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To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?

248 replies

Maybe2020 · 11/08/2019 17:13

My partner and I have a cousins wedding to go to in September. He wants to wear the suit he got married in!!
I think it’s weird and told him to get a new one, he says in being stupid and it’s just clothes, doesn’t mean anything.
Aibu?

OP posts:
Heartburn888 · 11/08/2019 21:08

I’m with you op I would ask him to get a new suit.

maddy68 · 11/08/2019 21:29

A suit is a suit. Noone will recognise it.

category12 · 11/08/2019 21:32

Perhaps it is an unusual suit.

To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?
Coffeeandcherrypie · 11/08/2019 21:35

YABU. No one will remember unless it’s bright blue or white.

How long have you been together?

feelingverylazytoday · 11/08/2019 21:45

No, he should wear it again, as often as he needs to. Mens suits are not usually recognisable as 'wedding' clothes, unlike the brides clothes. I would think it was fine if it was the the other way round, if it was a dress that wasn't white, or bridal in any way. Obviously no one wants to upstage the bride.

ethelfleda · 11/08/2019 21:47

You’re being very weird. It’s just a suit.

CherryPavlova · 11/08/2019 21:51

Doesn’t he have other suits? If not, it’s silly to buy one for one day. It’s a lounge suit so hardly the same as rewearing a wedding dress. Think of the cost and the planet. Tell him to buy a new tie.

TSSDNCOP · 11/08/2019 21:54

So long as he isn’t wearing it to your wedding Smile

MarieBaroneIsMyMom · 11/08/2019 22:07

I think it’s weird that you want to dictate what your boyfriend wears.

HermioneWeasley · 11/08/2019 22:11

Does it have her name embroidered all over it? Say “x loves y” inside a heart?

Crunchymum · 11/08/2019 22:20

@Maybe2020

How old is the suit? Is he newly divorced / separated?

Bubblysqueak · 11/08/2019 22:24

Unless it's top hat and tails and he'd stand out like a sore thumb then yabu. It's just a suit.

Auntpetunia2015 · 11/08/2019 22:25

Surely he has other clothes he wore with his ex or even she bought him. Why does it matter ?

InsertFunnyUsername · 11/08/2019 22:27

He's probably still got a Tshirt he wore once during a quickie with his Ex. Underpants too...

BackforGood · 11/08/2019 22:40

I agree with the overwhelming majority.
The whole point of wearing an 'ordinary suit' to your wedding is that is is something you can wear over and over again. Presuming it isn't distinctive enough for anyone else to remember or make any association with his wedding (as per illustration above), then no-one would even know. Who is going to be noticing what suit a cousin (or is it your cousin, so a cousin's partner) is wearing at a wedding ? Confused. Even if a random person thought 'oh, that chap's suit is nice', they still wouldn't think 'that chap's suit is just like the one he wore at his wedding, long before he was going out with OP', now would they ? Hmm

Jux · 11/08/2019 22:45

Why is it making odd because it's what he wore to marry his ex? I don't understand why that's the thing you don't like, rather than the suit he married you in (he hasn't married you yet, has he? Is that the problem?).

Regardless of whom he married in it, what's the problem? Please explain.

Jux · 11/08/2019 22:46

Is it a morning suit?

Jamiefraserskilt · 11/08/2019 22:52

I am sure he has clothes he used to wear before you came into his life that you had no issue with. When it comes to the suit, this holds no significance to him and it shouldn't with you. He will be wearing trousers and a jacket he has worn before but with a shirt, tie, socks, shoes and underwear that is different. It is not a special suit to him.

ispepsiokay · 11/08/2019 23:04

Has it got GROOM embroidered on the back in some poncy font?

DdraigGoch · 11/08/2019 23:22

The main reason that women don't tend to re-wear their wedding dress is that - as it's usually bright white - it's obviously their wedding dress.

A long gone relative of mine (rationing generation) dyed her wedding dress and used it as a ball gown. Perhaps if more people reused clothes the planet might be in a better place.

OhTheRoses · 11/08/2019 23:30

If it's a morning suit, no problem at all, what do you expect him to do?

If it's a lounge suit, how do you even know it's the one he wore to his wedding. Oh, maybe I get it, he doesn't usually wear a suit, so it's as good as new. In which case, he doesn't need a new one and you can spend the money on a lovely hotel.

Redarina · 11/08/2019 23:33

Definitely weird. It’s not just clothes is it! If me and my husband were divorced , I’d find it really strange for him to wear his wedding suit out with his new bird! Clothes hold memories, the same as a wedding dress or baby clothes. You are not being unreasonable

ParkheadParadise · 11/08/2019 23:33

Maybe2020
You've been with your OH for years,why don't you treat him to a new suit.
Problem solved.

LagunaBubbles · 11/08/2019 23:34

hate to tell you, but he probably used his willy around the time of the wedding too and he can’t get a new one of those off the peg

Grin
Redarina · 11/08/2019 23:34

100%