To not have told him where the bread was from?

[ItsOnlyBloodyBread]

This morning it was DHs turn to make Coffee and Breakfast (I did it yesterday). He did the coffees as soon as we came down but I had to ask him 3 times when he was doing breakfast.

Eventually he went in to so us some toast and then asked which shop I got the bread from. Strange question I thought as it was a well known brand and can be purchased at literally any of the local shops. So I asked why he asked. This, apparently, was my first mistake as you 'cant answer a question with a question'. Who knew? So he asked again, where it was from, I said it's Robert's bread, why does it matter which shop it's from? He then stormed in the living room saying he's not doing my toast, cos I can't answer a simple question blah blah blah. I said it was an irrelevant question, why would it matter if it was from Tesco or Morrisons? It was Robert's bread. He said the packaging was different and he didn't recognize it...if he'd read the name on the package he would have surely known it was Robert's? Just as a side note he does this all the time, doesn't look at or for things properly and asks he where something is that is literally in front of his face.

Anyway, so this started a big what I can only describe as a tantrum on his part, yes at the ages of nearly 30. I laughed and said he was being ridiculous over a loaf of bread. Laughing at his immaturity was apparently my second mistake.

So I've been in bed all day, as I didn't want to be around him when he's in a vile mood. It's been lovely actually, I've read a whole book, had a nap, played a game on my phone, read mumsnet, just lovely really. This may have been my third mistake as he's been downstairs with DS all day.

I tried to call a truce earlier but was ignored.

He's now gone out whilst I'm putting DS to bed and when I've text to ask where he's gone his reply was 'Im just doing what you're doing and not answering a simple question'

God give me strength, I didn't realise I'd married a 5 year old. Oh well, I'll have the whole bed to myself tonight as he will no doubt sleep on the sofa. I'll take that as a win I think. And yes he's normally like this, 'The king of petty' I call him.

So WIBU to have not told him where the bread was from?

There was a moment today when I felt - briefly - a little alone.

Thank you, OP. I feel much better now.

It may be lighthearted and just a joke . But you must see that your child is growing up thinking that a parent taking themselves to bed for the day is normal and could in turn blame them self for your moods s children often do !

Action yes we are happy. We have some financial issues at present and this is the source of the stress I mentioned. It's a whole other thread but we are both under a bit of pressure right now.

"Relais* we normally take each meal in turns. So on the weekend we take it in turns, one day he does breakfast I'll do lunch, then one of us puts DS to bed and the other does dinner. And vice versa the next day. Didn't think that was all that weird to have breakfast at the same time.

He was looking for an argument and you knew that so you deliberately fed into it by not giving him a straight answer to a simple question. Six of one half a dozen of the other. You both need to give yourselves a talking to.

I said this, he was simply looking for an argument

It really reads like everyone was looking for an argument. You wound him up and then you were surprised when he was wound up. It all sounds really inevitable and tedious.

But if you had to ask him 3 times why didn't you just make whatever you wanted?

Tell him to pick his dummy up on the way back in!
Sounds like he has intentionally started an argument for some reason or another?

What a baby you have for a h @ItsOnlyBloodyBread

Regardless of the answer, his a big baby

(He’s)

Why? I bet OP does this all the time, so there’s a huge pointless conversation of questions. Nobody has tome for that crap.

Why don’t you just try answering him in future and see how that works?

I know bob I was actually going to go for a run but it's TOO HOT!!

I used to be in a relationship with a man who would never give me a straight answer to a simple question without me first explaining exactly why I was asking the question, and him assessing if my reason for asking was justified. It was fucking infuriating.

Excellent role modelling for your child.

I think you provoked him. Just because you think it's an irrelevant question to you does not give you the right to police what he asks.

I actually think this is down to you.

You refused to answer a question.

You kept refusing, winding him up.

He then reacted to which you reacted to and stayed in bed all day.

He then goes out when you come down and you think it's stupid to react to you being stroppy in bed all day.

Gosh, so you are both petty and sulky

To be honest, you come out of this looking worse than him

You are both being very silly.
Roberts bread is great though.

You sound really annoying!!

How ridiculously petty and childish of both of you. Your poor child having to witness crap like that. And I'm saying this as someone who also has stupid petty arguments with my DH, but I don't spend all day sulking about it like a child and neither does he.
And I wouldn't class spending a whole day in bed while my kid was downstairs a 'win', but whatever.

I do not do this all of the time. But he's always asking dumb questions. And I am fed up of it. Don't feel sorry for him.

Sounds like this marriage is dead in the water.
You are totally unsympathetic to the stress he feels.
You have really poor communication and conflict resolution skills between you.

Maybe you could get some kind of relationship counseling to help you look out for each other and listen to each other.

You make a great couple - both completely ridiculous.
I feel sorry for your son though.

God give me strength, I didn't realise I'd married a 5 year old

You could be twins by the sound of it.

Yes I know it's petty.
Yes I spent all day in bed.
My DS is not going to grow up thinking I don't love him cos I spent 1 day in bed in the whole 3 years he's been alive

Our marriage is not dead in the water over 1 petty argument, I know this is AIBU but jeeeez

YABU for not just answering the question. My DH has a habit of answering a question with a question. Sometimes I just don't have the patience for it!

You both sound petty I'm afraid, both in terms of the argument itself and how you both subsequently reacted.

You're being unreasonable on two counts.

1. Jackson's is the only packaged bread and they sell it in Tesco so you have no excuses for the inferior crap.

2. Toast is not an acceptable Sunday breakfast. Where is the sausage?

Ps: you know that you were both just being ridiculous and your three year old was probably being more mature today than both of you put together, right?

Totally agree @SistersOfPercy!