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To not want oh to wear suit he got married in?

248 replies

Maybe2020 · 11/08/2019 17:13

My partner and I have a cousins wedding to go to in September. He wants to wear the suit he got married in!!
I think it’s weird and told him to get a new one, he says in being stupid and it’s just clothes, doesn’t mean anything.
Aibu?

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AngelasAshes · 11/08/2019 17:32

YABU & really weird tbh. Clothes are clothes. If the suit is appropriate for the wedding (right colour, right level of formality, etc) then he should be fine wearing it. There is no point buying a new suit just for a cousins wedding.

PooWillyBumBum · 11/08/2019 17:33

YABU unless you’re offering to buy him a new one

Cryalot2 · 11/08/2019 17:34

To some men clothes are just things they wear. They just wear items until they need replacing and attach no emotions to them, nor do they bother when they wear them .

flouncyfanny · 11/08/2019 17:35

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BradTomby · 11/08/2019 17:35

It was the suit he wore when he married his ex. That’s why I have the problem.

YAstillBU did you demand he had a whole change of wardrobe when you met him in case his ex had seen him wear it.

NomDeQwerty · 11/08/2019 17:35

Is the ex haunting the suit?
Do you think she'll make him do weird stuff while he's wearing it?

VenusTiger · 11/08/2019 17:35

*scratch the last bit... but I do like my man in a suit, any suit Wink

CruellaFeinberg · 11/08/2019 17:38

its just a suit - nothing like a wedding dress, just a suit

SmellbowSmellbow123 · 11/08/2019 17:38

It’s the one he wore to his first wedding, fine. But YABU because he’s wearing it as a guest to his cousins wedding, not as the groom to your wedding to him!

SunshineCake · 11/08/2019 17:39

FFS the ex but is rather crucial or did you change that to get the responses you want ? Hmm.

kaytee87 · 11/08/2019 17:40

Is it quite dated?

I think you're being very childish tbh.

Sciurus83 · 11/08/2019 17:40

Only weird if it's a top hat and tails

whereisthebloodypostman · 11/08/2019 17:42

Do you think he's going to put on the suit, have flashbacks to his wedding day and realise no! I've made a terrible mistake! And go running back to his ex Confused

AlexaAmbidextra · 11/08/2019 17:45

Perhaps DH is 92 and it’s his demob suit. 😂

Lucked · 11/08/2019 17:45

YABU.

My husband can only dream of still fitting into the suit he got married in, he is not large but he had the physique of a racing snake when we married.

TheRLodger · 11/08/2019 17:46

Suits a suit unless he married his ex in a snazzy blue velvet number yabu
For the record if to the same wedding he wears a watch that his ex brought him because it’s his nicest watch. Still not an issue

category12 · 11/08/2019 17:46

It would be worrying if the suit was so special and meaningful to him that he couldn't wear it.

You're ascribing meaning that isn't there.

Unless you are with him, but always second best to his ex-wife in some way and that's why you're so het-up about it, in which case you have a far bigger problem.

StCharlotte · 11/08/2019 17:47

It's not from 1977 is it? My brother's wedding suit from 1977 is bloody hilarious.

mumwon · 11/08/2019 17:48

actually if he wearing it under these circumstances its become everyday rather than special - which means it has NO SIGNIFICANCE to him - make sure he has bright coloured shirt so it looks different - what colour is suit?

Mummyoflittledragon · 11/08/2019 17:50

I have an emotional attachment to clothes. I think it would bother me somewhat too. People telling you to grow up are missing the point. Sometimes people have reactions different from the majority. That doesn’t make them immature. Presumably he bought it specifically for his wedding even if he’s worn it since. Therefore it does have a significance. Had it been a suit he’d worn to another wedding whilst still with his ex, that would be entirely different.

wineandroses1 · 11/08/2019 17:51

I paid for my younger brother's wedding suit as I worked for a well-known designer in Paris at the time and thought it would be a lovely gift for him to have a made-to-measure suit. It was beautiful and he looked fabulous. It still fits him and it still looks great (not dated at all). But he's not allowed to wear it because his 2nd wife says so. Such a shame to have it hanging in a wardrobe, never to be worn Sad.

plunkplunkfizz · 11/08/2019 17:53

I hate to tell you, but he probably used his willy around the time of the wedding too and he can’t get a new one of those off the peg.

RingtheBells · 11/08/2019 17:54

Maybe the suit should go to the charity shop if he is not able to wear it as it will be taking up wardrobe space, why has he still got it if he can't wear it

flouncyfanny · 11/08/2019 17:54

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itbemay1 · 11/08/2019 17:56

YABU! It's just a suit, if it fits he should wear it. As PP have said it's wasteful not to.