DH just exploded.

[SallyBe]

Our cat peed in a cupboard.

We've just moved house and she's not really settled. She generally uses the tray but there's an odd time she'll do it elsewhere. I've been trying to create a calm environment for her.

He exploded. He was shouting saying "I'm going to fucking kill her" and was slamming doors. It really scared me.

He's normally a calm person but had been under a lot of work stress recently. He's just gone in a rage, flooded the kitchen whilst trying to fill a mop bucket and stormed around the house for 20 minutes. I'm in the kitchen and he's gone and sat in front of the TV now. No apology. The cat is terrified, hiding under the bed.

Aibu to feel this way? I know cat pee smells and is hard to get out but I feel like he has over reacted.

Poor cat.

She cant help it. Your DH is a knob, what a completely OTT reaction. Is it really the first time he's done something like this?

Poor wee cat! You can get cleaning stuff specifically to get rid of the smell so they’re not encouraged to use that spot again. Not sure if there’s anything similar for a DH behaving like a complete arsehole though....

Your poor cat
Your dh needs to calm the fuck down.

What a dick. Poor cat.

I've just tried to explain that she's not doing it on purpose. He doesn't care.

He's been angry before when she's done it but not like this. He's just said he's going to watch the news, and if she does it again he's going to kill her. He wouldn't actually do this, I know it's being said in anger - a turn of phrase - but I feel horrible.

When my cat goes to the toilet on my carpet, I scrub with fairy liquid and water and then pour vodka on it. No smell at all

I’d be annoyed too- you say it’s out of character and he’s under pressure at work, maybe just cut him some slack, cat wee is a pain to clean up, if he’s not usually Like this let this one go, not sure why you were scared? Doesn’t sound particularly scary perhaps you’re too sensitive.

Tell him to get a grip - him bawling and stomping around isn't going to help matters. Cats pick up on their owners' stress so between moving home and him being work-stressed the wee cat's probably totally wound up.

Feliway might help the cat. Your husband...... not sure I've got any (sensible) ideas.

Husbaway?

People over react when there is a straw that breaks the camels back.

So he's under a lot of work stress. Moving house is up there in the top three life stresses.

Poor old cat cant help it, but I doubt he's feeling tickety boo either

I saw a Husband Creche (pub with a sign outside), perhaps you could take him there and forget to bring him back.

Simple Solution is good for removing cat pee.

Do you have kids?

If not please dont plan any

Clearly he sees it as YOUR cat.
Because otherwise it would be a case of 'aww no! I can't believe it, that's awful! What are we gonna do about it?'.

The stomping and raging about is probably to show rage at you too, not just the cat.

Not good. I'd be worried about this partnership. Because it doesn't sound like one.

Anyone said they were going to kill my cat, they'd better sleep with one eye open. Between my cat and most people, I'd choose the cat, any time.

Doesn’t sound particularly scary perhaps you’re too sensitive.

If a grown man shouting and slamming doors strikes you as perfectly normal and acceptable behaviour, you might want to take a look at your own relationships.

It’s not nice for you (or the cat) but if he’s normally calm then I think you just need to leave him to it. As long as he doesn’t actually do anything then it sounds like it’s just the last straw and he needs to express his frustration.

Bloody hell.

If he's under that sort of stress he needs to get help.

YANBU! Your poor cat. It must be petrified. Cats aren't dirty animals. They love a clean house and dirt stresses them. She hasn't done it on purpose, she's struggling with the move fgs! He owes your cat an apology!

Poor cat.

FGS

He’s upset

Maybe he had a bad week
Sometimes it’s the straw that breaks the camels back

Give him a break

I feel like offering cat guarding duties. 😿 Seriously, poor puss!

The more he stomps about angrily shouting, the more anxious the cat is going to be and the more likely it is the cat will have toiletting accidents as a result of the stress.

He needs to grow the fuck up and deal with his stress properly, not take it out on the people and animals around him.

Silly man. Sorry but he has no perspective whatsoever.

Spirit vinegar (diluted) removes/neutralises the smell and also acts as a disinfectant.

Your poor cat. Ours occasionally go where they shouldn't, and it is incredibly annoying tbh and sometimes a few choice words are spoken, but we'd never threaten or frighten them for it

I recommend Urine Off, you can get it at Sainsburys.They sell it in front of the key cutting counter.It helped getting rid of the smell when one of mine weed on the stairs.

He needs to calm down.