To think grown adults don’t need to be in touch with each other multiple times during the day?

[PuzzledObserver]

It seems to be fairly common on MN for people to be texting or calling their DP multiple times in the course of a day.

Early stages of a relationship and you’re in lurve..... I get it.

You’re doing something out of your normal routine and want to let DP know, or you’re going to the shops and text to ask if they need anything, fair enough.

DC had an accident or your workplace is on fire, absolutely.

But on a bog standard ordinary day when you’re both doing whatever you normally do and you’re both going to be home around the time you usually are..... why would you?

I meant Crickey! And the stealth boasting on here ....

I love talking to DH during the day but not usually a text unless it's a quick message that needs to be passed on. I don't speak to him before he leaves as he's up earlier than me so it's nice to check in, see how his day is going. It might be easier that we're both self employed.
It doesn't happen everyday though sometimes we wait until we're both home to talk if it's an especially busy day.
I love nothing more on long journeys than to ring him up and chat away. Talk about friends, family and upcoming plans (obviously on hands-free).

Sparklingbrook it's a nightmare. People expect you to put so much work in. You can't just have a date, leave it a few days and then arrange another one. It's all texting, messaging within the dating app, fucking around for hours on end. It starts before you even have the bloody date at all tbh ie people who you literally don't know just carry on these fucking days-long conversations with you and want you to respond all the time. It's loads of effort.

Everyone’s looking for validation of their very existence every 5 minutes .... hilarious

How is it "needy" to enjoy chatting to your spouse/partner? Really odd comment.

When you’re away from them for 10 mins lol!!.

It feels a bit weird now, because DP and i both work in environments where mobile phones are banned, so we send "good morning / stay safe" texts first thing, and then pick our conversations up again in the evening.

When you’re away from them for 10 mins lol!!.

Well atm OH leaves at 5:30 in the morning and is back at 6:30 pm at the earliest. He hasn't exactly just gone to the toilet.

When you’re away from them for 10 mins lol!!.

Where has anyone on this thread said they do that?

*Everyone’s looking for validation of their very existence every 5 minutes .... hilarious

When you’re away from them for 10 mins lol!!.
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@LymeyPie not sure either of these bizarre statements is true, or been said by anyone!

Why on earth do you care op? 🤷🏻‍♀️

"I am so glad I was dating in the 80s, it was very civilised and none of this neediness and constantly being available."

In the 70s in my case, but I agree. I am on various group chats, but we only communicate when there is a need - for example going away for a weekend etc. None of my friends can be arsed with inane chat on a daily basis. Mind you most of us won't see 50 again

*Honestly? These couples (mostly) sound completely up themselves and in their own up-themselves, dull, self-congratulatory bubble! Still if it makes ‘em happy

Cricket sparkling shows how times have changed! Everyone seems a co dependent self satisfied rehires to me now*!!

@LymeyPie another couple of cracking quotes from you, you sound extremely angry and irate about something that's fuck all of your business! Everyone is codependent ..... you're the only exception to that rule? People live their lives differently, you don't need to get involved.

Couples who do this - are both of you extroverts?

He is, and he prefers to phone me than faff about texting, but I’m an introvert and find phone calls intrusive.

I like texts as I can keep in contact when it’s convenient for me to reply, there’s no urgency to answer like there is with a phone call.

I’ve trained him to text me instead of call most of the time!

Being an introvert, I’m happy working at home alone, but it can be a bit isolating so hearing from my beloved once or twice a day is important to me.

Crikey, some real venom on this thread. Why all the bitterness?

DS was also that if I was ill at school and my Mum was out and not answering the landline there was nothing the school could do.

I know times have changed and I sound 100 years old but it did honestly seem better. Meet someone in a club, exchange landline phone numbers and then wait. the horrible feeling that their Mum or Dad might answer if you were to ring them.

Using "lol" doesn't really do much to validate a goady post

It's odd that other people would care how often couples do or don't message during the day.

Oh Martha 😂😂

You would care if all your work colleagues spent loads of time texting and calling their other halves and you were the only one doing any work.

Does that ever happen?

Just one person slaving away,doing the job of the other five who are ALL in a relationship and texting/calling?

Very likely judging by this thread!

Even though the majority mentioned set times (break,lunch,commute), are at home and the partner answers or not, or they're self employed/own their business/work from home?

There might just be a little bit of hyperbole in your conclusion.

Well no one picks up my work so I can send a few texts. No one in my office can pick up my work. The only person that can do part of my job, texts far more than me.

Our office has a policy, as long as you do you work. Do what you want. If you want to go for an extra break or a walk, do it.

As long as the work that is yours to do, no one is bothered.

Yes it has done stocktake.
One of my colleagues wasn't pulling her weight because she was messaging her bf all the time. She was in her 6 month probationary period, and they didn't keep her on.

@TapasForTwo yes that's ONE of your colleagues, do you just work in pairs? Because you stated you're the ONLY one working.