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Would you find it awkward - bride singing to groom at wedding

304 replies

ShutUpandSing · 08/08/2019 19:30

I'm not sure whether to do this at my upcoming wedding or not.

Not in any way a stealth brag but I think relevant... I can sing (well I think!) and did vocal studies at university.

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Be honest, what would think to this?

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howdyalikemenow · 08/08/2019 19:31

I did it! Didn't give a toss what anyone else thought!

Bloodycats · 08/08/2019 19:32

I hate stuff like this and it would really make me cringe.
It’s your wedding though, it’s about what you would like to do. Do you think your fiancé would like it?

HollowTalk · 08/08/2019 19:32

I'd be mortified, to be honest!

Aposterhasnoname · 08/08/2019 19:32

Honest answer. It depends on the circumstances. Half way through the ceremony, cringe, during the reception, fine.

ElphabaTheGreen · 08/08/2019 19:33

I’ve been to a few of bride-singing-to-groom at weddings.

All were fantastic singers, all professional performers.

All were cringey and naff, sorry. Leave the singing to someone else!

Pyjamaface · 08/08/2019 19:34

Its not something I would enjoy watching but it's not my wedding.

If you want to do it, if it means something to you and your husband, then crack on and did what anyone else thinks.

PivotPivotPivottt · 08/08/2019 19:34

There's a video on YouTube of a bride singing Cascada to her groom and it makes me cry everytime I watch itBlush

Winegumaddict · 08/08/2019 19:34

I'd cringe so hard I'd probably turn inside out. Sorry. However it's not about us if you want to go for it.

ConkerGame · 08/08/2019 19:34

I’ve been to a wedding where the bride and groom sang to each other and it was lovely. He’s a professional musician though so had no nerves! She’s not but still did really well and everyone thought it was very sweet. They did it after the dinner when people were quite drunk and willing to buy into it all!

apostropheuse · 08/08/2019 19:34

I would find it very cringy.

lazylinguist · 08/08/2019 19:35

(regardless of the quality of the singing) - sorry!

UrsulaPandress · 08/08/2019 19:35

I would be cringing I’m afraid.

I havea friend who is a fabulous singer who often performs at friend’s weddings and a recent funeral but she didn’t sing at her own wedding.

At the reception would be ok, but not ‘to’ the groom.

Wafflecopter · 08/08/2019 19:35

Do what you want, it’s your wedding!

However I imagine you’ll get some raised eyebrows, shocked glances exchanged and sniggers amongst guests watching.

NuggieThief · 08/08/2019 19:35

I’d cringe into next week, sorry OP

DisplayPurposesOnly · 08/08/2019 19:36

Sorry, I'm in the 'hate it' seats.

If it were just you singing (well) a nice relevant song (not specifically to the groom) AND you can carry it off, I could probably cope with that.

SummerHouse · 08/08/2019 19:36

I think it's sweet and could be show stopping. I saw two bridesmaids sing and I was honestly crying. It's the most beautiful thing I ever heard. I also know a groom who played piano. Also brilliant. Who cares if anyone thinks it's naff. Stuff them.

PolkaDotted · 08/08/2019 19:36

I'd cringe so hard and decide that I needed to go to the loo immediately.

Ponoka7 · 08/08/2019 19:36

It's cringe worthy.

Does the song have real significance to you both?

Tbh, a few hours later, at the evening reception, when everyone has had a drink, it would be sweet.

SaraNade · 08/08/2019 19:36

To each their own, I think is rather gimmicky and tacky though.

CoolWivesClub2019 · 08/08/2019 19:37

I’m cringing just at the thread title op.

Most people would be crawling up their own arse if faced with this in reality 🙈

WhyBirdStop · 08/08/2019 19:38

Oh god this would be my living hell, if I'd had a few drinks I'd find it very hard to keep a straight face

cavycavy · 08/08/2019 19:38

I wouldn’t purely because I’d want to enjoy my wedding and not have the whole day feeling nervous waiting to do a song and then the rest of the day wondering if I’d messed it up or made everyone feel a bit weird.

It’s too much of a gamble.

If you really want to, record your song and play it in the background at some point in the wedding maybe?

.... no even that is making me cringe.

Don’t do it.

MyKingdomForACaramel · 08/08/2019 19:38

Sorry am in the cringe brigade as well. There’s just something about it that makes me curdle. Oddly if you just stood up and sang a song to the room at large - fine... it’s that “face making” thing and staring into they eyes That makes me so uncomfortable I think.

IamtheOA · 08/08/2019 19:38

Maybe karaoke style later in the evening?

DisplayPurposesOnly · 08/08/2019 19:38

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Also, this suggests your wedding day is not the best time to try this out for the first time. Try a less formal, less pressured occasion. How about your parents' anniversary?