To expect husband to travel home with us?

[Lenny1987]

Going on holiday to ireland on Saturday. Husband is irish, so we are spending the week in his village. We are travelling back the following sunday, all ireland final day. His team is in the final. When we were booking the flights I mentioned this to him, and he said his team wouldn't get there, and he had enough on that month (a stag weekend, and a weekend in dublin at the hurling final). Now the time has come, his team are there, and he wants to spend £200 on a new flight later that night so he can watch the match. This means I am travelling home from an 8 day holiday with all our stuff and a 10month old baby. He asked my opinion, and now hes annoyed that I dont think it's ok. His team get to this match regularly and he has been to it before. I have suggested not looking at social media and watching immediately as we return.

[Ginger1982]

Cross post!

I would say no, he should be coming home with you as planned.

[Smelborp]

I would say he finds a way to deal with the baggage, pays for all of you to stay or no deal.

[SleepingStandingUp]

YANBU as he said no its fine, he's nbu for wanting to stop as long as the extra money won't hurt you all. He is bu to think you an manage a family's load of luggage and presumably a pushchair etc in your own so he can get pissed with his mates.
I'd tell him to come home the me, t day with thelk luggage

[Popskipiekin]

Why don’t you take bag to airport and dump it in left luggage for him to get later? Then at least you don’t need to wait other end and wrangle bag and baby back home.

[OMGshefoundmeout]

I’m getting a bit fed up with the GAA atm. The odds are so skewed in Dublin’s favour it’s taking the fun out of it. That being said there is always a tiny element of uncertainty so I would agree to him staying for the match because the atmosphere will be great but he has to bring all the stuff back so you just have to take the baby and a bag of nappies.

[Weezol]

Since Dublin always feckin win, what's the point?

To be serious, this is hardly a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity so on this occasion I'd want him travelling with us, especially as he's had two weekends to himself already this month.

How many weekends have you had 'off'?

Nothing stopping him going next year.

[Chocolatepeanuts]

If he took the baby he would also need a ticket for the baby, even if the baby doesnt need a seat. Considering its Dublin or Kerry I would ask him to give it a miss. They are regular finalists. If it was a once in a lifetime thing, say like missing Tyrone 's first EVER All Ireland win because you were flying home from holidays then he would not BU.

[ny20005]

I was going to say yabu till I realised the teams. They reach the final a lot so he's definitely taking the piss

It's not just £200 flight cost if there's the price of the ticket aswell

[marvellousnightforamooncup]

If he goes to the match the luggage is his problem. He has to find somewhere for it and if he can't, he doesn't go.

In my opinion he made the decision to not go to the match when you booked the flights and asked him about it then. He can't change his mind without shouldering the arse ache and logistics.

[OMGshefoundmeout]

If he can get hold of a ticket for Croke Park at a few days notice I’m sure he also has the ingenuity to also find somewhere to leave the suitcases for a few hours. If he doesn’t have a mate who can help out he might have to pay for a left luggage facility but I’m sure it will be worth it.

[Drum2018]

Not a chance would I agree to it.

[GirlRaisedInTheSouth]

Why don’t you take bag to airport and dump it in left luggage for him to get later?

Yes, this. Let him go to the match but don’t be a martyr. Ask him if you can have 200 quid to spend on something you want?

[Ilikethisone]

He cant bring the stuff or the baby, because he is hoping he can get a ticket to the match, and he cant take 2 suitcases into the stadium. He cant take the baby because he then wouldn't be able to watch the match properly

Ireland has luggage lockers. Why would it be 2 suitcases? Did you take 3 suitcases for a week in Ireland?

You take one case and the baby. He brings the other one.

Honestly I could get upset by this. Yes, it's annoying he changed his mind. But I could not begrudge DP something like this.

[Expressedways]

I wouldn’t have an issue with him taking a different flight, I’ve done 2 transatlantic trips and 1 short-haul on my own with a baby/toddler and it’s always been fine. Providing the cost is affordable to you then I think you should let him go. However, a baby in a pushchair plus 2 bags is impossible. He wants to go, he needs to sort the bags. Any option to leave them
wherever you’re staying and he can go via there on his way to the airport?

[Lenny1987]

I hadn't thought of left luggage, that could be an option.
I really do understand how important gaa is to Irish people, and if it was a one off would have no bother. And it's not even about how much time/ activities he has done, more the logistics and the fact that I said this before I booked the tickets. But now he is convinced if kerry stop dublin winning 5 in a row it will be the greatest game ever and he cant miss it. Despite the fact that they have been in nearly 60 finals!

[Cryalot2]

I think it is too much for you to manage the little baby and the luggage, plus all the extra expense.
He is putting way too much on you, all to see a match which he has not got tickets for.
Can there be some compromise.? Can he leave the luggage with someone?

[eurochick]

You take baby and a rucksack (leaves your hands free). He finds a way to deal with the luggage and travels back with it. He's changed the plans so it's up to him to figure it out.

[Lenny1987]

We are taking 2 cases as we are going to a wedding so need suits, dresses etc. As well as coats etc to prepare us for standard irish summer
And we cant leave them where we are staying as it's a 4 hour drive from Dublin, so he would have no time to go back for them.

[Azeema]

YABU
Already there and only extra 200 to see it in Ireland
Ireland only next island over.
Easy travel with 1 baby. Just woman up.
Or, change your ticket too and all fly back after match.

[Anonmummyoftwo]

Hold on he wants to spend a extra 200 on a flight and is only hoping to get a ticket to the match this close to it. No yanbu he is. Im irish i get its a big deal but hes the one said they wouldnt make it. Tell him tuff tits

[Butterymuffin]

Use a left luggage facility at the airport or at the nearest big train station to where the match is.

[thebeatofthedrum]

Is there any way you can all stay the extra day?

[Ilikethisone]

We are taking 2 cases as we are going to a wedding so need suits, dresses etc. As well as coats etc to prepare us for standard irish summer

Yep. So to the smaller or lighter case with just the essentials. He pops the other in a locker.

See do woild happlitly come home with ds early for whoever reason. I suppose it depends o wether he would do it for you. If so, I would let him crack on.

If not, I can see why you wouldnt want to out yourself in a slightly more difficult situation to suit him.

[C0untDucku1a]

You can’t physically manage a ten month old and two suitcases. Maybe with a sling and no pram? I vote for leaving the cases at the airport, we did this at Dublin airport while we went sightseeing. And he picks them up and brings them home. If he forgets, he stays in ireland.

[Lenny1987]

Cant all stay an extra day as it's my first day back to work the next day, additionally all the flights home the following day are just as expensive, so 450 for the 3 of us to fly, plus a night in a Dublin hotel. Will go with the left luggage option and hope he doesn't forget it!