To expect husband to travel home with us?

[Lenny1987]

Going on holiday to ireland on Saturday. Husband is irish, so we are spending the week in his village. We are travelling back the following sunday, all ireland final day. His team is in the final. When we were booking the flights I mentioned this to him, and he said his team wouldn't get there, and he had enough on that month (a stag weekend, and a weekend in dublin at the hurling final). Now the time has come, his team are there, and he wants to spend £200 on a new flight later that night so he can watch the match. This means I am travelling home from an 8 day holiday with all our stuff and a 10month old baby. He asked my opinion, and now hes annoyed that I dont think it's ok. His team get to this match regularly and he has been to it before. I have suggested not looking at social media and watching immediately as we return.

[Teacher22]

The OH is being unreasonable. I wouldn’t go on the holiday if the drawback is getting home with the baby and the luggage. He is a father now, not a lad. And it’s only sport.

[Mothership4two]

OP posted in August

[Durgasarrow]

He already said he can't take the luggage, because he can't take it to the game. And it isn't a rare sight, he's gone to it a number of times before. Plus he already had a stag weekend and a weekend in Dublin just that MONTH. The OP had just spent HER holiday week in the village HE grew up in--which is another favor to him. Do you seriously think that man had not had enough "treats" to be judicious about asking for more?

[Aunaturalmama]

@Durgasarrow
Whoa whoa whoa.... have you never once let your partner do something that he seriously loved and was a rare sight? Because it minorly inconvenienced you for part of the day? That’s so wild to me....

When I leave both my toddlers alone with my husband, yes of course it is an inconvenience as he works from home... but am I never allowed to inconvenience my partner to do something I enjoy? Not even once a year like her partners event? Really??
I will never ever say no to a rare treat purely due to my schedule being inconvenienced or being too tired. He can easily take the luggage if it’s that big of a deal to her and the luggage is the real reasons she wants him to stay.

[confuddeledconfuddel]

@WagtailRobin even you will be out celebrating.... you do realise that it's done and dusted for the year the replay has been played!

For what it's worth OP as someone from Ireland and big GAA fan before kids (I no longer get time to follow it anymore), I agree with you. DH should have had better planning. You shouldn't have had to make your life more difficult because of his lack of planning. I would be pissed as well. I understand it's not the fact of him going, it's the lack of foresight. My dh is exactly the same and drives me batty!

[Aunaturalmama]

Have him take the luggage! And let him go. :)

[BillHadersNewWife]

Durgasarrow it's fine...if that is what they love. Some people love music...and would do anything to see their fave band. Others might want to attend a once in a lifetime lecture at a museum. People are entitled to a passion.

[beanaseireann]

CamVegOut
Good prediction
What happened in the end Lenny1987

[ny20005]

@Durgasarrow go have a lie down 🙄

You're clearly not Irish & don't understand gaa

[Durgasarrow]

I honestly don't know what is wrong with these manchild sportsfans. It's nice to have hobbies, but why would an adult, and by adult I mean ADULT, human being not be far more motivated by interest in and care for his children than watching men in shorts kicking a ball on the fucking television. I feel such a withering contempt for such a creature it really makes me feel a little ill.

[Quartz2208]

And the luggage?

How do you feel though that he just does what he wants with impunity

[CamVegOut]

Kerry will not win the next match

[Lenny1987]

He got a ticket to the match, and I hope is flying home as I type! And yes I suspect he will have been looking for flights on his way out of croke park for Sept 14th!

[Monkeyseesmonkeydoes]

Hope he got to see it!! Presumably you’ll be on here soon OP complaining that he wants to go to the replay?!

[beanaseireann]

If he stayed for the match he got his money's worth. Amazing match. But there's a replay now.
What happened OP ?

[Howyiz]

He'll have to go back again for the replay!

[TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre]

😂 😂 Was thinking of you DH a few mins ago. Hope he got to see the game. Great match!!

[Lowlandlucky]

Jeez oh just travel with the baby and your cases then book yourself into a local spa when he gets back

[ny20005]

Hope he didn't go - what a waste of all that money 😩

[beanaseireann]

What a match !!!

[NeverTalksToStrangers]

lenny what's happening? Is he going to the match?

[timeisnotaline]

Marriages work best on compromise
Oh yes absolutely - but he’s compromised how? Oh, hes definitely compromised on being supportive of his wife’s return to work after her mat leave. And he’s compromised on carrying his own weight in the new family by expecting her to manage baby and luggage on her own. And he’s compromised on planning for the family which she tried to do in advance. If by compromised you mean he doesn’t give a shit. That makes more sense.

[Cloudyapples]

You gave him the option when booking the flights, so I think yanbu to stick to the original plan.

[lifesgoodwithlg]

As an Irish person who appreciates the important of the GAA final .. not a freaking chance. You are not being unreasonable. Well done to everyone who managed to scale Antarctica with child and multiple bags but a resounding NO from me. Fairs fair . He's allowed to be disappointed BUT he's a dad now and meant to be looking after you. Has anyone thought of practicalities . How do you physically manager to carry baby and 2 cases? If he gets a ticket it will be last minute and flights will increase hugely. No no no, not fair. Ps up the dubs