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To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?

248 replies

Maybe2020 · 11/08/2019 17:13

My partner and I have a cousins wedding to go to in September. He wants to wear the suit he got married in!!
I think it’s weird and told him to get a new one, he says in being stupid and it’s just clothes, doesn’t mean anything.
Aibu?

OP posts:
MirrorHope · 11/08/2019 17:56

It's just a suit seriously only recently I went to a wedding where 3 out of the 5 guys on our table were wearing their wedding suits. They looked fab. It would be wasteful and you would forget soon enough.

georgialondon · 11/08/2019 17:56

I think you're the one being weird to be honest.

Alloftit · 11/08/2019 17:56

Ridiculously unreasonable, sorry! Just seems so childish, it’s a suit ffs

BloomingHydrangea · 11/08/2019 17:56

It is just a suit. they need to be worn multiple times. It is very poor form to but new clothes to wear for a wedding, you just select something from your wardrobe

MirandaGoshawk · 11/08/2019 17:57

Hmm, you can't completely wipe out someone' s past, but OTOH you don't need to bring it to the wedding. It obviously bothers you, OP, so take him to get a new one, or get him to hire one. Specify a different colour Grin

ineedaholidaynow · 11/08/2019 17:57

What do you want him to do with the suit if not wear it?

If you were getting married I could understand you wanting him to wear a different suit, but not for someone else's wedding, unless as others have asked, it is a very unusual suit.

MirandaGoshawk · 11/08/2019 17:58

Oh, wait a minute, scrub that - I thought it was YOUR wedding! Yes, YANBU. Sorry.

BloomingHydrangea · 11/08/2019 17:58

Just to check- is it a morning suit and you are going to a casual wedding? Is his top hat black or grey?

MirandaGoshawk · 11/08/2019 17:59

I mean, YABU

DaisyChains6 · 11/08/2019 17:59

Yanbu. One thing to continue wearing tshirts, jeans and jumpers he has had years but quite another to wear (or even keep) the suit his ex wife married him in, most probably said he looked the most gorgeous man in the world in and likely had sex with him wearing some of it or ripping it off of him on their wedding night.

I know that might of happened in any clothing but a wedding suit, like a wedding dress is something else.

If you had worn a simply dress to marry your ex in would it be ok to wear that dress again to an event with him?

NoSauce · 11/08/2019 17:59

I recently went away to a hotel with my husband that I went to on my honeymoon with my exH.

It’s in a beautiful location and the hotel is fabulous although it’s changed a lot since I was there originally. DH wasn’t bothered, he’s got me after all Wink

Catmar · 11/08/2019 18:03

It's just a suit. What's the problem?

notacooldad · 11/08/2019 18:06

If you had worn a simply dress to marry your ex in would it be ok to wear that dress again to an event with him?
Of course it would!
It's a dress!! Seriously!!

Ninkaninus · 11/08/2019 18:07

It’s just a suit and you’re being a bit weird about it. Are you insecure in your relationship, or envious/jealous of her?

If he was wanting to wear it to marry you then I’d think it’d be reasonable to ask him not to wear the same one he married his ex in. But that’s the only circumstance in which I’d be saying that.

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 11/08/2019 18:10

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Badcat666 · 11/08/2019 18:13

Unless the suit is weaved from his Ex's body hair and has her name in glistening jewels on the back, what's the problem?

Its an article of clothing! FFS, get a bloody grip.

To him it's just something he had to wear so he wasn't bollocking naked on the day. It is liable to hold no other value to him apart from "I need a suit! that'll do!"

The average male (or female that I know) doesn't look at an article of clothing and go "ohhhh... remember this shirt? I wore it at that beach party 10 years ago where there was a full moon and it danced upon the waves as we frolicked on the sand".

No, they check it's clean, check it fits and tada! Bingo! I can wear it to the "do".

Penguincity · 11/08/2019 18:13

I've attended 2 weddings with my dp wearing my wedding dress to my exh ( not a white, veil type dress)

Nanny0gg · 11/08/2019 18:14

How old is the suit?

Yabbers · 11/08/2019 18:15

OH got married in a kilt. He wears it to every wedding we go to.

I do wonder why that’s ok, but I couldn’t wear my wedding dress 😄 But, it’s perfectly acceptable, no point in having it lying in a wardrobe unworn.

BossAssBitch · 11/08/2019 18:17

OP, YANBU, my DH hasn’t been married before but honestly, I am the most secure wife, but I wouldn’t like my DH wearing a suit he had worn to marry another woman and he wouldn’t want to wear it either! This place is batshit sometimes, you really aren’t weird or insecure or obscenely jealous or any of the other labels some applied to you, you are just normal.

And whoever said a wedding dress is just a dress. Give over Hmm

Sandybval · 11/08/2019 18:17

Surely it's good he doesn't have a sentimental attachment to it and just sees it as clothes? Men's suits are expensive as well, for the sake of this is it really worth spending a lot of money on a new one?

30to50FeralHogs · 11/08/2019 18:19

FFS the ex but is rather crucial or did you change that to get the responses you want ? Hmm

@SunshineCake it was clear to me from the way the title is worded “the suit HE got married in” not “the suit he wore to OUR wedding” that the OP is talking about an ex. I was surprised that people were presuming it was their wedding in some of the early comments. It clearly wasn’t a drip feed as OP explained in her first update early on that it was a suit worn at his wedding to the ex.

Bluntness100 · 11/08/2019 18:19

I don't understand the issue, do uou think he will be reminiscing over his wedding if he wears it?

Are you a jealous person? Is that it?

CassianAndor · 11/08/2019 18:20

Drip drip drippetty drip

Don’t be a wally. It’s just a suit.

MissConductUS · 11/08/2019 18:21

It's fair bet he shagged his ex at some point. Does he need a new penis?