To not have told him where the bread was from?

[ItsOnlyBloodyBread]

This morning it was DHs turn to make Coffee and Breakfast (I did it yesterday). He did the coffees as soon as we came down but I had to ask him 3 times when he was doing breakfast.

Eventually he went in to so us some toast and then asked which shop I got the bread from. Strange question I thought as it was a well known brand and can be purchased at literally any of the local shops. So I asked why he asked. This, apparently, was my first mistake as you 'cant answer a question with a question'. Who knew? So he asked again, where it was from, I said it's Robert's bread, why does it matter which shop it's from? He then stormed in the living room saying he's not doing my toast, cos I can't answer a simple question blah blah blah. I said it was an irrelevant question, why would it matter if it was from Tesco or Morrisons? It was Robert's bread. He said the packaging was different and he didn't recognize it...if he'd read the name on the package he would have surely known it was Robert's? Just as a side note he does this all the time, doesn't look at or for things properly and asks he where something is that is literally in front of his face.

Anyway, so this started a big what I can only describe as a tantrum on his part, yes at the ages of nearly 30. I laughed and said he was being ridiculous over a loaf of bread. Laughing at his immaturity was apparently my second mistake.

So I've been in bed all day, as I didn't want to be around him when he's in a vile mood. It's been lovely actually, I've read a whole book, had a nap, played a game on my phone, read mumsnet, just lovely really. This may have been my third mistake as he's been downstairs with DS all day.

I tried to call a truce earlier but was ignored.

He's now gone out whilst I'm putting DS to bed and when I've text to ask where he's gone his reply was 'Im just doing what you're doing and not answering a simple question'

God give me strength, I didn't realise I'd married a 5 year old. Oh well, I'll have the whole bed to myself tonight as he will no doubt sleep on the sofa. I'll take that as a win I think. And yes he's normally like this, 'The king of petty' I call him.

So WIBU to have not told him where the bread was from?

You spent all day in bed when you have a child, just to prove a point? I don't blame him for going out tonight.

chickenyhead I said this, he was simply looking for an argument. He's been in a bit of a stressy mood with work lately and think this is it just exploding.

To whoever answered, I work part time and he works full time. We share drop offs and pick ups to nursery, and give each other time for hobbies etc. I do most of the housework but only because I have more time at home. He does do most of the cooking.

Again, no I am not scared of him.

Other than his petty and moody streak which doesn't happen very often, he is lovely and we do love each other.

You both sound really immature.

I think he sounds really annoying.
If he often insists on answers to pointless questions, I think you’ll should develop selective memory. You can’t be required remember everything.
“Where’s this bread from?” “Ooh, I’m not sure. Why?”
“Where’s the....?” “Gosh, I can’t remember where I last saw that”
“What shall I do about....” “I don’t mind, whatever you think is fine”
It is immensely irritating when someone persistently uses your brain to do their thinking for them. I think you probably were a bit unreasonable this morning but I expect it’s because he often behaves this way.

So you are both dicks?
And why would you want to " chalk it up as a win"?
Do you want your DH to feel like he is a loser?

If one of you loses, you both lose. That how married life works (or doesn't).

Just to add, yes I did stay in bed all day. I went down after an hour and he was still in a grump so I went back upstairs.

He usually goes out and leaves me with DS for the day so don't think that was too unreasonable.

BlockedAndDeleted it was from Tesco

You could/should have just answered his question pretty straightforward question.

Why did you need to vet the reason why he asked to be good enough?

Do you often do that? Was his reaction due to a cumulative effect?

Then you laughed at him being upset. When people laugh at you for being upset does it make you feel amenable to them, or does it make you more upset?

Your attitude is coming off as superior and condescending.

Your poor kid.

I think you both need to learn how to communicate, maybe counselling will help you.

NorthEndGal I was being light-hearted. We don't win or lose arguments. We're usually both in the wrong so both end up apologizing for one reason or another.

Most Mumsnetters are barking mad to be justifying his behaviour with “Why didn’t you just answer ?”

Regardless of the answer, his a big baby! Who gets in a sulk over bread then leave’s the house without saying a word !?!

From the sounds of it he just wanted an excuse to start a petty arguement to justify going out without a hassle and used te bread as an exucuse.

Absolutely ridiculous !

And people saying you should have just answered. Like that would have made any difference. Bloody petty

GetOffTheTableMable yes that's exactly it, so annoying to be someone else's brain. I bear (bare?) Enough of the mental load as it is. Without having to answer his stupid questions.

Well that didn't last long. He's back now

If he had made the toast and then commented on the bread, I may agree with the other posters. BUT I read the OP as him doubting the OP being able to buy appropriate bread. If they always have the same bread, why the question? He was just looking for a fight. Simples

Did he cause the argument because he didn't like being told it was his turn to make breakfast?

All seems very point scoring and tit for tat. Not a partnership.

From the sounds of it he just wanted an excuse to start a petty arguement to justify going out without a hassle and used te bread as an excuse.

Did you miss the bit where the OP sulked upstairs all day?

Typical mumsnet finding a fault and justifying the wrong behaviour that they wouldn’t tolerate in real life

Eva I don't know if was because he didn't want to make breakfast, or just because he's been in a grump lately, but he was definitely looking for an argument either way.

This sounds exhausting... are you happy in general?

I had to ask him 3 times when he was doing breakfast

Breakfast is surely a meal where it's easier if each adult does their own?
(misses point of thread)

People want different things at different times....
I really wouldn't want someone doing it for me.
If he does most of the cooking perhaps he doesn't feel like being in charge of this as well?

We literally have any bread, we're not fussy. We have had Robert's many times and it is my favourite. He knows this. But he has never ever questioned where I have purchased bread from before.

Freeze the rest
Cosh him with it tomo and bury him under the patio.
Defrost the rest and enjoy a leisurely breakfast on your patio..
No body and no weapon.

So I've been in bed all day, as I didn't want to be around him when he's in a vile mood. It's been lovely actually, I've read a whole book, had a nap, played a game on my phone, read mumsnet, just lovely really.

You're living the dream, girl!

My DP does this almost every time I ask a question - I never get a straight answer out of him and it drives me up the fucking wall.

You could just have easily said "It's from Morrison's, why?".

I'm not saying his reaction is ok, he was petty but I understand his frustration if this is something you do all the time.

You are a teeny bit bonkers spending today in bed when it's so gorgeous outside!

You both sound immature, and petty. But maybe silly arguments are
how you de stress? Hopefully you teach your children better communication. Seems a waste of energy