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Original poster

AIBU or are my holiday caravan neighbours...

292 replies

cherry1970 · 18/08/2019 15:01

Hi, would appreciate your views and understand I may be shot down...
We arrived at MIL's caravan yesterday, myself, hubby and 7 and 12 year old kids, we've been coming here since 2012 and it's always been a lovely peaceful place, mainly privately owned caravans and lodges (it's a nice place). Last year new neighbours brought the van behind ours and shattered our peace but not by doing anything wrong just by having loud voices, loud dogs and a granddaughter who actually isn't that loud! Once before I have asked them to be a bit quieter as I'd put the youngest to bed and they were disturbing her. They were fine.
There are now more new neighbours next door who maybe know the others or have got pally. Yesterday afternoon they had family arrive and they all joined together with 3 bbqs going and 5 kids running around in the grassy area between our caravans. I don't cope well with noise and after a couple of hours I went and politely asked them to quieten down a bit. One of the guys swung round in my face and said how dare I ask them about noise when they have put up with my sister in laws dogs barking in our van for the last week (I had no idea about this but its not my responsibility and I considered it irrelevant) the men all then turned on me complaining about the constantly barking dogs and the fact that last year someone apparently stayed in our van and had a party until 1am. I continued to try to explain until one of them shouted at me to go away and go to the office if I had a problem (I did think about doing this first but thought the adult thing to do would be to ask in person). So I did go to the office and completely broke down. A couple of the wives came over and were actually pretty nice to me but continued to say about the noise last week and the fact that they were entitled to have a party outside the caravans.
Walking around the site for the last 7 years I've not seen this happen before.
Who is being unreasonable?

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 18/08/2019 15:40

So many kids aren't allowed to play out in the streets nowadays and not all kids have gardens or local parks.

It's absolutely lovely that they can run around and play outside the caravans.

This does not trump your right to quiet because you can't cope with noise or settle your baby I'm afraid.

Littlechocola · 18/08/2019 15:42

The response you got was awful but....
It’s a caravan park.

This is why we don’t go to caravan parks.

WorraLiberty · 18/08/2019 15:43

Sorry I meant you right to quiet does not trump their right to enjoy themselves on holiday.

KT2019 · 18/08/2019 15:44

Yabu. Don't like the noise from next door in the middle of the day - go to the beach or out somewhere with the kids and enjoy your holiday??

cansu · 18/08/2019 15:44

you can not expect a caravan site to be quiet especially in the day time. You were being ridiculous to complain about them having a barbecue in the day time! I would absolutely hate being on a caravan holiday because I would expect it to be noisy and I would expect it to lack privacy so don't go.

Eustasiavye · 18/08/2019 15:45

I think your dh also needs to tell his mother about the incessant noise from the dogs. She might end up with complaints about her.
As for children playing outside in the afternoon, yabu.

Honeyroar · 18/08/2019 15:46

It sounds like they blew up at you partly because they've been politely biting their tongues at all the noise coming from your family's van previously, and partly because your request wasn't fair. You've been lucky that the site has been so peaceful previously (my kind of caravan site!), it doesn't mean that it will always be like that. Personally I'd go back with a bottle of wine and apologise for over reacting, otherwise you're going to feel like there's an atmosphere/get yourself stressed every time you see them.

LiveInAHidingPlace · 18/08/2019 15:47

I sympathise with you because I also hate noise. I talk quietly, I never have music on that others can hear etc.

I personally loathe the idea of having a loud, noisy barbecue while I'm on holiday.

But, that being said, not everyone has to pander to us. Some people like being noisy.

I wish we had laws like in Switzerland where Sundays are basically silent.

Greenglassteacup · 18/08/2019 15:48

Holiday elsewhere in future, you’re not going to get peace and quiet at a campsite full of families with kids & dogs

HouseworkAvoider10 · 18/08/2019 15:49

yabu.
Maybe consider a move to a quieter campsite.

ChicCroissant · 18/08/2019 15:50

OP, you go to this site once a year (I do see that it is your MIL's caravan not your own) and within 24 hours you are complaining about noise from other residents during the day? YABU. Your expectations are way off, here.

Original poster
cherry1970 · 18/08/2019 15:51

I have a bit of an anxiety issue with noise unfortunately.

OP posts:
Witchinaditch · 18/08/2019 15:52

You are 100% being unreasonable and also sound a little pathetic. I’m not surprised they shouted at you.

WorraLiberty · 18/08/2019 15:53

If you understand that due to anxiety the issue is yours, why when they said "Go to the office if you have a problem", did you actually go to the office? Confused

You know the issue is yours. It's not there's and it's certainly nothing the office staff should be getting involved in.

The more you post, the more unreasonable you sound.

Nicknacky · 18/08/2019 15:54

Well, you need to holiday somewhere else then and not expect people to stop doing normal holiday activities.

chuttypicks · 18/08/2019 15:54

You can't expect everyone else to live by your rules op. If you know you have noise related anxiety then surely you already knew YWBU.

WorraLiberty · 18/08/2019 15:54

And quite frankly if I was your MIL and I owned that caravan I'd be very embarrassed and thinking about stopping your free holidays.

chuttypicks · 18/08/2019 15:54

I suggest you invest in some ear plugs/ear defenders for the remainder of your stay.

pinkpinkblue · 18/08/2019 15:55

If they were doing that late at night then it would be fine to ask but it's the afternoon

FiddlesticksAkimbo · 18/08/2019 15:55

Sorry to hear about your anxiety, but it's up to you to find a suitable holiday destination, ideally a remote one! You cannot expect people jammed up against you, which is in the nature of a caravan site, to tiptoe around during the afternoon because you like it quiet.

pinkpinkblue · 18/08/2019 15:55

They shouldn't have shouted at you but I can't understand why they were annoyed by a dog arming

pinkpinkblue · 18/08/2019 15:56

Barking. 🤦‍♀️

bobsyourauntie · 18/08/2019 15:57

Seeing as there are 6 weeks of the summer holidays , they can't be there for all 6 presumably? If you have had the same week 2 years running and so have they, can you swap your week next year to a different one?

YABU though if you expect it to be all quiet on a caravan park. Everyone has different ideas of a holiday. Some people use them as a base and are out all day, others like to use the park and stay there eating and drinking.

If the noise continues into the night, then this would be against park rules and you could call security to deal with it, but during the daytime/early evening, then there is not a lot you can do, even if they are being a bit inconsiderate.

I think if you really can't take it, then you need to start saving to stay somewhere else, but not on a caravan park.

Original poster
cherry1970 · 18/08/2019 15:57

No we come down a lot, usually once a month so we know the site pretty well.

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 18/08/2019 15:58

Op aibu?
Everyone yabu
Op but I have anxiety

Ffs

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