To not have told him where the bread was from?

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This morning it was DHs turn to make Coffee and Breakfast (I did it yesterday). He did the coffees as soon as we came down but I had to ask him 3 times when he was doing breakfast.

Eventually he went in to so us some toast and then asked which shop I got the bread from. Strange question I thought as it was a well known brand and can be purchased at literally any of the local shops. So I asked why he asked. This, apparently, was my first mistake as you 'cant answer a question with a question'. Who knew? So he asked again, where it was from, I said it's Robert's bread, why does it matter which shop it's from? He then stormed in the living room saying he's not doing my toast, cos I can't answer a simple question blah blah blah. I said it was an irrelevant question, why would it matter if it was from Tesco or Morrisons? It was Robert's bread. He said the packaging was different and he didn't recognize it...if he'd read the name on the package he would have surely known it was Robert's? Just as a side note he does this all the time, doesn't look at or for things properly and asks he where something is that is literally in front of his face.

Anyway, so this started a big what I can only describe as a tantrum on his part, yes at the ages of nearly 30. I laughed and said he was being ridiculous over a loaf of bread. Laughing at his immaturity was apparently my second mistake.

So I've been in bed all day, as I didn't want to be around him when he's in a vile mood. It's been lovely actually, I've read a whole book, had a nap, played a game on my phone, read mumsnet, just lovely really. This may have been my third mistake as he's been downstairs with DS all day.

I tried to call a truce earlier but was ignored.

He's now gone out whilst I'm putting DS to bed and when I've text to ask where he's gone his reply was 'Im just doing what you're doing and not answering a simple question'

God give me strength, I didn't realise I'd married a 5 year old. Oh well, I'll have the whole bed to myself tonight as he will no doubt sleep on the sofa. I'll take that as a win I think. And yes he's normally like this, 'The king of petty' I call him.

So WIBU to have not told him where the bread was from?

Just to add... My DH gives half answers or 'why do you want to know' answers too.
Makes me so mad. Bloody annoying. Why do people have to be so difficult?

Your response seemed a bit petty but if he's often like this I can see why. It sounds like it's not really about the bread argument but you're getting sick of him generally. He sounds a bit like my STBXH in the way he turned something that could have been nothing into a day of being in a strop and then ignored the attempt at a truce.

OP, I missed that yes, sorry!
Ahh, OP, you need to call quits!! You're fighting fire with fire!

You are as petty and ridiculous as each other.

This.

I don’t think his behaviour was any more immature or petty than yours tbh. It’s a shame a whole day has been ruined because you wouldn’t answer a simple question (why?) and because of his ridiculous overreaction!

Rainonmyguitar I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking that

We have a stupid argument all over a loaf of fucking bread and ohhh my poor child, DH is probably violent and, and we don't even like each other.

Answering a question with a question is quite rude. If you had simply answered with what shop you purchased the bread from last and then explained that you have bought it in more than one shop, you would have got your toast a lot quicker and saved a lot of wasted hours ignoring each other.
Your behaviour reminds me of " Yeah but, no but, yeah but no but..." and Kevin & Perry.

You sound like my mother. She sulked for England and would retreat to hide in the bedroom. All of us children hated it and as adults we all remember her 'tempers' about minor issues.
You should be ashamed of yourself. I agree with other posters that your marriage is over. It is not fair on your child.

Goodness knows how you will treat your children if they ask the 'wrong' question at the wrong time.
Will you really chalk up giving your son a very weird, unpleasant day as a 'win' for yourself?
You need to think very hard about the way you treat other people.

A stupid argument that saw you take to your bed all day while your three-year-old was downstairs with his dad who tantrums over a sliced loaf. So yes, "poor kid" seems pretty apt in the light of your OP. Maybe you haven't grown up in a household with petty, point-scoring, sulky parents but lots of people here have. It's no fun.

There will be trouble in the real world if you are as dismissive of other people as you are to your husband.
In the words of MN, you sound like hard work.

" and ohhh my poor child,"

Why do you ridicule this? Do you seriously think his parents fighting over petty things and them making a habit out of one of them sulking for the whole day and leaving him alone with the other parent doesn't affect him?

You are mocking your son on here, what are you going to be like to him when he is a bit older?

I think a lot of people are projecting a bit.

Please show me where I have mocked my son mrsmuddlepies

We have a stupid argument all over a loaf of fucking bread and ohhh my poor child, DH is probably violent and, and we don't even like each
other.

Not much fun for your son living with you and your sulky tantrums about being asked a question.

HIBU to keep being angry all day. Unless it's a very regular occurrence.
My DH does this answering question with a question. It's soooo annoying. I blew up few times over the years too if I am honest.
"Where is x?"
"Why?"
Ugh

I think a lot of people are projecting a bit.

Yes, because they've grown up in households with parents like you and your DH playing constant comeuppance and appreciate how toxic the atmosphere can be. But hey, you crack on with your all-day sulks - as long as you emerge the winner, who cares whether it impacts your DS as he grows up.

yes we are happy

There is not a single thing in your pairs to suggest it. I can't get my head round a grown adult staying in bed rather than say 'tesco'

I don't think you know what mocking means mrsmuddlepies

Bookworm yes this has happened before but this is not "constant" and my child is not growing up in a toxic atmosphere. Do you think I should have stayed downstairs all day ignoring DH and the argent potentially continuing/escalating? Because that would be toxic.

Everyone acting all holier than thou like they've never had a petty argument before

Do you think I should have stayed downstairs all day ignoring DH and the argent potentially continuing/escalating?

No you should have got on with your fucking day. Why would you ignore him? Jesus.

Our marriage is not dead in the water over 1 petty argument, I know this is AIBU but jeeeez

But it’s not one petty argument. It’s the way you have both behaved after it that’s the problem. You are both as bad as each other.

Yes pool that would be because this post is about one argument on one single day out of the past 10 years that we have been together.

Would you lik a list of all the good points about our relationship?

But hey, you crack on with your all-day sulks - as long as you emerge the winner, who cares whether it impacts your DS as he grows up

Bonkers. Her DS was downstairs with his other parent, perfectly fine. Should they have carried on ignoring each other in front of their child? Would that suit you better?

Would you lik a list of all the good points about our relationship?

I'm not remotely interested.

You both sound petty, you.should have just answered him.