subtle difference between orthopaedic shoes and fashionable ones.

I think it's good that this is on your radar OP. My mum didn't get it, she was in the 'if people don't want to be friends with you because of your shoes then they are not worthy of friendship' camp. I didn't want to be friends with the people who picked on others for what they wore, I just didn't want to stand out to them. I know they're in the wrong and you should be able to wear what you want but i didn't want to take that stance age 12, I just wanted to fit in.

Oh my word. Let her wear the shoes. If anyone bullies her they are not the friends she wants anyway. She will make better friends who care about things other than shoes. You underestimate kids.

if,i read correctly,dd was taken shopping and made her choice,hasnt came home in tears claiming of forced to buy them....tho..you suggest may have been a unchallenged\result of bored now selection. ? if she hates them tomo-take them back.if the tick the permitted,suitable,weather resistant,criteria boxes....alls good? shoebitchin bout dd on mumsnet with hint of genuinely being concerned outweighs 11yo not givin much of a f++k bout footwear.

RB68
if she is happy with them you need to let it go and stop judging the book by the cover
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I agree with the above.

Some 'Hotter' shoes are really cool.
I'm still grieving that I never bought a pair in 'orchid'.
As long as they look nice and are comfortable, don't worry. Hotter shoes are not old fashioned, however I doubt any other kids will delve anyway.

I really like these:

www.drmartens.com/uk/en_gb/p/25306001

If your daughter has chosen these because she genuinely likes them and they're comfy, then keep them.

If she chose them to appease her father and get shoe shopping done (5 hours!!) and would much rather have the kickers, then see if they can be returned and the kickers bought instead.

My eldest is starting secondary and I really understand where you are coming from as I was picked on mercilessly for 5 years at secondary! I have this fear for my dd although have let her choose shoes she likes and says are comfy - she's gone for the Clark's brogues.

I’m a secondary teacher and yes kids wear brogues all the time but not like those!

They will stand out a mile and not in a good way.

Brogues of choice at my school are the hambleoaks ones from Clark’s. Long wearing and comfy, I wear the coloured ones myself all the time so can attest to how comfy they are after a day on your feet. I’d get them and they are cheaper than those monstrosities.

And Giantkitten I’m afraid the Ecco ones you linked to are even worse.

Return them they are ugly

She will get torn to shreds for those shoes. Sounds harsh but true. Kids are very mean those days and they are shoes for a certain age.

These*

Also the shoes that have been linked/shown are all clumpy. Most school kids now wear vans/nike/Adidas

Oh god, please don't let her wear them. Other kids will make fun of her. I really do mean that kindly.

I hate bullying and can't stand kids who pick on others for what they wear and I know it's wrong to give in to the bullies but I think where possible you should avoid making your children an easy target. These shoes would do just that I'm afraid.

I hate shoe shopping with the kids so I feel your pain at having to do it.

I see fashionable women in their late teens/early twenties wearing clothes that I think are mismatched and old fashioned so I don’t think I could predict what they’d like. I do approve that they often seem to wear comfy looking shoes/trainers.

I’d go with the opinion of the secondary school teacher, although there may be some variation between schools on what’s locally acceptable.

They look like granny shoes - sorry to all the grannies on here

I would get her some kickers - more her age group

All of my nieces ( 4 of them ) started year 7 with Kickers, they're fabulous and last forever and are not usually worn by pensioners ;)

Wynsors shoes have them for around £30. My dd is 8 and starting year 4 next week and she got Kickers too, you can't go wrong with them.

It depends on your child. If she is the type of child. Who couldn't care less what people say. Then hell yes let her wear what she wants and be proud of her for being that way. If you feel she may get upset if people pick on her shoes and sadly, they may well do. The kids of this generation can be very nasty and spiteful (I have kids in comp) then definitely change them. Good luck.

they look very comfy but i agree not the best looking (or even ok looking). i would take her shoe shopping again and if she can choose something better, then return those.