If you are overweight you shouldn’t expect partner to find you attractive

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If you have become very overweight during course of your relationship ( no health issues) is it unreasonable for other partner to no longer be attracted?
Context . One partner very very overweight unfit . Other slim and fit .
Both work . Both do equal childcare.

@aufaitaccompli You are already a winner.
I honestly think it is a persons attitude, I know lots of big women who are sexy and glamorous.
I also find myself attracted to big men on TV, I think Mark the beast from C4 the Chase is really sexy, also rag n bone man his voice is amazing, he gives me the quivers.

I know what you mean....I'd love a big mountain man to sweep me off my feet...dreams can come true.

In the meantime I'll practise my enigmatic persona and be cool as a cucumber 😎

OP, just catching up with this thread, you’ve been treated very badly indeed in my opinion. I’m 12 stone and 5,5 so quite heavy. And I know it and I know it affects my marriage abc my husband doesn’t fancy me as much as he did. However I used to weigh 15 stone so am doing better...Does it upset me that my DH would fancy me more if I was 9 stone? Yep. Do I blame him? No. Do I take responsibility for not being as fit as I should/want to be? Yes. Am I still losing weight? Yes( especially after this thread! What an incentive)! All of these women saying their partners don’t care how big they are...are most likely fooling themselves. Some men don’t care, most do. Most would NEVER say it though. I also wholeheartedly agree with a PP who said some of these women who say they would fancy their husband no matter...just don’t actually know as it’s never happened to them. Big handhold, you’re NOT shallow, you’re hurt and angry, rightly so.

OP I separated from a lazy man who refused to make any changes that would benefit the relationship in any way and I moved my noisy autistic child to a new situation. You could do it too. If you feel stuck like this that will not be a good example to set your children- that bring unhappy is ok in this way and that unhappiness and frustration will impact YOUR health.

I recently finished a relationship with a man who was large of stomach.

It wasn't the only or the main reason I finished with him.

But'normal' sex wasn't the most enjoyable as he was very heavy and his stomach got in the way. When I was on top it was equally uncomfortable and difficult for the same reasons.

It just wasn't what I wanted