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To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?

248 replies

Maybe2020 · 11/08/2019 17:13

My partner and I have a cousins wedding to go to in September. He wants to wear the suit he got married in!!
I think it’s weird and told him to get a new one, he says in being stupid and it’s just clothes, doesn’t mean anything.
Aibu?

OP posts:
RelaisBlu · 12/08/2019 18:53

Unless it's a wetsuit because they got married underwater, I don't see the problem

Sara107 · 12/08/2019 18:55

Married 16 yrs. DH bought a good quality well fitting suit in a medium weight, medium sort of grey for about £300. Has worn it subsequently for every wedding, funeral, job interview, smart occasion since, winter or summer. Teamed with jolly tie, sober tie or mourning tie. Still in good condition and still looks smart. I wish I had clothes like that!!

CheckingOutTheQuantocks · 12/08/2019 18:57

My dad still has his wedding suit from 1972, and he wears it at every available opportunity so that he can tell people that he still has the same waistline that he did back then. Luckily, he lived in a very unfashionable, rural part of the country and flares and huge lapels hadn't made it there yet, so it's just a classic-looking affair in navy wool. Because he is a man of a certain age, he sees no point in spending money on anything when he's already got a perfectly good one at home, and it has no sentimental meaning to him. Perhaps your DP is the same.

Blondeshavemorefun · 12/08/2019 18:59

Men are lucky. They wear the same suit ronweddings and fberwls

Woman have to buy a new dress each time

If it was your wedding then yes Weird

But it’s a suit he wore to ex and and now another wedding

Not yours !!

Inexpertjuggler · 12/08/2019 19:04

Yabu. I had a friend who insisted her OH buy a new bed as he used to share it with his ex. I didnt give 2 hoots about the bed, seeing as I was sleeping with** the man who used to have sex with his ex. People are different tho, I get it. Some don’t care, some do

1forAll74 · 12/08/2019 19:07

Very silly to waste money,no matter what went before. If the suit still fits well,just wear it.. Is he allowed to make his own decision? I hope so !

HeadintheiClouds · 12/08/2019 19:08

I wouldn’t have slept in the same bed either.

Catsinthecupboard · 12/08/2019 19:23

I would love it if my dh wore his wedding suit. Such beautiful memories.

I wore my wedding shoes until they couldn't be resoled again. (Cream coloured leather pumps beautiful and comfortable)

To be hugged in the arms of my husband wearing his wedding suit! To be young again with hopes and dreams ...and lovely adventures ahead.

Dance the night away.

Molly564 · 12/08/2019 19:31

A tad weird but wouldn’t bother me! I know someone getting remarried and wearing the same wedding dress that she wore 1st time around as it was ‘the one’ she fell in love with the dress!!

HeadintheiClouds · 12/08/2019 19:31

That is weird!

seven201 · 12/08/2019 19:33

Yabvu

FattyPeddledFuriously999 · 12/08/2019 19:35

I'd be thinking it would have him re-live his wedding day!

BloomingHydrangea · 12/08/2019 19:43

Woman have to buy a new dress each time

They do not and should not

Nettie1964 · 12/08/2019 20:24

Its a suit. Not tails or anything? Never really understand the interest some women have in their partners clothes unless totally ridiculous or inappropriate for the occasion. Let it go.

shoesarefab · 12/08/2019 20:46

@HeadintheiClouds it was a tempur mattress and wonderfully comfortable!

Maybe if he wanted to wear the same suit to our wedding? Nah, even then I probably couldn’t get too excited, I wore a £15 dress I bought in the Zara sale to our secret wedding 😬

MIdgebabe · 12/08/2019 20:50

Buy a new dress? Why? I wore my wedding dress afterwards to posh parties ( it wasn’t white confection, and I shortened it. ) the world still revolves,

Alexapourmeadrink · 12/08/2019 20:53

Who’s going to recognise it? And why would you care? I think you must be very insecure.

Thequaffle · 12/08/2019 20:59

Its just a suit.

numberoneson · 12/08/2019 21:02

It should actually reassure you that his memories of his wedding to his ex are dead and buried, because he doesn't find the suit remotely sentimental.

Benjispruce · 12/08/2019 21:05

Ok the ex wedding thing is a bit different BUT why does he still have it if he doesn’t plan or isn’t allowed to wear it?

pollymere · 12/08/2019 21:09

If it's a normal suit, no problem. If it's Electric blue and glittery or an obvious To Get Married in one then no.

OrangeSwoosh · 12/08/2019 21:13

Unless it looks like this, YABU.

(actually I think this is pretty cool)

To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?
OrangeSwoosh · 12/08/2019 21:17

Or maybe it's a full on top hat and tails and OP is worried he may be mistaken for Jacob Rees Mogg

BikeRunSki · 12/08/2019 21:35

Did he get married in America by any chance?

To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?
Retired65 · 12/08/2019 22:11

A suit is a suit. I can see his point. There really isn't any need for him to get another suit.

My husband married me in a suit he already had. His mum wore a suit she already had in her wardrobe.