Would you find it awkward - bride singing to groom at wedding

[ShutUpandSing]

I'm not sure whether to do this at my upcoming wedding or not.

Not in any way a stealth brag but I think relevant... I can sing (well I think!) and did vocal studies at university.

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Be honest, what would think to this?

I think its cringey. But most important thing is asking yourself would your new DH like it? If he wouldn't then you're really only doing it for yourself and he will be cringed out and on the spot.

I’d not be able to watch but I’d just discreetly remove myself - if it’s something you want to do just do it.

Sorry, I too would cringe myself to death

your wedding your choice but must admit i'd cringe and if anyone started clapping along with it i'd probably wet myself laughing, sorry, i'm a bitch i know

Depends on the song. If you’re going to kneel at his feet and croon, them no. But a friend did a jazz number and it was fab!

Honestly OP yes I would be cringing a lot!

It'd be hideously embarrassing for everyone.

sounds cringe and awkward for the guests but if you want to do it go for it, its your wedding!

I think it depends how it is done and what you sing. I know a lady with a seriously beautiful voice who sang herself up the aisle but people pay to hear her sing and she sang a classical piece and wasnt singing to him as such. Others Ive seen singing at their partners, looking in theirs etc I do find cringey. However, it is your day and if you want to and wont clam up on the day then do it!

Oh god yeah I’d be mortified

But something worth thinking about- my friends relative is an actual pop star and sung at her wedding and it was awful- lots of venues have very poor quality sound, not forgetting your won’t have the right equipment (although this does depend rather whether you want to do a whole number with a band or just sing a few verses into the speeches microphone)

Please don't.

Well I always disappear during the first dance as I find that cringey enough to watch so I would probably have to get a taxi home if the bride sang.

Noooo, as a pp said, I'd rather watch the first shag live.

What are you planning on singing?

Okay that's a firm no then 😂😂😂

When I say 'to' the groom I don't mean like literally to him. I just meant like a song at the reception that's 'ours'. Not like sit him on a chair and sing to him 😂

But yes okay agreed, I won't entertain it!

Well I’m normally a miserable sod about on weddings (there was only 2 people at mine!) but I think it’s a lovely idea.

Bollocks to what other people think OP, if you want to do it then go for it!

God no it's very David Brent

Good for you ShutUpandSing - everyone will have dodged a bullet.

I would think it cringe’y but I also think you should do what you want. I would admire you for having the balls to do it. A group sing song might be more fun.

Even if a lot of people find it a bit OTT it doesn’t matter. It’s not doing any harm.

I don’t like speeches either.

I'll always remember the wedding when a dad played the guitar and sang to his daugter, the bride. It was awful and cringy. And lasted ages with over a 100 people shifting awkwardly in their seats.

God, no . Why would you need an audience for this? I’d use the time to go for a loo break if I was a guest, to be perfectly honest. No matter how rude you might find that.

We went to a family wedding where the Bride did this. She'd recorded a song on her hen weekend, and they played it at the reception disco. It was so so so awful beyond words, and as for the mates that egged her on to do it...... shame on them.

The poor groom had to dance to it and then say thanks.................. His Mum's face was the highlight of the day to be honest.

I like the suggestion up thread to maybe get a group of your friends around you and do late on when everyone swept up in all the love and alcohol. Even this seems a bit rose tinted glasses mind you..... probably takes more than one take in the movies so to speak.
But if you think you can get your voice into shape with lots of practice before the day, and take time out to warm your vocals and over come your nerves on a most nerve racking of days then it could be the best most memorable 4 minutes of your newly married life together. Or the worst.

I honestly find all big weddings a nightmare show of self indulgence.....the bride or groom singing takes it to an entirely new cringe level.

However I’m unsociable and hate parties of any description. I’m with Karl Pilkington in that they seem like “forced fun”.

Thankfully I’m of an age now that my parents can’t drag me to stuff. Last wedding I was at was years ago. I hate them do much I didn’t have one myself - just did the paperwork privately.

So I took a wedding where the bride wanted to do this. She recorded herself singing the song beforehand and then we played it in the church as she walked down the aisle. It was absolutely beautiful, very personal and really moving. And not the tiniest bit embarrassing. So that's my top tip!