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Would you find it awkward - bride singing to groom at wedding

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ShutUpandSing · 08/08/2019 19:30

I'm not sure whether to do this at my upcoming wedding or not.

Not in any way a stealth brag but I think relevant... I can sing (well I think!) and did vocal studies at university.

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Be honest, what would think to this?

OP posts:
RezCowgirl · 08/08/2019 20:04

I'd be heading out for a cig at this point i don't even smoke

GreatWallOfVagina · 08/08/2019 20:05

In all honesty? No matter how well you can sing, I would find it so uncomfortable and cringe if I saw it happen.

However, screw me, it's YOUR wedding and you should do what you would like to do that would make it your perfect day. You know your guests, and they're all there to celebrate your love so do as you wish and make the most of it.

Best wishes!

Jamhandprints · 08/08/2019 20:05

Lovely if you are a good singer. Cringey if you're not.

Chanteuse · 08/08/2019 20:06

I'm a professional singer and people always ask me if I'll sing at my wedding.

The answer is always a big fat resounding no 😂 I do love singing at other people's weddings though.

VenusTiger · 08/08/2019 20:06

Depends how confident your DH to be is? He might hate it?

StripeySocks29 · 08/08/2019 20:07

Quite cringy and do you really want this playing on your mind on your wedding day? Even if you were a confident performer I think it would be a bit awkward. Unless you’re an American, it seems like a very American thing to do.

GabsAlot · 08/08/2019 20:08

Can you do as above maybe pre record something then have it on as you walk down the aisle or something

I went to a wedding where i think it was a friend got up and sang she was completely off key and most of us were laughing all day poor woman

RosaWaiting · 08/08/2019 20:09

Even if you’re my favourite singer, no!

carly2803 · 08/08/2019 20:09

sorry but no. its cringey!!!

Jamhandprints · 08/08/2019 20:09

Also depends on the song. Nothing about sex! "I'll make love to you, like you want me to..."Blush Nothing too schmaltzy "you are the wind beneath my wings" Envy no raps Grin but something genuine and heartfelt would be fine with me.

MyDcAreMarvel · 08/08/2019 20:10

I would be looking for a bucket to throw up in, honestly it’s seagulls.

SunshineCake · 08/08/2019 20:10

A relative after the marriage sang to her groom in the actual church. I thought it was lovely but was embarrassed when I was the only one giving her a standing ovation. It was unexpected and a little cringey at first.

Aquamarine1029 · 08/08/2019 20:12

Even if you're Adele, a huge no. All of your guests will die from the cringe.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 08/08/2019 20:13

I would find it awkward. But then I find a lot of things awkward and it isn't my wedding so do what makes you happy. Although from your OP it sounds like it might stress you out?

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/08/2019 20:14

Don't listen to the haters

There's no hate. Just honest opinions. I'd cringe too. And I know a few proper musicians. In the charts years ago. Even if they did it. Nope.

Screamqueenz · 08/08/2019 20:14

I thin' it's a lovely idea

nespressowoo · 08/08/2019 20:14

Cheesy AF

MrsFionaCharming · 08/08/2019 20:14

I saw a bride do this at a wedding, turned to roll my eyes at DP and he was crying! He genuinely thought it was lovely!

SadOtter · 08/08/2019 20:15

Ask DP what they think, my ex is a very talented singer/songwriter and as much as I loved watching him perform I absolutely hated him singing specifically to me in front of people, like even dedicating a song at a gig made me feel really awkward but the whole lovingly looking at me while singing to me was horrible.

At the reception I think it would be fine if he is happy with it but not in the ceremony.

donquixotedelamancha · 08/08/2019 20:15

No matter how well you can sing, I would find it so uncomfortable and cringe if I saw it happen.

Yep, mee too; I can't stand forced fun either- but why would you let a miserable bastard like me plan your wedding? People will remember it, people will be amused, it won't be the same as every bugger else. If you want to do it, do it.

Bwekfusth · 08/08/2019 20:16

If you have a genuinely good voice, yes. If you can only just about hold a tune (like me) please don't.

WelcomeToShootingStars · 08/08/2019 20:19

I find stuff like that awfully cringe and would probably be making my excuses to leave around about when something like that happened.

Belenus · 08/08/2019 20:21

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

I think in that case you'll find the whole thing stressful enough, without adding in a singing performance. I know some professional musicians and I don't think they'd do it. Potentially it's just too intimate.

MirzyMoo · 08/08/2019 20:24

If it means a lot to your future husband and its sentimental to you both then i think it would be a beautiful thing to do.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 08/08/2019 20:27

If it means a lot to your future husband and its sentimental to you both then i think it would be a beautiful thing to do.

This. I'd cringe a bit because I have anxiety of my own but that's my problem. If it'll mean a lot to you and your fiancé, it's your day.

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