To feel uncomfortable telling people I'm pregnant because....

[Beingrllystupid]

It feels like announcing to the entire world that we've had sex?
I'm being utterly ridiculous I know but I don't want to tell my parents because of this, obviously they probably know I'm not a virgin but still

Yet another dubious pill 'failure' that MN threads seem to specialise in.

ZeeZee3 You might have had a point if the OP had ASKED for your opinion on her 3 month relationship. However she didn't.

You've just decided (as have other posters, not just you) to put forward your UNSOLICITED opinion and judgement on her situation. People will pick up on that and quite rightly put forward their own opinion on what you have done.

This site is supposed to be about parents supporting parents.

Shame is such an unproductive emotion, OP. You are a mammal, mammals reproduce through intercourse - so far, so normal. You're doing what all of us were designed to do. Embrace it!

Croquembou am I reading correctly? Is your DH's best friend really 12 years old?

Emotionally, spiritually, yes. Literally, he's 31.

I think the real issue is that you have only been with him for 3 months.

your parents will be reasonably worried about that and how you don’t even know the father that well and don’t have stable plans to how the child will be raised.. and I won’t blame them

I can't believe in this day and age that a number of people still don't know that being ill or on antibiotics can mess with the pill's effectiveness. Scary.

@zeezee3 yeah because i'm sure the op really really cares about getting your support for something she didn't ask for your opinion on

Wow there’s some really nasty comments on this thread. I find alot of people on mn very pushy towards abortion. She is keeping the baby stop saying that she shouldn’t! Bloody rude.

I was like this. I didn't want to tell my great aunt because then she'd know I wasn't a virgin. I was a married 26 year old woman!

Hormones are funny things.

I felt the same OP telling my Dad at the age of 20 also after a 3 month relationship.

That baby is 16 in two weeks and her Dad and I celebrate 17 years together two weeks after that, married for the last 8 years. Things will either work out. Or they won’t. But to the PP who nastily told the OP to get some ambition, having an unplanned baby at a youngish age does not mean you have no ambition. If anything it can give you greater drive.

They’ll probably be more upset that you’re pregnant after only being with him 3 months than embarrassed that you’ve had sex!

Fwiw I'm for Abortion for any reason. It is however bloody rude of people to keep inferring that OP should have one after she's already said she wants to keep the pregnancy. Beyond rude.

I was in my mid thirties and was mortified telling my Dad. :).

FWIW I wasn’t inferring OP should abort. But I do think she needs to bare in mind she needs to reassure her parents about how she will raise the child and make it work with the father...

It’s better to expect their disappointment and handle it correctly than think that the conversation will be full of blushing about her level of intimacy.

I really think.. she can make anything work. Just address the real issue here

@zeezee3 how horrible of you, the OP didnt ask your advice on whether she should terminate her unborn baby or not, you are actually disgusting

I’d be really worried about the 3 months thing. Only go ahead with this pregnancy if you’re prepared to go it alone; for 18 years.... or more.

Wow OP, I think you are taking a risk having a baby with someone you haven't even been through the stress of a Christmas yet.

Tell your parents it was because of the stalk. Bloody stalk.

I was 22 when I fell pregnant, married and I felt the same way. It was more telling our parents, rather than other people finding out I was pregnant.

I know how you feel!
I felt the same & im 31 & been with partner 5 years!
It was weirder still when I told work colleagues that I was pregnant & a middle aged male colleague asked me if we had been trying felt very strange to be asked!
Also the OP hasn't asked for opinions on whether to keep her baby. The length of a relationship isn't any guarantee to it working out & if her & hef partner are happy then good luck to them.
Having a baby is hard anyway (1st time Mum to 14 week old DS) but it is no one else's place to judge.
Congratulations OP

That should say I was 22 when I fell pregnant. I was 21 when I got married, and still felt mortified telling our parents we were expecting.

😂😂😂 sounds crazy but I thought the exact same thing!

YABU to feel that way - but i felt the exact same and i was 40!!!
Made worse by my v religious aunt asking "was it a natural conception?" nosycow

Never mind what your parents think...... YABU to be having a baby with a man you have known for 12 weeks! confused How can it POSSIBLY be the 'right thing for you both' to be bringing a baby into this insanely short relationship?

I found out i was pregnant with my eldest daughter when i'd been with her dad for 3 months. she was born exactly 11 months after we first met. that was 16 years ago. we're still together, we're very happy, we have 3 more children. the same can't be said for most of the relationships of the snarky bastards who made comments like this about how it was a terrible idea and we were ruining our lives. we were 21 and 23 at the time. we grew our family and our relatiionship at the same time, we didn't have a 'care free' time together to miss, so we didn't miss it. we travelled, we just took her with us. I went to university, i gave birth to my second child in the christmas break of my second year and he came to lectures with me. i got a first class degree and a masters degree.

I'm 22 so quite young.

I was 34 and felt the same way!