To expect husband to travel home with us?

[Lenny1987]

Going on holiday to ireland on Saturday. Husband is irish, so we are spending the week in his village. We are travelling back the following sunday, all ireland final day. His team is in the final. When we were booking the flights I mentioned this to him, and he said his team wouldn't get there, and he had enough on that month (a stag weekend, and a weekend in dublin at the hurling final). Now the time has come, his team are there, and he wants to spend £200 on a new flight later that night so he can watch the match. This means I am travelling home from an 8 day holiday with all our stuff and a 10month old baby. He asked my opinion, and now hes annoyed that I dont think it's ok. His team get to this match regularly and he has been to it before. I have suggested not looking at social media and watching immediately as we return.

[Josephinebettany]

I would say he can go if he comes up with a solution for the luggage. I bet you he will!

[batedbreath]

Only the luggage would be the issue for me......surely you can get that sorted between you, right?

[raspberryk]

Stop being so precious, get a sling and you can manage a weeks luggage no problem. I've travelled solo with a baby or a baby and a toddler or toddler and preschooler multiple times and it isn't exactly difficult.

[SlightlySleepy]

I'm amazed to be in the minority but I think he's being totally unreasonable. OP does not need to woman up, her husband needs to be able to plan in advance and not do whatever he feels like, leaving her to get on with sorting out the mess he's made. He's not a child, if he has changed his mind about the match, then he can sort all the logistics out without leaving it all for his -mother- wife to sort out.

It doesn't matter how long the flight is, being in an airport with a baby is a pain and so much worse with all the luggage to cart around. It's not her problem to be burdened with while he has a jolly time!

[theunrivalledjoysofparenting]

So op, how many weekends away have you had when dh looks after baby?

[Techway]

Have you checked flights from Kerry?

I can see why he feels so reluctant to leave, timing is not good. I think on this occasion you should support him. Kerry used to be 4 in a row champions so don't write them off!

Can someone meet you the other side? I think getting home from the airport is the worse journey.

[Lenny1987]

@SlightlySleepy
That's exactly how I feel! It's great all these people have coped and done harder trips etc. But I kind of feel why do I really need to make life so awkward for myself when this could have been avoided? I would also be interested to see mens opinions if this was reversed.
@theunrivalledjoysofparenting
I have had 1 weekend away since the baby was born. Dh has had more.

[MidniteScribbler]

Honestly, don't be so pathetic. Millions of people travel with a child and luggage, all over the world.

[Smurfy23]

There are huge luggage lockers in Bus Aras he can use to store the luggage in, go to the match and then collect on his way to the airport

[mrsm12]

Does he actually have contacts to get tickets because they are like gold dust! And if it's just because he wants to see Kerry stop Dublin doing 5 in a row it's a waste because that's not going to happen!!
Given he was already at the hurling final I wouldn't be impressed either

[Lenny1987]

@techway

I checked that, the only flights out of Kerry are more expensive and fly out early evening so he would never make it back.

[C8H10N4O2]

He is a parent, its not a once in a lifetime ticket, he has already had two boys weekends this month and his wife starts back to work the next day.

He needs to grow the fuck up and act like a father, not a self indulgent teenager.

[Chickychoccyegg]

so surprised so many people think its ok that dh gets to stay and have fun when op gets all then hassle and its going to cost around €400 or more just to stay for a match? he also had 2 other weeks away himself having fun this month, its unbelievably selfish.

[cabingirl]

If he goes:

• he has to handle the luggage - that means sorting out somewhere to keep it and remembering to bring it home

• you get the equivalent budget - extra flight, plus ticket, plus beer costs to spend on yourself in the near future plus he looks after the baby while you enjoy yourself

[Lenny1987]

@MidniteScribbler
No need to be unpleasant. I dont doubt that, nor do I think I will endure the hardest journey in the world. But it will certainly be a hell of a lot easier, and cheaper for me to stick to the original plan.

[magicstar1]

Tell him not to bother...Dublin are going to win anyway

[Mileysmiley]

He needs to help you with the luggage because he won't be struggling to carry a baby. Men can be so selfish sometimes.

I have just got up to find that he is back on the sofa again and I am fuming! If he doesn't stop I might pack my bag and spend the weekend at my daughters!

[ChicCroissant]

YANBU OP, but he is. Especially if he expects you to take his luggage home while he stays on.

[Mileysmiley]

I feel like doing this!

[Mileysmiley]

Sorry about the double posting of throwing off sofa .. know idea why that happened lol

[Gooseygoosey12345]

You'll be fine. My SIL travelled from, and back to, Oz with her daughter at that age. It's probably easier than with an older toddler! You grab a trolley for the luggage, it's not like you'll have to do it all the time. For the sake of a couple of hours on your own with a baby and 2 suitcases I'm sure you can manage.

[Sometimes1]

Up Kerry! Ciarraí abú!!
I m not from Kerry but understand the GAA obsession in Ireland. It's ingrained in us from youth. You 'll make his year!! All Ireland Day is the one of the biggest days in Irish culture.
He can make it up to you.....have your list made out!!

[TheRugbyValkyrie]

I think you're BU.
I would do the same for my team, in our sport but so would 3 of my kids. Even watching in a pub/bar near the ground is such a huge buzz.
Having travelled with 3 under 10 and 1 months luggage, I've discovered that travelling under those circumstances is infinitely possible.
Ask for help and don't apologise if you are struggling or the baby isn't being the perfect traveller.

[ineedaholidaynow]

Are you back to work from maternity leave when you get home? Don't think I would be too impressed if DH was away for that either

[DelphiniumBlue]

Can you book assistance at the airport ( both ends)? So then you're not struggling through the airport with everything?