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Would you find it awkward - bride singing to groom at wedding

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ShutUpandSing · 08/08/2019 19:30

I'm not sure whether to do this at my upcoming wedding or not.

Not in any way a stealth brag but I think relevant... I can sing (well I think!) and did vocal studies at university.

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Be honest, what would think to this?

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 09/08/2019 16:12

I had a boyfriend in school who tried to sing to me and it was like...the worst few minutes of my life so far I think

So did I, nights in white satin whilst he played his guitar. I didn't know where to look, I literally dumped him thr day after. It still makes me cringe three decades later at rhe memory of him singing " and I love you" in ever higher notes,

Honestly cringing right now just remembering it,

Glitterfisher · 09/08/2019 16:16

@Divebar I have just watched the Fiddler on the roof song at the wedding. It actually made me tear up, it is literally my dream wedding surprise. How amazing. His wife is beautiful and she looks so happy.

HeadintheiClouds · 09/08/2019 16:18

Oh, you heartbreaker, Bluntness, poor little bugger!

ChihuahuaMummy1 · 09/08/2019 16:19

If you had karaoke as part of the reception and got up and did it then maybe but not stood up at the top table.Cringe!

Pinkout · 09/08/2019 16:23

I’d cringe, sorry.

Thisandthat1248 · 09/08/2019 16:26

This happened at a wedding i went to but she couldn't sing and every single guest looked like they wanted the floor to swallow them up. It also went on for 4 minutes not like a minute of a song or anything. Deffo didn't ruin the day but it is what I remember most, may be different if she could sing!!

Cookit · 09/08/2019 16:35

Do you all 'cringe' at the 'first dance

When it’s a rehearsed, choreographed dance YES. An old school friend had the worst first dance ever .. it ended with her running across the dance floor and jumping into his arms and him spinning her around. The video was circulating for about a year on WhatsApp. Life is not Strictly Come Dancing.

HeresMe · 09/08/2019 16:41

It's cringeworth don't do it.

It's like you see these videos where the groomsmen or bride and bridesmaids do this choregraphed dance routine and people are commenting how bpgreat it is, it isnt it's embarrassing very show offy and just kinda crap.

MrsGrindah · 09/08/2019 18:56

Bluntness Yup...except mine was Endless Love by Lionel Richie and Diana Ross. To this day if it comes on the radio I have to switch it off.

BoneyBackJefferson · 09/08/2019 19:13

depends on the back story

Divebar · 09/08/2019 21:17

@Glitterfisher

I know it’s so fun and she was obviously not expecting it at all. I think this thread wins the award for the most use of the word cringe. I’d much rather go to a fun wedding where the bride sang a hokey song than some ridiculous overdone trying to be posh event with a bloody string quartet. People are just professionally cynical nowadays

Glitterfisher · 09/08/2019 21:21

Totally agree, have a bit of fun with it and it's not 'cringe'.

I would live my love as a musical if I could Grin

PuppyMonkey · 09/08/2019 21:29

“ best one I have seen was a groom in musicals with a wife called Amelia, who did a randy version of "I want to be in America" from West Side Story complete with groomsmen and a fan dance sequence, changing America to Amelia!”

The thought of seeing this in RL will haunt me forever.GrinSad

Bluntness100 · 09/08/2019 22:22

Mrsgridah...endless love. I can actually picture that. 😂

PolkaDotted · 09/08/2019 22:25

I’d much rather go to a fun wedding where the bride sang a hokey song than some ridiculous overdone trying to be posh event with a bloody string

It doesn't have to be one extreme or the other, you know.

Bellasblankexpression · 09/08/2019 22:28

I would cringe watching it I think.
And I would never do it because I think DH would hate it and not know what to do with himself.
Oh and I can’t sing Grin

But if it’s meaningful to you go for it. Just be aware that you’re never going to please everyone some people will love it, some will be mortified.

MistyMinge2 · 09/08/2019 22:33

Sorry I'm with the majority, I'd be cringing massively. I'd probably get an attack of the giggles even if you were a great singer.

A friend did a very rehearsed ott first dance. I had to dig my finger nails into my palms to try and stop myself bursting into cringey embarrassed laughter

Bellasblankexpression · 09/08/2019 22:34

Sorry op missed your update!
I was just thinking though could it be done in the reception later on where it’s a bit more relaxed? I think that would be more fun and not cringe

Glitterfisher · 10/08/2019 01:54

Obv I mean 'live my life as a musical' Grin

Bluntness100 · 10/08/2019 07:57

It's one of those things though isn't it. Even if Barbara Streisand decides to serenade james brolin at their wedding, most people would still have cringed.

I think it's the show off/cheesy factor that does it.

As said though, if you've a band and join them for a song, and sing one, something fun and upbeat, say like mustang sally. That's not remotely cringey and pretty much the only way it works.

LEELULUMPKIN · 10/08/2019 08:24

This would be my cue for loo break, although my buttocks would be so clenched it would probably be a wasted journey.

Having said that, it is your wedding, however be prepared for the room to empty pretty sharpish. Except for any elderly relatives who had forgotten to change their hearing aid batteries beforehand.

GetUpAgain · 10/08/2019 08:31

Go the whole hog - dress up as Dustin and whatshername from Stranger Things and sing never ending story.

Ilovemypantry · 10/08/2019 10:46

timshelthechoice
No, I wouldn’t say it about any other country, that’s my point. Everything in America is bigger, flashier, more OTT than anywhere else. Sorry if you think that’s snarky and shitty, but that’s just my opinion.

Ilovemypantry · 10/08/2019 10:53

@timshelthechoice
Would also like to add that most of the videos PP have put up are American!

MrTumbleTumble · 10/08/2019 11:01

I went to a (same sex) wedding where during the ceremony one of the brides played the guitar and sang. It was well placed, and fit into the ceremony the same way a different performance/reading etc would have been done - not her standing there gazing into the eyes of her almost-wife IYSWIM.

It was absolutely beautiful, and everyone there was in tears.

It's your wedding, who cares if other people think it's cheesy?!