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To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?

248 replies

Maybe2020 · 11/08/2019 17:13

My partner and I have a cousins wedding to go to in September. He wants to wear the suit he got married in!!
I think it’s weird and told him to get a new one, he says in being stupid and it’s just clothes, doesn’t mean anything.
Aibu?

OP posts:
notacooldad · 11/08/2019 17:20

It was the suit he wore when he married his ex. That’s why I have the problem.
I still think Yab ridiculous.

ParkheadParadise · 11/08/2019 17:21

Wouldn't bother me.

I probably wouldn't notice if DH wore his suit from the wedding.

washyourface · 11/08/2019 17:21

How long have you been together? This screams new-relationship-insecurity to me

Owlypants · 11/08/2019 17:22

It's a suit, it's not like he's planning to wear his ex to the wedding. It's no different from him wearing any item of clothing he owned while with his ex. Nobody throws everything out and buys a whole new wardrobe when they enter a new relationship

IAskTooManyQuestions · 11/08/2019 17:22

It was the suit he wore when he married his ex. That’s why I have the problem.

I think you need a dollop of group-up juice.

TanMateix · 11/08/2019 17:22

Does it have tails and comes with a top hat? If so... YANBU!

squee123 · 11/08/2019 17:22

he's planning on wearing a suit, not his wedding ring that he had with his ex. You're overreacting.

My DH wears his wedding suit to posh work dos. I don't think he'd sacrifically burn it if we broke up. It is a really nice suit.

CloserIAm2Fine · 11/08/2019 17:23

It’s just a suit. No one will remember or care that he wore it to marry his ex.

People don’t destroy all their possessions when they end one relationship and start another!

Loopytiles · 11/08/2019 17:23

YABU unless his suit was in sartorially remarkable, eg fuschia crushed velvet.

namby · 11/08/2019 17:24

That's incredibly insecure and irrational.

adaline · 11/08/2019 17:24

It was the suit he wore when he married his ex. That’s why I have the problem.

Eh? Why do you care? A suit is a suit.

goingdownsouth · 11/08/2019 17:24

YABVU

Why ever not?
Did she curse the suit?
Is it fancy dress?

Ginger1982 · 11/08/2019 17:26

Is it just a normal suit? I don't get the problem. He's with you, not her.

Tojigornot · 11/08/2019 17:26

Are we supposed to buy a whole new wardrobe when we split up with someone?

Chickenwing · 11/08/2019 17:27

I can understand why it would annoy you. What I would do in your situation is offer to buy him a new suit, because it is you who has an issue with it.

Nquartz · 11/08/2019 17:27

Unless it's a top hat & tails YABU

Contraceptionismyfriend · 11/08/2019 17:27

That must have cost a bit of money and look smart. So sorry but YABU.

flouncyfanny · 11/08/2019 17:28

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TellItLikeItReallyIs · 11/08/2019 17:29

You are being ridiculously unreasonable.

Do you think the suit is infested with Ex Wife Fleas or something?

It's just a suit. If someone said that to me (can't wear something because of irrational feelings about an association with an ex), it would make me want to disinvite them and hunt down the ex and invite them instead to make a point! I wouldn't do it, but it would make me want to.

funnylittlefloozie · 11/08/2019 17:29

I have been in your shoes, OP... my DP has worn the (very nice) suit he wore to be married to his ex, while out with me. He was actually more bothered about it than i was. Thing is, mens suits don't have the same emotional baggage that women's clothing does. My exH wore his morning suit to our wedding, and then to several other weddings and race meetings before he got too fat for it but i never wore my wedding dress again.

Teachermaths · 11/08/2019 17:29

What a waste, of course he should wear it.

VenusTiger · 11/08/2019 17:30

My husband (and wedding ‘party’) wore their own suits - all different and rather expensive! My DH and my dad have both worn their suits from mine and DH’s wedding day many, many times.
Waste of money to leave it in the cupboard/grow out of it - it’s bad enough my wedding dress is hung in the loft!

Anyway, it’ll be nice for you to see him in it again at such a joyous occasion surely.

PinkiOcelot · 11/08/2019 17:31

I don’t see the problem tbh OP. Waste of money to go out and buy another one.

Expressedways · 11/08/2019 17:31

Presuming it’s a regular lounge suits that still fits and isn’t an outdated style then YABVU. Why waste money on a new suit if he has a perfectly good one?!

SperanzaWilde · 11/08/2019 17:31

OP, it’s not really the same as you bobbing up to a date in your wedding dress from when you married your ex, complete with veil, garter and bouquet, you know.

The way in which men’s clothes really differ from women’s (other than pockets and better fabric quality) is that a guy usually gets married in exactly the same outfit he wears to court/a job interview/a funeral/a fancy meal/to read the news/an important meeting.