To not have told him where the bread was from?

[ItsOnlyBloodyBread]

This morning it was DHs turn to make Coffee and Breakfast (I did it yesterday). He did the coffees as soon as we came down but I had to ask him 3 times when he was doing breakfast.

Eventually he went in to so us some toast and then asked which shop I got the bread from. Strange question I thought as it was a well known brand and can be purchased at literally any of the local shops. So I asked why he asked. This, apparently, was my first mistake as you 'cant answer a question with a question'. Who knew? So he asked again, where it was from, I said it's Robert's bread, why does it matter which shop it's from? He then stormed in the living room saying he's not doing my toast, cos I can't answer a simple question blah blah blah. I said it was an irrelevant question, why would it matter if it was from Tesco or Morrisons? It was Robert's bread. He said the packaging was different and he didn't recognize it...if he'd read the name on the package he would have surely known it was Robert's? Just as a side note he does this all the time, doesn't look at or for things properly and asks he where something is that is literally in front of his face.

Anyway, so this started a big what I can only describe as a tantrum on his part, yes at the ages of nearly 30. I laughed and said he was being ridiculous over a loaf of bread. Laughing at his immaturity was apparently my second mistake.

So I've been in bed all day, as I didn't want to be around him when he's in a vile mood. It's been lovely actually, I've read a whole book, had a nap, played a game on my phone, read mumsnet, just lovely really. This may have been my third mistake as he's been downstairs with DS all day.

I tried to call a truce earlier but was ignored.

He's now gone out whilst I'm putting DS to bed and when I've text to ask where he's gone his reply was 'Im just doing what you're doing and not answering a simple question'

God give me strength, I didn't realise I'd married a 5 year old. Oh well, I'll have the whole bed to myself tonight as he will no doubt sleep on the sofa. I'll take that as a win I think. And yes he's normally like this, 'The king of petty' I call him.

So WIBU to have not told him where the bread was from?

You refused to answer a simple question, then sulked in bed all day leaving him to do the childcare.
Who did you say had the tantrum?

^ This x 100

I've also never heard of Robert or Jackson's bread! 😆

You both sound like a pair of immature drama queens and I feel sorry for your son.

You both wasted a beautiful day you could have enjoyed with your child to score points. Unbelievable.

This would drive me round the bend.

He didn't ask you what kind of bread it was. He asked you where you got it. I hate being answered a question with a question. It seems needlessly childish on your part not to just answer him, but then to further wind him up by providing answers to questions he hasn't asked instead of answering the one question he did.

Oh god OP I totally get it!!
My DP does this. Asks the most stupid, annoying questions because he cannot be bothered to think for himself or find something. We went out to eat last night to a new restaurant and he asked me what to wear. I said I don’t know I haven’t been there either!! He expects me to just know things.

Ignore posters on here, you know if he was in a prickly mood and spoiling for a fight.

Tbh you sound like an intensely irritating person.

Why could you not have just said where the bread was from.

Sounds like you're both creating a pretty horrible home environment...

Never heard of Jackson’s or Robert’s bread.

Can’t imagine why you wouldn’t just tell him where the bread was from in the first place. It seems controlling.

Missing the point but wtf is 'Roberts' bread, is it a local bread?

But he wasn't asking the OP to do the mental load or what to wear to a restaurant she'd never been to either etc etc.

He was asking her because she was the one who bought the bread. He wasn't there. She was.

You're both behaving like petulant children - answer the question and afk why ... he can answer you ... like adults 🙄

I feel like I’m seeing this in a different way. I had an ex who used to do stuff like this in order to instigate an argument so he could have a go for no reason.

thebakerwithboobs there would have likely been sausage if the OP had answered his (ridiculous) question 😆(nudge nudge)

@ItsOnlyBloodyBread You AND your DH need to get out more.

Roberts and Jackson’s are both northern brands. Jackson’s is Yorkshire based, I think Roberts might be from Cheshire way. They are mass produced but a bit nicer than the big brands, Jackson’s have started using paper packaging, which is why I buy their bread, as well as it bring quite nice.

OMG. You sound just like my mum, your dh must have very high toleration.

FWIW I think you were looking for an argument too. Both as bad as each other.

You keep tabs on who’s turn it is to make coffee and toast? 😮

You both sound as bad as each other. I can't imagine sulking in bed on such a beautiful day.

Why didn't you just answer the simple question???
What were you hiding?

The issue is that you didn't answer the question, this sort of thing really grinds my gears.

I can see why it looks like he was spoiling for a fight.

If you had answered Morrisons would this then lead him to have a go at you for shopping there instead of Tescos and vice versa, ie no matter which way you answered you would be in the wrong.

As he is the King of Petty he looks like he leads you into arguments over the most ridiculous things. Refusing to make you breakfast because you didn't answer his question. Pathetic.

You sound like a pair of children. If you wanted toast, why didn’t you just make some? Why couldn’t you just tell him where the bread was from? My teenagers aren’t nearly as petty as this!

Rtmhwales no BUT he was asking me a stupid question because he couldn't be bothered to look at the packaging himself. He would have known it was Robert's and that it doesn't matter what shop it was from.

He did this the other day too, I rearranged the cupboard under the stairs and he asked why I'd put a box of exercise stuff in, where I had. Then later the same day asked me where the box with the foam roller in was.

Utterly irritating.

Roberts have started doing the paper packaging too Bike. Which was his excuse for not knowing where it was from apparently

Hope you reserve this behaviour for home, and don't take it to playgroup.

I dunno, I'm veering towards the OP here - why did he need to know which shop the bread came from? If it was mouldy, stale or out of date fair enough but just randomly which shop was this loaf purchased from, why?

I also suspect that if OP had replied with the name of the shop the next question/statement would have been that it is not the same brand they usually have, and thereafter an inquisition about that.

He was making toast, just stick the read in the toaster and toast it the provenance of the purchase of the bread isn't bloody relevant.