to not call my rapist Annabel

[Tyrotoxicity]

Because it's not his name.

His name's Mark.

But he gets to hide behind "Annabel".

AIBU to not know what the hell to think or how to react when my rapist declares he's a woman?

You are NOT being unreasonable. Wtaf? And I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

Is this in court?

Yanbu.

Not in court. Just a surprisingly large headfuck that I did not see coming.

Yanbu

You're not being unreasonable at all, OP. I'm sorry you're going through this terrible ordeal.

Call him anything you like.

He doesn't deserve you respecting his wish to be called anything.

YANBU, OP

This is ridiculous, everyone sees it.

Solidarity to you.

Yanbu OP. As a pp said, you call that bastard MAN, whatever the fuck you want.

YANBU. Not at all.

Yanbu. His name is Mark and he's a rapist.

Annabel is also a male who is a rapist.

He doesn't get to change the narrative.

You are fully entitled to call someone who abused you Shitface, if that's what you prefer. Are you in the awful position of having to maintain some sort of contact with this individual, or is it about the name this individual wants to go by during a court case?

I hope this heinous crime is not being recorded as being perpetrated by a female.

YANBU he is a bastard! Mark is a rapist cunt.

Much love to you.

Just

Call him whatever you like.

It doesn't deserve to be called anything because it is a vile disgusting creature.

YAMDNBU. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong in the face of this madness. How can the authorities allow this? Can they not see it only compounds the assault and adds to your distress?

The 'mdn' stands for 'most definitely not'

Was he called Mark when he attacked you? If so I don't see how anyone in court can object to you using this name.

Outside court you can call the bastard anything you want.

Trans people often refer to using their old name as deadnaming as they want to erase their past identity. He does not have the right to force other people to do that, your experiences and memories are real and valid.

God, this is appalling. His name is Mark and he's a rapist. No such thing as a woman with a penis.

Oh, and YADNBU.

It's not being recorded anywhere - there is no way in hell a rape charge would have stuck at the time, let alone later - point blank ignoring the "no" and telling her she's wrong and she really means "yes" until she finally lies back and thinks of England because it's clearly happening regardless and she can't find any other way out isn't really "I demonstrated my no enough for the courts to believe" -

But I've been protecting this piece of shit by never being honest about what he did for... fourteen years?

Why am I doing this?

Why is he doing this?

Am I actually allowed to just stand up and say "You're not a woman; you're a rapist"?

Sounds like he's trying to hide what he actually is, a fucking scumball rapist, by jumping on the trans train.

I'm so sorry for what you've been through

Are you still in a relationship with him, do you have common friends or family?

I would say tell the world who and what he is, but keep yourself emotionally safe at the same time.

For fucks sake. YANBU

Tyrotoxicity I hope you know that you ADNBU

Do you have support?

Yes, Mark became a rapist when you said no.

Mark can call themselves Annabel or Innocent or Misunderstood. A name doesn’t change nature.