To think grown adults don’t need to be in touch with each other multiple times during the day?

[PuzzledObserver]

It seems to be fairly common on MN for people to be texting or calling their DP multiple times in the course of a day.

Early stages of a relationship and you’re in lurve..... I get it.

You’re doing something out of your normal routine and want to let DP know, or you’re going to the shops and text to ask if they need anything, fair enough.

DC had an accident or your workplace is on fire, absolutely.

But on a bog standard ordinary day when you’re both doing whatever you normally do and you’re both going to be home around the time you usually are..... why would you?

My husband and I chat back and forth most of the day.
What difference does it make to anyone else?

@Queenunikitty Yes, I think if I never saw my children, I’d be pleased to learn all about them via text too.

Mine texts from the toilet, gym, work but it's just like random chatter. It doesn't even bother me. If I don't text back he doesn't even bat an eye lid. He's just a wee gibberer!

We don't need to be no. But we do because .... We like talking to each other gasp
We make each other laugh and like chatting.

*You’re doing something out of your normal routine and want to let DP know, or you’re going to the shops and text to ask if they need anything, fair enough.

DC had an accident or your workplace is on fire, absolutely.*

I'd better let him know we've been breaking the rules for the last 15 years. But I'll make sure I won't text it. I'll wait until I see him to tell him

Maybe we're ungrown adults? Can we get some sort of refund on all the taxes do you think?

We have been together 15 years. DH waves me off in the monring. When I get to work I call him and usually complete the latter half of the conversation we were having as I left. i always call at lunch. I text usually about 4 to ask what he wants from the shops, then I get home about 6.

Works for me. DH is my best friend. If anything happens in the day I usually want to run it by him.

My DH and I do - didn't realise it would ever annoy other people though

I find it really annoying when colleagues spend all day tapping away on their phones texting their DP’s and DC’s, on the basis we are there to work. I cannot believe he can find that much of interest to discuss.

DH and I don’t text/speak during the day unless there is a change in childcare arrangements, and the odd message between people during the day is obviously fine. But I have one colleague in particular who spends more time messaging his DP than working which is frankly, taking the piss.

We talk all the time, even email each other at work. We generally have shot to say to each other.
I'm a grown adult, as you said, ergo can do what I want

I'm like you, OP. Am self contained, I suppose, and when I'm at work, I'm Work Me, not Wife Me, or Mum Me.

In fact, I rang DH today, because I needed a quick answer, but immediately, on a holiday booking thing, and he shouted "WHAT WRONG?!" when he picked up, so surprised was he to see me calling.

My DH of 20 years is my best friend and we send messages during day.

Happily married for almost 30 years and I find it odd when people ring or text their significant other every day, especially when they live together .. but hey, I’ve only actually had a smart phone for a couple of years. Before then I wasn’t allowed to use a phone on work premises, my journey to work had poor intermittent signal and there was no signal at home (except by hanging out of the bedroom window or standing on the garage roof) so we are used to just talking and catching up when we get in.
If one of us is away for a few weeks (eg for work or visiting non mutual friends ) we usually text or phone once a week. More that I would worry thinking he’s not happy or there is a serious problem.

The 11 year olds are the ones judging other adults on how often they communicate with their loved ones .

I don’t care if people do it on their own time. But if out with friends or when their supposed to be working I think it in the first instance it is bad manners and in the second how about just doing the job your getting paid to do.

We have messaged for childcare changes, work timings and stuff that needs dealing with not just fluffy stuff.

My husband rang me the other day to tell me he'd got a good bargain on some pillows. He makes my heart happy when he rings with his absolute nonsense. While each to their own, I feel sad for people who think hearing from their partner is a bit of a bother.

My husband and I met at work, due to our roles meant we spoke a lot during the course of the day. We got together spoke all day, every day and worked together in 2 other jobs since then. My husband has Bipolar disorder and ADHD and while we were working in London our constant talking was really important to his mental health and his ability to regulate during the work day. We have since emigrated and I no longer work but he does, and we still talk through out the day about anything and nothing, frankly we'd both feel really out of place and lost if we didn't after 12 years of it.

I don't have time for it! But have nothing against others doing it, just not our thing. When I'm at work I'm busy, same for DH. Today he texted me at 11 am, I picked it up on my commute home in the eve.

If we phone each other though, that means something serious and I'll walk out of any meeting, client, internal or whatever to answer...

Should I also mention that when he was off for a week he dropped by a few days during my morning break to say hello,give me a kiss and have a fag together(I'd be out anyways) or would the internet explode?

Nope I only text/call if it’s really important
Last time I rang on my break he thought I’d been injured!
I don’t bother now

My old man is my best bud, if I see a carrot shaped like a knob or Stephanie from accounts is being a wench, or I want to cry because I'm a big fatty but have just eaten a doughnut anyway...I'm telling him that shizz! We were both working today and had a GIF off (I reign supreme!) He makes me laugh-it doesn't affect anyone else so why not?

We text occassionally throughout the day, but for some reason, that I am not sure of, we never ring if one of us rings the other it means its serious

baker because you are getting paid to work, not have a GIF off with your DP

DH and I message each other throughout the day and it's great! I'm not going to feel ashamed about it, we like to send randomness to each other, as well as the pleasantries. Been doing it for 10 years now, with no signs of abating.

DH is away right now, messages sent to me in the last two hours were goodnight voice messages for my son, and pictures of the foundation I asked him to get for me (to check they're the correct ones). He didn't have to send anything, but I'm in a happier place because of the contact. Boo hoo to anyone who feels my life is inane because of it.

I will call home at lunchtimes some days just to check in and hear DH's voice - I work shifts and with commute on top can be out of the house for 12 hours some days. Just a 5-minute call from somewhere quiet, though. We've been together for over 20 years.

I don't get it when I'm on the train and I can hear people having lengthy conversations with people they are apparently on their way home to, usually about bugger-all as far as I can tell