Is this my fault?

[mmmcflurrys]

Today I was dropping my step children, both girls aged 6&7 back to their mums.

Their mum has a little boy who was in hospital for a few days with tonsillitis, so kids were staying with us and then both nan and great nan (her side). So on the way they said "Did you know me and sis got a taxi on our own when baby was poorly" I said "Ooh that's an exciting experience, how did you feel?" 6 year old said she was a bit scared whereas 7 year old didn't care. It was about a 10 minute journey from Nan's to great nans.

I gave DP a call after dropping them off just to let him know which has now escalated to him and his ex arguing and her saying the kids can't come away with us on Thursday. DP said this is my fault for telling him as I knew how he would react and nothing good would have came from it.

AIBU to have told him what his kids told me? I thought as he is their dad he should know but maybe I am wrong?

'YAY! Woman-bashing still alive & thriving on MN'

So we can see from the updates.

Where were the two of you?did your dp over offer to have the girls?

You and your dp sound as bad as each other.

I would never in a million years put my kids in a taxi alone at that age.... I dont care how other children do to get to school that's there decision but me personally if they were my kids I'd want to be told. Maybe if he would of been asked he would of done the drop off and pick rather that just assuming they were ok in a stranger's company. Tracking or not..
OP as for blaming you. No it was not your fault because you told him and why is he saying that hypothetically is beyond me... it's going to make you wary to tell him things in future he should of dealt with it as with a adult discussion and then turning it round to be your fault....
Take no notice of some of these posters... it was the mom and nana place to make the decision.... no its between both of the parents...
Funny thing is if you were there birth mother saying this about the step mom and father it would be whole different kettle of fish

He sounds like a gaslighting prick.

Sorry he’s lying gaslighting prick.

He sounds like a gaslighting prick.

Doesn't he just, @Cassilis.
And yet the majority of the thread is blaming OP for his fuckwittery ...

99.99% of the time, riding in a taxi is perfectly safe. I have a friend in Toronto whose 14 year old daughter was sexually assaulted in a registered cab. The friend ensured the driver was charged. It’s likely he was also deported. However, her now adult daughter still self harms, and has had other mental health issues related to the assault.

Not even vaguely your fault.

@messolini9 ah well OP has the temerity to be a SM! She is wrong by default.

I think you do have a DP problem.
And putting the children in a Taxi doesn't have to be all that dangerous - there are apps where you can track them, lots of Taxi drivers are DBS checked and do things like school runs. We can't judge as we don't know the firms involved.

And people are not very often raped by Taxi drivers - it just gets on the news when they do, and its far more likely to be unlicensed mini cab drivers.

I don’t really understand why he reacted? They went in a taxi. Lots of children travel to school in a taxi? My child travels alone in a taxi everyday to go to school, why would this be any differently?

I think those hired for school contracts are at least DBS checked

Top marks to the 6 and 7 year old for being the most mature people in the family.

@sweeney can you explain what OP did that was immature?

Cassilis Sweeney might be referring to the updates. 'Top Trumps'?

@sweeneytoddsrazor ???

@GPatz I don't believe in the whole "one child is sick so forget about my other children". My daughter nearly died and the girls we never pushed back. Maybe that's just my parenting though

It sounds like a lot of game-playing. You told your DP straight away because you thought it was wrong and you don't like his ex. He then shouts at her but pretends to you that she's cancelled the holiday. If I were you, I'd go on holiday without them and have a good, hard think about whether you want all this drama in your life. It is possible to have a relationship where people tell the truth and don't exaggerate for dramatic effect.

@Playmytune Are you his ex? 😂

Whats so difficult to understand. The two girls appear to behave more maturely than you or your DP. He blames you for his bizarre reaction, you play top trumps with his ex wife.

mmmcflurrys I'm not interested in your parenting style. Your updates are just bashing, which sounds pretty immature.

Jees

Aka shit stirring

Yep.

But also, DP and ex should be adult enough to discuss it like grown ups.

one child is sick so forget about my other children

Or, one child is sick, let’s send the other two to be safe with people who love them so they don’t get sick too.