AIBU or are my holiday caravan neighbours...

[cherry1970]

Hi, would appreciate your views and understand I may be shot down...
We arrived at MIL's caravan yesterday, myself, hubby and 7 and 12 year old kids, we've been coming here since 2012 and it's always been a lovely peaceful place, mainly privately owned caravans and lodges (it's a nice place). Last year new neighbours brought the van behind ours and shattered our peace but not by doing anything wrong just by having loud voices, loud dogs and a granddaughter who actually isn't that loud! Once before I have asked them to be a bit quieter as I'd put the youngest to bed and they were disturbing her. They were fine.
There are now more new neighbours next door who maybe know the others or have got pally. Yesterday afternoon they had family arrive and they all joined together with 3 bbqs going and 5 kids running around in the grassy area between our caravans. I don't cope well with noise and after a couple of hours I went and politely asked them to quieten down a bit. One of the guys swung round in my face and said how dare I ask them about noise when they have put up with my sister in laws dogs barking in our van for the last week (I had no idea about this but its not my responsibility and I considered it irrelevant) the men all then turned on me complaining about the constantly barking dogs and the fact that last year someone apparently stayed in our van and had a party until 1am. I continued to try to explain until one of them shouted at me to go away and go to the office if I had a problem (I did think about doing this first but thought the adult thing to do would be to ask in person). So I did go to the office and completely broke down. A couple of the wives came over and were actually pretty nice to me but continued to say about the noise last week and the fact that they were entitled to have a party outside the caravans.
Walking around the site for the last 7 years I've not seen this happen before.
Who is being unreasonable?

YABU and I'm not surprised they bit back about noise from your MIL's van. Kids playing and having a BBQ in the afternoon is perfectly normal.

Omg you are being sooooooo unreasonable.

Can you get yourself some noise cancelling headphones??????

They are having a bbq on THEIR holiday.

You cannot expect radio silence because you don't cope well with noise.

The caravan park doesn't revolve around you and your sound issues unfortunately.

YABU
We go caravanning and have done 3 x per year for the last 20 years and what you are asking is ridiculous.

They didn’t do anything wrong🤷‍♀️.

They are making use of their caravan just like you would expect them to and they probably think you are the CF to complain when previously you have disturbed them. Although rightly, they just ignored it until you chose to complain.

Does look like this is not a holiday compatible with your needs. Caravan on a family site at the height of school holidays. YABVU

YABVVVVU

unless its 1am then fine

YABU it’s totally normal noise during the day

If you’re so sensitive to noise then a caravan park in school holidays isn’t for you.

If you want total quiet then you need to holiday in a cottage in the middle of nowhere.
YABVVVU.

They've obviously put up with barking dogs and party noises form your MIL's caravan without complaining. Then you come along and tell them to shut up just for having a BBQ in the afternoon? You're completely out of line.

Campsites are there predominantly for people, who want to socialise or who have children. We have spent a few holidays in static caravans. Hell would freeze over before you’d get me in one if I didn’t have dd. You can’t dictate your neighbours noise levels during the day. I take ear plugs.

From their point of view the dog noise was from your caravan - so they are right in saying 'you' were making the noise. Its a caravan park, you expect children, BBq's etc. If it was at night it would be different but to complain about it in the daytime is not reasonable.

YABU.
I’d have hovered nearby and hoped for the offer of a sausage bap and a beer.

For goodness sake

It's a caravan park in the middle of the school holidays

They're having a BBQ and their kids are running around playing.

What did you expect to find in the middle of August in err...a caravan park?

I have a very very low tolerance of noise but this just sounds like normal noise and behaviour to me.

YABU

Do your kids not play outside the caravan, OP? Mine would have made friends with the BBQers in the hope of a hot dog.

Yes thank you, I think I was wrong to go over but I did think the response was a bit ott.... I understand what people are saying about caravan parks not being the place for us, I suppose as the previous 6 years were so quiet I came to expect it. I won't really want to come again but it's free and the kids enjoy the seaside.

I think if you don’t like noise then caravanning during the summer holidays is not the best idea. It sounds like you were lucky with the previous owners.

They're doing nothing wrong by socialising on a holiday park, in the summer holidays. They were BU to start shouting at you, but my bet is that they were frustrated after the noise from your SIL/Other guests.

If the children like the seaside could you hire a cottage instead? Even the quiet campsites will be noisy in August.

Why does the noise bother you so much during the day? It sounds like regular family noise. Can you really not bear it? Or is it the change that’s bothering you?

YABU. People on holiday at a caravan park are entitled to have a barbecue with friends and let kids play outside. And yes, the noise caused by other members of your family at the caravan is relevant, regardless of whether you were there.

If you can’t cope with other people’s voices or people cooking outdoors, don’t go for a holiday on a caravan site, however ‘nice’ it is. Book a cottage with no neighbours or something instead.

One of the reasons we always went camping was the sociable side of camping and caravan sites.

Children have the freedom to run about.

I think you are BU.A remote cottage would suit your needs better.This is what we did when kids were bigger.

I don’t mean that nastily BTW. It’s just your reaction seems quite extreme..

I'd agree it's you in the wrong here. I don't understand why you don't feel it's your responsibly if people are noisy whilst staying in your caravan. Of course it's your responsibility.

The fact you don't do well with noise is your own issues. You cannot make it other people's problem. They were doing nothing wrong, just having fun.

Oh sorry it's your mother in laws caravan so not your responsibility.