To expect husband to travel home with us?

[Lenny1987]

Going on holiday to ireland on Saturday. Husband is irish, so we are spending the week in his village. We are travelling back the following sunday, all ireland final day. His team is in the final. When we were booking the flights I mentioned this to him, and he said his team wouldn't get there, and he had enough on that month (a stag weekend, and a weekend in dublin at the hurling final). Now the time has come, his team are there, and he wants to spend £200 on a new flight later that night so he can watch the match. This means I am travelling home from an 8 day holiday with all our stuff and a 10month old baby. He asked my opinion, and now hes annoyed that I dont think it's ok. His team get to this match regularly and he has been to it before. I have suggested not looking at social media and watching immediately as we return.

Deary me, stop being hopeless, it’s a very short flight minimum check in time, I’m sure you’ll manage your own child.
For those pp saying he can take the baby, are you mental?

If he can afford to drop £200 on a flight and whatever it will cost for the ticket, he can afford an overnight courier for the luggage.

What would you have done with the luggage if he had said he wanted to go when you booked the original tickets?

I’vetravelled alone with a toddler and a baby numerous times on short flights. I wouldn’t say it’s a pleasur but it’s totally possible and literally everyone will helps you, esp on the Irish side. Let him go without guilt!!

Of course he can take the luggage - just leave it with the hotel concierge and he picks it up later. Sorry OP but I think you are being a martyr!

You only live once!

“You can’t physically manage a ten month old and two suitcases. Maybe with a sling and no pram?”

What? It easy. I handle 8 week old, 2 yr old, car seat for infant on plane, pram and 4 suitcases. And in rental car too. You just call ask for trolley where rental car drop off is, get trolley, put all on trolley (baby in car seat on front, toddler walk next), check suitcases, then put car seat on pram, baby in pram and push pram with one hand, hold/carry toddler with other. Check pram at boarding gate it there at gate when you land. Repeat.

One 10 month baby and 2 suitcases much easier!

You take a taxi to the airport, transfer cases to a luggage trolley, from where they go onto the plane. Repeat in reverse upon landing.

Baby in a sling or carried.

You call in the 'favour' and leave DH with baby and responsibilities when you want to go away/do something.

Or am I missing something?

@GloriaMaximus I wouldn't have booked that flight, as it flies at exactly the same time as the game. We would have all travelled together later or earlier.

@BlueJava
The hotel we are staying at is in Co. Kerry, 4 hours from the airport so that wouldn't work, as I mentioned. The left luggage storage that I didnt know about that somebody mentioned is however an option.

Ah forgot, i also had carry on bag too with supplies..nappies and such

I'd just go for it OP. You may surprise yourself and you bag yourself a favour in the future.

But make sure the money doesn't affect anything else!

YANBU on the basis that you raised it with him when booking flights and he made the decision that it would be fine.

I would definitely let him worry about luggage while you have the baby. He caused the problem, he can find a solution.

For those pp saying he can take the baby, are you mental?

Disgusting turn of phrase - have a word with yourself.

He is BVU but for full disclosure I'm from Mayo so that might be clouding my judgment a bit 😂

Selfish twat. He’s already had two weekends away. Tell him no. How many free weekends away you get? Can you afford the £200?

@familyofaliens
Are you a professional offended person?
It’s not disgusting, it’s a turn of phrase, do you never hear are you mad, nuts? Jeez 🙄

Why don't you both stay for an extra day or whatever, yes it costs money but that way you would not be struggling with luggage and baby.

@theunrivalledjoysofparenting

I wouldn't say we cant afford it, but I would say there are many other things we could use it for. Especially when I consider the 90euro for a ticket if he gets one, and a day on the beer. And on top of an already expensive holiday in ireland, wedding, and his two weekends away that probably cost 1500 at least. I tend to think more about money than he does. But I also appreciate money is to be spent and enjoyed.

No way would i agree to that, the extra expense of flights, tickets, drinks, extra taxis, luggage storeage would just piss me off too much (thats all going to cost an absolute fortune) you gave him the opportunity to go when booking flights, he said no,so now i'd be saying tough im afraid.

YABVU! Leave him be, this is important to him!

@Italiangreyhound
I am back to work the monday morning at 7.30 so no chance we can all stay.

Yeah, do the left luggage thing plus he owes you the night out of your choice.

"I am back to work the monday morning at 7.30 " so would he need to look fer baby? If not can you bring you, baby and hand luggage and leave him all the bags?

YANBU. I would expect him to stick to our plans and travel back together.

But surely it'll be on the telly at some point?