To feel uncomfortable telling people I'm pregnant because....

[Beingrllystupid]

It feels like announcing to the entire world that we've had sex?
I'm being utterly ridiculous I know but I don't want to tell my parents because of this, obviously they probably know I'm not a virgin but still

[MondeoFan]

I was the same and married for 3 years and 33 years old!

[Dinosforall]

3 months

[zeezee3]

@Beingrllystupid

Agree with previous posters...

Never mind what your parents think...... YABU to be having a baby with a man you have known for 12 weeks! How can it POSSIBLY be the 'right thing for you both' to be bringing a baby into this insanely short relationship?

If it was me, there is no WAY I would be keeping it. Especially if I was only 22.

[onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad]

Yeah I get you - I was 34 and remember thinking omg this is the first time I'm providing real evidence to my parents i've had sex.
Couldn't give a sh2t now 20 years and two children later I wonder what I was being so precious about. It kind of doesn't matter what my parents think. But I do get where you're at.

[Vasya]

The fact that you've only been together for 3 months is likely to be of much greater concern to your parents than the fact that you've had sex

[marthamatilda]

can't believe how massively insensitive some of these comments are

[onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad]

The fact that you've only been together for 3 months is likely to be of much greater concern to your parents than the fact that you've got pregnant

Rubbish I was with my partner four years before getting married and having children - and it all fell apart spectacularly. You can't abbot generalise about these things.

[EllesBells123]

Congratulations! Just a bit of positivity for you...my now husband and I fell with our first after knowing each other three months. When you know, you know, we were already living together and it was pretty clear by then that we would end up married with children, it just all happened rather fast and out of order. I hope it's the same for you. Also telling your parents is never easy no matter how old you are. All the best x

[JellyPeanut]

I felt exactly the same too only it was when I was out pushing the pram as a new mother - thinking everyone knew what I'd been up to to put a baby in that crib...

[JapaneseBirdPainting]

When DH and I got married (we were 'late' to marry.... mid-50s for him) people would ask us if we would try and have a baby. I would say ; 'Yes, but don't tell my dad because he thinks we are just platonic friends'.

I found that amusing anyway...

[AmIAWeed]

Anyone on here claiming you're wrong for being pregnant after 3 months is out of order, ignore them. I was 18 when I was pregnant with my eldest. My Grandad said "we'll we all knew you weren't playing tidlywinks of an evening" I was mortified!!!!

It didn't work out with my children's Dad, but I have two awesome kids. Not everything happens in the 'right' way but it doesn't make it wrong, as long as it's right for you.

[Branleuse]

Noone cares that people have sex.

[itsgoodtobehome]

22 and with someone for 3 months. Really? Ffs grow up and get some ambition and go out and live life first.

[Rubicon80]

I mean in this day and age it's not even necessarily the case. Loads of IVF babies around.

[marthamatilda]

do people really not think a 22 year old is capable making the right decisions?? ridiculous

[MagicMojito]

Fucks sake how unsupportive are some of these comments. Yes 3 months is an incredibly short amount of time to be having a baby together, but having a long relationship with house, marriage etc is no guarantee to a happy ending. Half the threads on this site should be proof enough for that

OP, I was 22 when I had my youngest. Yes, me and her dad are still together (have been together over a decade now) and that's great, but whether our relationship would have survived or not is COMPLETELY IRRELEVANT to whether I was ready to be a mum at that age or not. Do you feel ready to be a mum? Do you feel you can offer a child a home that they will be safe and loved in? That's all that matters here. Bollocks to people's judgements on the 3 months.

Good luck

[Camomila]

Although thinking about it you could be a virgin and have DC these days (sperm donation, ICSI etc)

[IAintWroteNoPoetry]

Bloody hell some people are horrible. Ignore anyone telling you YABU to have a baby, Congratulations OP!.

[MrsLoganEcholls]

I know what you mean. I've never actually said the words 'I'm pregnant' to my parents.
I've got three kids, so the first time I gave them a photo frame with the 12 week scan.
The second time I got my firstborn, who was 4, to give them a card with the scan inside.
And the third time, I let DS1 and DD1 run into the room and announce it before I walked into the room...

[sugarplumfairy28]

Just wanted to say I fell pregnant at 22, and had been with the guy 3 months, had known him a lot longer though. This year we celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. While it is common that very short relationships don't withstand the immediate stress and pressure of becoming a family, you never know, and if you feel its the right thing then give it everything you've got!

I do get the whole announcing you've had sex thing, although luckily everyone does just gloss over it.

[Limt]

Croquembou am I reading correctly? Is your DH's best friend really 12 years old?

[Limt]

I worked with a girl who said she would never wear an engagement ring because everyone would know you were going to get married and have sex.

[zeezee3]

@WineIsMyCarb

I am a mother of 2. I run a business, have a mortgage, a food plan on the wall, various loyalty cards, I even remember to feed the cat...

... but a very childish part of me when I see a pregnant woman mentally sings "ha ha, I know you had se-exxxx".

Really?

How bizarre. And very childish. Why is it so weird or funny for adults to have sex?

[zeezee3]

@Limt

I worked with a girl who said she would never wear an engagement ring because everyone would know you were going to get married and have sex.

WTAF?

Was this the 1830s?

Never heard anyone IN MY LIFE speak such utter bollocks.