To feel uncomfortable telling people I'm pregnant because....

[Beingrllystupid]

It feels like announcing to the entire world that we've had sex?
I'm being utterly ridiculous I know but I don't want to tell my parents because of this, obviously they probably know I'm not a virgin but still

[Totalwasteofpaper]

I'm 22 so quite young. I haven't been with BF very long only about 3 months

People “knowing you’ve had sex” is the LEAST of your problems.

I would think long and hard about whether or not you want to be attached (via a child) to a guy you barely know for 20 or so years.
I would also think long and hard about whether you want to continue with the pregnancy.
What is your plan in terms of financial provision for yourself and potentially a baby???

[DontTouchTheMoustache]

3 months isnt a long time but thats not to say it will or wont work out. I feel pregnant after a year with my ex, it didnt work out. The chap I'm seeing was with his ex with for over 10 years before they had their daughter, it didn't work out. 🤷‍♀️
Two very different relationships but we both ended up as single parents so in the end it doesnt matter.

[Cosytoes111]

I felt the same

[Phoebesgift]

How stupid. We're all here because other people had sex.

[Lifecraft]

All the people commenting on the 3 month relationship as if the longer you are with someone, the less likely they are to be an asshole, forget that you can't control how a person behaves regardless of how long you've known them.

But you can make a far more accurate prediction. Someone you've known for 10 years who has never been an asshole is less likely to be an asshole than someone who you've know for 5 minutes who has never been an asshole. He could be having a good 5 minutes!!!

[MangoMummy19]

All the people commenting on the 3 month relationship as if the longer you are with someone, the less likely they are to be an asshole, forget that you can't control how a person behaves regardless of how long you've known them.

[JustMe70]

Hahaha, I was married and 29 and remember feeling a bit squiffy about telling my Dad I was pregnant! Still makes me smile all these years later

[64sNewName]

I’d never judge anyone for having a baby at a young age, or unplanned. Life happens, it’s fine. Plenty of young people are super competent and emotionally strong. Plenty of older parents are hopeless.

But those of you who are supposedly adults, and still haven’t gotten past the stage of thinking omg they’ve had sex on hearing about a pregnancy? Yeah, I am comfortable judging you.

I’m not saying you’re doing anything morally wrong. Just that you’re childish and slightly creepy.

[Work12]

Omg!! I haven't read the full thread but the comments I have read what the actual fuck you nasty stuck up bitches, get off your high horse. Op yes I felt the same slightly that everyone's knows you had sex a couple of weeks ago and when people say they are pregnant I also can't help but think they have just had sex I actually imagine it :o. Don't listen to the nasty comments of are you mature enough for parenthood, I hope you feel good about yourself and guess what I was pregnant after 3 months when I was 21 and it was a planned baby shock horror what silly naive idiots, oh and then we also went on to have a surprise baby, oh and then we went on to be married, oh and guess what we have also been together for over 10 years now. So yes we are doing great! We are mature, have a nice family, both work hard, not massively rich and that's the only thing I'd change, as in saving more before children but honestly screw the judgemental high horse shameful mothers on here!

[Nettie1964]

Had my first at 23 But was married and been together for 5 years. Are you sure it's the having sex you are worried about. As a parent I would be more worried about you only being together for 3 months. You are v young too. I loved being a young mum my kids are in their 30s now. But I would it be happy of you where my daughter. 3 months isn't v long. But I would hide my feelings suck it up and be v happy to meet my new gc. Sorry hope all goes well x

[ishouldbedoingsomework]

This is the weirdest thread I think I've ever read.
Congratulations OP- ignore any comments on here.
But the having had sex thing being embarrassing or something which other people even think about in relation to you? I'm staggered that so many on here have this attitude. Surely it is a normal part of life isn't it?

[lifeinthedeep]

@zeezee3

So you’re shaming the op for not having an abortion when she doesn’t want to? What is wrong with people. Contraception can fail- get over it.

[Purpletigers]

I do hope it all works out for you both .

[Purpletigers]

I’d be embarrassed to be pregnant after a three month relationship too.

[MisterOnion]

I was in the same situation as you, OP. Pregnant at 22 with someone I’d only been with for 5 months and was filled with dread at the thought of telling my parents, but I did it and they were thrilled.

Please do not listen to those commenting on your relationship. I was with my ex for 5 years, it was thought that we were to be together forever. He left me for someone else, I met DP a little while after and now have two lovely children and couldn’t be happier.

[Loki1983]

I don’t know if you’re mature enough for parenthood.

[Toomuchtrouble4me]

I was scared to tell my mother that I was expecting 4th child at 44! I knew she’d feel that 44 was too old and would voice her opinion!

[Raspberrytruffle]

I promise you they won't be thinking oh DD is pregnant she's had sex! They if normal will think I'm going to be a grandparent

[SuckerForYou]

I was absolutely mortified telling my parents I was pregnant at 21 .. It wasn't much easier at 31! Announcing my pregnancy to others was fine, but telling them made my toes curl!

[Summergarden]

Personally those thoughts never crossed my mind, perhaps because I had been married for 3 years and living with him for 10 years. It would have seemed stranger if we weren’t having sex than if we were!

Sorry if it sounds unkind, but I would feel awkward telling people I was pregnant if I’d only been with a guy for 3 months. People will no doubt be thinking it was unplanned and maybe even wondering if it’s the current boyfriend’s baby or the one before him.

Still, having sex is a normal and natural part of being an adult and no need to feel ashamed about it. Even the queen has done it!

[64sNewName]

God, it’s depressing how many people are saying they giggle/snigger or feel embarrassed about acknowledging that adults having sex. Do you all live in an episode of Are You Being Served?

I mean, the person who said it’s basically the same as telling people her partner regularly comes inside her - wtaf? Who thinks that way? Nobody, literally nobody, is picturing explicit scenes or thinking about ejaculation when you casually mention trying for a baby. Jesus.

[Angrywife]

I felt exactly the same, it's like announcing to parents "we've done it!!". I'd been living with dh for 5 years and we'd been married for 2 at this point 28 years on and I still find it hard to say "our bed" in front of my mum lol.

I would be embarrassed announcing it after 3 months though!

[Happymum12345]

Congratulations! Thinking that you’ve had sex is the last thing I would ever think of when someone announces they’re pregnant. I had a very much surprise baby and she’s the best thing that ever happened to me. All the best.

[Dragongirl10]

Frankly op, telling people you are pregnant should be of tiny consequence compared to unexpectedly having a child.

Surely you are thinking about, home, finances, schools, parenting, work comitments, whether your relationship will stand the test of time...etc, etc....
You do need to grow up and shift your focus to the things that matter...telling people you are pregnant and worrying about their reaction is very childish.

[Rainbow]

@Beingrllystupid I felt the same. I'd only been in a relationship 4 months when I got pregnant with DS1 and I was only 19.

@zeezee3 relationships can fall apart at any time, whether you got pregnant within months, years or not at all. I married my DSs father but it didnt fall apart until 11 years and 3 children later.