To think grown adults don’t need to be in touch with each other multiple times during the day?

[PuzzledObserver]

It seems to be fairly common on MN for people to be texting or calling their DP multiple times in the course of a day.

Early stages of a relationship and you’re in lurve..... I get it.

You’re doing something out of your normal routine and want to let DP know, or you’re going to the shops and text to ask if they need anything, fair enough.

DC had an accident or your workplace is on fire, absolutely.

But on a bog standard ordinary day when you’re both doing whatever you normally do and you’re both going to be home around the time you usually are..... why would you?

God knows!

DH and I message if we need to ask a question or have an amusing DC-related quote or anecdote. Or change of plans. But that's it.

I have a couple of friends though who I can have all day back and forth conversations with - just talking shit in between meetings and work stuff. It's quite fun.

Why does it matter what other people do? Does it make a difference to your day?

I can't be doing with it unless it's an emergency or massively important.

It can all wait til we get home from work otherwise.

If I get bored at work.

Mostly we exchange pictures of dogs.

I’m always messaging / phoning DH throughout the day. We’ve been together for 20 years. I just like telling him stuff I don’t think he’s that fussed about hearing it though

Me and my partner still text everyday not as much as when we first met as we are 6 years in but he works nights mon to Friday 4 days a week he walks out the door as I walk in.

He always texts me in the afternoon when he gets up to check on me and lo. General chit chat really. I've been with him all afternoon but I'll still text him tonight when he's at work. Probably just a little more because it can be quite lonely on your own every night.

But tbh we've always spoke throughout the day. It works for us. Xx

If you don’t want to do it, then don’t. I don’t really mind how often other people message each other. Each to their own.

Why do you care? That probably sounds snarkier than I mean it too be, but It doesn't impact on you does it?
I text my dp quite a bit, he works shifts and is also away quite a bit. We just text as and when we think of something to say, quite often we won't see each other at all that day and other times we still just text when we feel like it anyway.
It's no big deal to us.

It’s nothing big but we will do a few WhatsApp back and forths- sometimes it’s ‘are we doing the big shop tonight?’ / ‘is that chicken ok for dinner?’ but sometimes it’s silly photos, or an in joke, or a comment on a film we watched at the weekend. It’s just light and nice, we have been together years so not in the first flushes of love. We don’t NEED to do it but it’s a nice break at work or whatever.

Every couple has a different dynamic, does it matter?

God yes! I hate this. Constant little texts.

My DHs Ex does this still! It’s about the kids my foot... some people are still 11 years old.

It is INANE.

My DH always rings me when he’s on the way home and we have a little chat while he’s driving - we start telling each other about our day even though we’ll see each other in half an hour (thinking about it, that is a bit of a strange habit we’ve got in to but hey, we like it 😄) If people want to text each other what’s the big deal? And what does it have to do with being an adult?

I'm a sahm, he works full time. I don't contact him unless it's an emergency. He knows if I'm calling him during the day, something serious has happened! He usually texts me in his lunch break to see how I am. I don't care if he doesn't though...just assume he's busy.

DH texts about DC he is out at 6am and back after 9pm so wants to know how their days have been. I think it’s nice.

I don't get the adult thing either Pixie.
I am so old that mobiles didn't even exist when I was a youngen.

We don't call, and when we do the other freaks out something 's seriously wrong .

But we text quite a bit.
OH always texts to say good morning,have a good day ,love you etc.

During the day depending how busy we are there might be a few how are yous,a moan about the weather or work or whatever.

I'm at home for the holidays so we text a bit more now. Today it was about my new trainers, how amazing the drain unblocker was and "can I paint the cupboard ?" "Yes" "any colour?" "LOL...oh god..yes" "yay! We're going to have a TEAL cupboard!!" .

Inane,possibly childish and boring? Yes... I don't mind and he doesn't either. Neither strops if we're busy or don't reply for hours or whatever. We exchange jokes,funny pics and things about DD. We don't harm anyone.

Have been together 10 years(fuck me that's a ling time!!).

Oooh no, I barely have time for a wee during work let alone texts (and DP can't have his phone on at work anyway) We send the odd email if we need something, otherwise it's a text in the morning and a call as I leave work (I leave later)

Not texting each other doesn’t make you better, it just means it’s different.

We will text each other a few times during the day, general chat, news articles etc. Never a phone call though

Its the buggers phoning their partners to tell them they are on the bus that I want to kill.

Each to their own. My DP and I have been together just over four years, live together and still message each other throughout the day, depending on how busy work is.
I like to feel connected even if it is just silly messages. We leave each other alone if we have days or evenings out planned with other people though, otherwise it’s just rude to text while you’re in company.

DH and I email each other all the time. I love it. If I look back through them it all coalesces into one long conversation between us. It's our marriage captured, really.

You miserable bunch of bastards 😂

I talk to DH all day every day about stuff. Just, stuff.

We make each other happy. So we natter like old ladies 🙈

We've only been together a couple of decades so there's time for it to fizzle out yet....

Oh and atm he has two phones so sometimes we text on BOTH!! About different things!! The horror!!

Yes,the exclamation marks are intentional.

We are together 20 years. We like to talk to each other, even if its about nothing.

Life is short, do what makes you happy OP and dont be bothered by what other people do.